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There's Someone for Everyone, Right?!

Updated on January 26, 2014

By: Toni Tucker


Someone for Everyone!


God's Timing

Birds do it, bees do it ...Even educated fleas do it ...Let's do it,
let's fall in love. That's the story of, that's the glory of love.

As Singles...

We see little people fall in love, marry and have children. Blind people, handicapped people, and even Siamese twins manage to get married! Just how they do it, I don't know. They must close their eyes to their attached sister or brother and they do the same for them. Strange, but, it's happened many times in history with permanently attached siblings.

Dogs fall in love, cats too, even Gold fish flirt and play with each other in their playful water-filled aquariums!

And sometimes it just hits home harder when you muster up the strength to say, "If God is going to bring my mate, let him do it in his time, no matter how long I have to wait!" So, you get dressed, go out to a movie or dinner, or somewhere to have fun, the beach, a park, a walk in the dark...And all you see, are couples. Cute families with 2.5 children and a dog, no, two dogs licking each others faces, barking in love while wagging their tails...

Lord, I feel a country song coming on!

If this doesn't make you laugh, then, I don't know what will. As the late Michael Jackson once sang, "You are not alone." You might be alone physically, however there are multitudes of singles, Sane, Saved, educated, working, Christian singles, just like you out there.

If God can give these people someone, and I am normal, at least I hope and think I am, then, what's the hold up? What's wrong with me? Why am I 40 plus, never been married, childless, beautiful, smart, fun loving, and still single, alone, all by myself. Don't want to be, all by my self, ANYMORE! Can you just hear Celine Dion walling that long note while you're somewhere shopping or eating in the mall court all - alone! Don't cry, it'll get better...And for me, my birthday just has to fall right after Valentine's Day. Every year, year after year...Where's the Kleenex!

Some people might be called to singleness. They may not desire to be married or to have sex. I think that is a really special calling. And, I don't have it! Although, I have been living the life of purity, I desire to be a wife and have a husband and a child.

In a world that says, "you are an adult, you can do whatever you want to." It can be challenging for many singles who might not be strong when it comes to things of the flesh to hold on and hold out, till their change comes.

Our socieity says, if you decide to have sex outside of marriage, and it's consensual, it's okay. Besides, look at "The Bachelor" and "The Bachelorette."

In the prospective husband or wife's quest to find true-love on the Bachelor, their journey expects them to have the option to sleep with their future final 3 or 4.

The worlds standards go against the grain of what the Holy Bible teaches us as single Christians who are trusting in God and following the Holy Spirit for our future Husbands or Brides. The Holy Spirit will lead us to him or her, no matter how long it takes. And believe me you, in my life its been a long time fo sho'! But, I am yet, leaning on the Holy Spirit. Learning my lessons in character, being yet, challenged by Satan when I take a stand for him! Be it, at the work place, in social surroundings, and in public places.

Crossing our T's and doting our I's all the time around dogs that bark and snakes that hiss can be a real character builder! You know, once you confess Jesus as your Lord and Savior to the unsaved, some will get jealous of your declared relationship with Christ, and make it their mission to try and trip you up!

Beware, they will watch you and listen to everything you do and say, and if there's a chink in your armour, you will most definitely hear about it from them! They want to call you a hypocrite at the drop of a hat! But, their actions are justifiable in their own minds. Don't be discouraged by finger pointers, because their thumbs are pointing right back at them! And the Holy Spirit will convict them of their unGodly actions. Let the Holy Spirit do the convicting, not you!

Don't get in the flesh. If you have, you may have lost the battle, but not the war! He who wins souls is wise.

God has your back, and no weapon that is formed against you shall prosper or succeed!

As a single, you might have declared to yourself, "Well, I'll just get busy for Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus! That'll take my mind off of my aloneness, right?" So you get involved in ministries at your church, you go to regular prayer meetings, and as you are praying for the world and all types of situations and crisis, you look up, and there are three couples in front of you, holding hands and just praying together in love! You wonder, how did I get behind them? Where'd they come from? Why three couples in front of me like it's Date night at prayer meeting? I was trying to get away from my state and focus on Praying for others and to center on Jesus!

You are happy for them, but it is yet, another reminder of your state of solitude. You praise God for these married people and you continue on praying and walking in victory for others.

Then you sit down and a fellow church member who you kinda of associate with at mid-week service sits next to you. You are sisters or brothers in Christ, and then she shares with you that she is now "engaged" with a whopping 3 carat diamond ring on. Yes, you say, congratulations in sincerity, yet, it only intensifies your longing for your mate. Sometimes, you might even wonder, is God toying with me. He knows the desires of my heart, so why is he allowing all of these situations to bombard me and reinforce my emptiness? He loves me right?

My single sister or brother, In the midst of it all, God is saying to you, "don't be bitter, don't be hurt, I am just giving you a "preview" of what is to come into your life in my timing and not yours. I am not playing with your feelings or emotions. The three couples you saw in front of you suddenly, represent my confirmation that love will find you and soon will come your way.

So my Son or daughter, stand still, and continue doing my work, no matter how long, how many decades, I shall bring it to pass! And it will surely be from me and the gates of Hell will not be able to mess with it!"

Hallelujah and thank you Jesus for your word to all the lonely people. That's another song.

In the Meantime…

How can singles embrace and overcome the challenges they face while waiting for marriage? By getting into the word of God and standing on it!

Romans 12:1–2 (New International Version)

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.
Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. A Living Sacrifice holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

1 Corinthians 6:12–20

18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.
19 Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own;
20 you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.

Ephesians 5:3-7
3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. 4 Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. 5 For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.[a] 6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient.
7 Therefore do not be partners with them.

Ephesians 5:15–17

15 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. 18 Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, 19 speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, 20 always giving thanks
to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Waiting can be very difficult. This study examines how God has not abandoned you; rather how he is calling you to listen and learn what he wants to teach you in this season of your life.

Be sure to join me next time for a look at the great couples in the Bible who were "Meant to Be."

That's the Story of Love


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    • Heavensgates profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago

      I have to add an addendum to my "Bible Study", every day there are 'men' who express and interest in me...for years...just not the 'right' one...I old men, young men, mentally disabled men, handicapped men, who flirt and do what I would like a 'normal' Godly man to do...the Lord lets me know that these men are just passing by, like ships in the night, and stars in the sky...when the right ship and star comes along, he will let me know...and that is comforting...even if I have met my soul mate...and I still have to wait a little longer...I am content for now...

    • Barbsbitsnpieces profile image

      Barbara Anne Helberg 

      7 years ago from Napoleon, Henry County, Ohio, USA

      @Heavensgates...Sound advice, or be careful what you wish for? It goes both ways, and we know not why!

    • Heavensgates profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago

      Thank you Guanta for reading yet, another of my hubs!

      I look forward to following in your footsteps when it comes to marriage! Thanks for the word! Blessings to you and your husband.

    • Guanta profile image


      7 years ago from New York City

      Thank you Heavesgates, your Hub is very inspiring. When I got married at thirty two I was almost convinced that I would not marry. Then out of the blue, there he was waiting and we've been married ever since. God rewards those who wait upon Him.

    • Heavensgates profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago

      Thank you Ivette!

      And I pray the same for you as well.

      Love you too girl!

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      7 years ago

      Thank you for your advice and I hope your love comes along soon. Your bible verses were on the target. Love you and Bless you.

    • Heavensgates profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago

      Thanks Dave!

      Yes, Jesus did go into the wilderness for 40 days and successfully resisted Satan's temptations. After all, he was/is God!

      In regards to abstainence, the Lord has his hand of some of his children weather they want to abstain from pre-marital sex or not. In other words, he "prevents" it from happening, until they are married! That makes 'em special and protected. Possibly to due a calling on their lives, until their appointed time, or prayers they have prayed to keep them "until" the real deal comes along.

    • Dave Mathews profile image

      Dave Mathews 

      8 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      Hmmmmm! Abstainence whether it is from food or pre-marital sex, and adultrous relationships, is a form of Fasting. Didn't Jesus go into the wilderness for 40 days to prove to lucifer that He, Jesus was the awaited Messiah, and son of God, before he began his three year ministry?

    • Heavensgates profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      To all of my hub readers, I do not support the psychic reader ad on the right at all! I cannot do anything about the ads. Please ignore it. I rely on the Holy Spirit to lead and guide us, not the demonic.

      Thank you.

    • Heavensgates profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Thank you thefount!

      I am happy to know you identify with my hub! Blessings to you as well.

    • thefount profile image


      8 years ago from North Central Louisiana

      Thanks for this very encouraging and entertaining hub! I appreciate and identify with your position well and its so nice to receive such a Word. Blessings!


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