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There is a Reason You Are Empathic

Updated on September 21, 2009
photo taken by Claris Bartlett.
photo taken by Claris Bartlett.

Do You Feel Cursed by the Gift of Empathy?

Being empathic can often times feel like a curse in our stages of development. We constantly absorb energies and emotions from others around us, which can be totally exhausting in a day, especially on those days in which we may find ourselves surrounded by negativity.

I have often been asked how to turn off this ability. What I can tell you is this, you cannot turn it off. You have it for an important reason. You can try to block, but blocking only causes negativity within us, which manifests in physical illness. It is best to learn to work with it, and use it.

I, too, once felt cursed by this blessed gift. I now see it for what it truly is. It is a beautiful gift and a beautiful responsibility.

If you are struggling with the gift of empathy, then your thinking needs to be turned completely around in order for you to understand, detatch, and use this extraordinary gift, and opportunity you have been given in life.

Many people spend years wondering why their feellings and emotions are all over the charts before they come to fully realize they are absorbing emotion from others. Still, there are those who seem to be in tune with this gift early in life through natural meditation, or perhaps a bit later in life when they add a meditation routine to their day, and start on the road to spiritual development. Whatever the case, this can be one of the hardest spiritual gifts to come to terms with and ultimately learn to use for positive good.

In order to detatch from emotion, you must become one with it. Become very observant of your emotions and changes. When you know emotion did not come from you, then set to identify where it came from. Accept it as just emotion. Acknowledge it, and release it.

It is important that you surround yourself in the positive. It may not be possible to completely remove ourselves from anything negative, but we can control which environments and people we allow ourselves to spend the most time in and around.

Know That You Are Here to Serve

Although many empaths may be aware that we absorb emotions and energies constantly, the one aspect of the gift that seems to come with later understanding, is, we also have the ability to project emotions and energies.

Other gifts that come along with being empathic are a part of us, for two important reasons. One being that we need a way to release those emotions and energies that we take in constantly, and two, it gives us a way in order to project emotion and energy, which helps massive amounts of people throughout the world, and helps raise the vibration levels of our world when used positively.

Whenever one is empathic, they will have one or more creative gifts that go along with the gift of empathy such as writing, art, music, a highly scientific mind, or other creative talents. You may also find them in fields where they motivate mass amount of people such as in motivational speaking, as well as teaching mass audiences.

What goes in, comes out. Be very aware of what you allow to become part of your energy field. Also remember, it is from within that we create our lives around us. Don't ignore emotion of your own that needs to be examined, healed, and released.

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      Teresa 20 months ago

      I knew that there was something different about me. Why did I feel every everyone's pain as if it was my own? I have suffered from depression because of these feelings, I didn't know what was wrong with me. It's taken a long time for me to finally accept that I have a "gift". I have tried to run away from it but it just doesn't go away. I now try to embrace it but am still quite a newbie , can you recommend some reading material or articles that would help me get a handle on this. Thank you.

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      Madeline 20 months ago

      Thank you so much for writing this article. About 2 years ago I realized that some of the emotions I was feeling were not my own. It explained so much in my life. I had never heard anything like this before but I started calling it the gift of empathy because it was the closest thing I find to describe this gift. Ramdomly, I decided to search if anyone else experienced this. Its so good to know that there is someone else who knows this gift. I now have hope to finally get some answers to my biggest question: what do I do with the emotions I recieve?

      Again, I really can't say thank you enough!

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      Tab 2 years ago

      Hello, I appreciate this article and also the suggestive read. I am struggling with this and have a hard time explaining this to people. I just stopped trying. I always have felt everything so intensly and some people "vibe me" much more than others, whether its good or bad. Its written off as an emotional issue(which I agree, mildly) but not all of these emotions are my fault. I hope I learn to find peace. I have become a hermit because of this, and avoid mos people all together. I hope someone is still out there, following this thread.

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      Cathy Hague 3 years ago from Terrace

      Lovely and thoughtful article. As an empath, a few months back I discovered a book, actually a couple now, that have been absolutely life changing for me. To date, it is the only system I have found that teaches empath skills, and I can tell you they work. Life. Changing.

      If you have not heard of yet, or read the book The Empowered Empath by Rose Rosetree, you need this!

      To all my fellow empaths, life as a skilled empath is infinitely better than unskilled. Blessings on all!

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      Cathy Hague 3 years ago from Terrace

      Lovely and thoughtful article. As an empath, a few months back I discovered a book, actually a couple now, that have been absolutely life changing for me. To date, it is the only system I have found that teaches empath skills, and I can tell you they work. Life. Changing.

      If you have not heard of yet, or read the book The Empowered Empath by Rose Rosetree, you need this!

      To all my fellow empaths, life as a skilled empath is infinitely better than unskilled. Blessings on all!

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      Cathy Martinez 3 years ago

      I got a question: What kinda traits is an empath born with that give's them this gift?

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      Dawn 4 years ago

      I have had this gift since I was eleven years old and I thought it was a curse too. But when, my pastor started teaching on spiritual gifts I asked him, "is empathy a spiritual gift??". He said, yes it is, why do you ask?? I said I have been struggling with it, and Discerning of Spirits.

      He said, don't be fearful consider it a blessing because you can see if something is of God or not or can see into the Spiritual realm that no one else can, when you see things like that you need to be very alert and aware of the enemy's traps and lies he will try to pull on you.

      1 Peter 5:8

      Be sober and aware the enemy comes prowling around like a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour.

      God Bless!!

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      4 years ago

      I did not realize my empathy was a gift, thought it was a curse, but its not. How I use it is up to me. Once you totally understand that it is a gift and recognize you do absorb (know) what others feel you can use it for positive. Also learn to stay away from truly negative people its been enlightening. I have been able to help others and it is a gift.

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      Candice 4 years ago

      I too am an empath... so is my grandmother; she would speak of her "gift" as a curse when I was a child and I honestly thought she was nuts at the time. I didn't genuinely accept Christ into my life until a few years ago (after I literally died/was dead for eight minutes, among other things...), and that's when it started happening to me, too. I find it so overwhelming at times, that it actually makes me sick, like bricks are sitting on my chest, weighing my heart (and head) down. Lately it has been getting stronger and stronger and you are right, it cannot be turned off. It started out as me being able to feel what others were feeling (pain, suffering, happiness, sadness, wanting drugs or sex, you name it) but then began to transpire into me actually being able to read peoples "thoughts" in a sense -through- their feelings, like telepathy of the heart or something. I can also project it, too, but that started before what I mentioned in the previous sentence. I too find myself quite isolated and untrusting of others... I pray about it, hoping to figure out what God wishes me to use this gift for, though I know I'll never figure it out by keeping to myself all the time so I am trying to do better/be more social... I used to be a highly active public speaker & spoke at drug rehabs, helped guide the lost, etc, but then was witness to a -very- horrible thing a so-called "Christian friend" did to his daughter and that's when I began hiding again...

      Anyhow, thank you for this article as it does indeed describe exactly what I've been experiencing. While it does feel like a curse sometimes, it comes from God and thus I know it is a good thing, I can only suppose it won't start feeling good until I start trying to use it for good and for Him again.

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      Khisharna Hajnal 4 years ago

      I am a 18 year old empath who can also help and contact the people who are not living among us and I am able to see my spirit guide with me everyday.

      This Article helped me so much on understanding one of my abilities.

      I don't think of it as a curse, I think of it as a gift. I was given the gift to help people.

      Thank you for helping me understand a bit more about this.

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      Kim 5 years ago

      I was diagnosed as panic/anxiety disorder, I'm agoraphobic I'm terrified of big crowds and don't like a lot of company. I'm very good with dealing with and understanding people's problems and helping them through it most say I should have been a therapist. I always accepted what drs told me and took medication that never worked, I stumbled upon a page on empathes and realized I had a lot of those traits. After reading this page I'm more than sure that I don't have a disorder I have a gift!! It explains a lot but a lot of emotions I feel from people actually makes me physically ill. I have always been able to read when some one was lying or if they were just down right malicious. I hate funerals to over whelming makes me cry for days even if I just drive by at time it's going on. I always wondered why someone so many people didn't like or get along with i could relate and understand what they were feeling. I almost felt like i could talk people into anything....I felt like a con artist or something terrible. the lord keeps me going and im glad he led me to this site cause i was truly at the end of my rope i wanted to just be me, i understand i cant block this but now i know i can use it in gods favor and do what hes always wanted me people and reach out to them and that gives this a whole new out look thanks so much for this site. Sorry for writing so much I honestly needed for someone to finally hear what I feel on a daily basis and understand me.

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      CharmedAgain0001 6 years ago

      hi my name is Jennifer. I'm currently dealing with feeling people's thoughts, and emotions myself. I've been right about earthquakes happening before they do, and I think I had an outer body experience when the mennisoda tornado hit at midnight cause it felt like I was actually there. I actually heard the tornado sirens. Right now tho I'm currently dealing with feeling an interest's energy that might be my future love but now we're just friends.

      Anyone that could help me with that please send me a message. Thanks.

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      Steve 6 years ago

      hi im steve im 19 from the gold coast from yrs of dreams coming tru nd reading thoughts of thos around me, i got a spiritual reading nd i found i am a dormant psycic can someone help me fulfill my powers

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      Packlife 7 years ago

      I just need some advice from others who know a lot about this as this takes over my life, gives me headaches and causes me to not to trust very many people as know one is ever honest with you and believe me eve if its not face to face i can tell if they are lying to me! :( I would like to understand how to use this as a gift as at the moment i wish i didn't have it! Im ungrounded, un-trusting, but still loving, giving, and can never say no to the huge amount of people always wanting my help! I like to help people but the only living thing that really seems to understand and feel for me is animals. I have a lot of people say it is amazing how animals are with me as they show behaviours that they dont normally show infront of their owners?? Probably why i work with animals. I just want to be able to use my abilities to help those who want help, or people that are close to me but i feel the urge strongly to help everyone and im also to!!! Forgiving!!

      Would just like to have some control :(


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      Chris 7 years ago

      Hi good knowledge. I believe I'm an empath. I'm 36, up until I was 29 I was a drug addict and from 15 to 29 I was homeless and often in court for convictions relating to feed my drug habit. My brother died which shattered my world then my dad hung himself. At 30 after coming out of prison I was still alive so I thought it my last chance to live an honest life. I went to college studying social care and have been supporting peoplewith different disabilities ever since. Iv nothing but compassion and empathy for anyone vulnerable. I find my gift a curse as I am very I intuitive and feel most peoples emotions. I believe my gift of empathy is gods holy spirit. My email is Please email me if you understand me I want to meet people i can relate to. Thanks godless chris

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      Jaded Phoenix 7 years ago

      I was always was the sensitiv child growing up. I never understood til I hit my late teens what was really going on. Now I sense others emotions and thoughts imediately after meeting them. I live very isolated in a sense. I keep very few friends whom I see very seldom. I keep better relationships online, since it is easier to not ease drop so much. That isn't to say that I don't still pick up on people through emails.

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      Carol King 7 years ago

      Great information Beth. I have a request, could you perhaps offer some tips on how to project our emotions. I have read many articles on how to block the energies of others but I have yet to come across one that deals with projecting. Thanks in advance.

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      Beth Layne 8 years ago from Huntsville, Alabama

      Thank you so much Sue, and Dr. Marie for your wonderful comments. It's very nice to meet you both!

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      Dr. Marie 8 years ago

      Really good article! Empath here! Also psychic. Also medium! So nice not to be alone!

      Many Blessings,


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      Sioux Ramos 8 years ago from South Carolina


      Just came to this hub...A gift I have tried to drown in alcohol, obscure by being busy...A gift none the less. Ignorance is not bliss as they say and denial has never stopped the tide from coming in or the moon from rising.

      Knowledge is indeed power and as you share this knowledge you share empowerment with all of us, for this I thank you. Knowledge is however, a double edged sword and gratefully you have covered both sides in this article.

      The keys are learning to recognize and identify which e-motion is ours and what is well as embracing and cultivating ours so we radiate our inner light which can dissolve the things we do not want to experience even as we are aware of their existence and sources, uniting and expanding with other sources of light and love. It then becomes expansive and wonderful versus being diminshing absorbing and terrifying.

      Thanks again for this great article, may it be an inspiration to others to embrace and appreciate the gifts within...I appreciate the light and love you radiate here!!! Sue

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      Beth Layne 8 years ago from Huntsville, Alabama

      I used to think so to, but it is actually a blessing and an honor. Once one realizes its "use", and learns to "channel" it properly, the blessings are abundant.

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      ally 8 years ago

      being an empath is a curse