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Thoughts of Kindness
I am not always a very kind person. Although you may be hard pressed to catch me behaving meanly, or even uttering a discouraging word, which, of course, I sometimes do, I am still not always kind, not as kind as I can be. This is because I am not always kind in thought.
Just a Thought
A thought is of the mind, an idea imagined. A thought may be something just passing through, and a great many do, a great many do. Sometimes it seems that a thought gets thrown into my lap from some outside source, handed to me from out of the blue. But the thought comes from within, even when it is in reaction to something - a situation or circumstance that lies outside. Some of these thoughts may be of the negative, not so good, variety - worrisome thoughts, troubled thoughts, and yes, even unkind thoughts. These thoughts may also be in reaction to some not so good thing that someone has said or done, catching me by surprise, saying to me, " I bet you did not see that one coming, did you?"
It is not unreasonable to think that I may at times react negatively to things like these, and to possess thoughts that are far from kindly. That is okay, as long as I do not let these them possess me.
The good news is that there is no rule or law stating that I have to keep these unkind thoughts; I am allowed to give them back, allowed to return them to the ever flowing river of thoughts, making room for new thoughts, perhaps more kindlier ones.
I may hold onto these thoughts, however, because I think that they make me right: my sense of pride finds them appealing and comforting. I may also hold on to them because I think that they will somehow make me feel good, even though I know this cannot be so. I hold on to these thoughts because they are mine; they are my pets, my pets of peeves. Most people love their pets, and would like to hold on to them forever. So why would I or anyone else want to have a "peeve" for a pet. It is time to let go of these unkind thoughts before I inadvertently, or purposely, pass them on in the form of some unkind words or unkind actions.
Some of my unkind thoughts may be reactions to some word or deed from another. It may also be in reaction to someone else's point of view, their different way of seeing things, or doing things in ways that I just cannot seem to accept or be reconciled with.
Too often it is these kind of thoughts that may be in anticipation to something that has not yet happened, an expectation of an encounter with someone that I am not on the same page with, or perhaps, not even in the same universe with. But don't worry, I'll be ready. Armed with my pride and self - righteousness, I plan to endure. I have already created scenarios in my mind, scenarios based on negativity, of how things will transpire.
There may also be some situation or circumstance that I am not happy about that seem to induce unkind thoughts. But I know that being angry at these things, or being unkind to those associated with them, will not make them go away or get better. So I remain civil, putting on a kind face.
And there are those times when I react unkindly to some perceived unkindness being thrown my way, when in fact it is being thrown my way in reaction to my unkindness. My unkindness is being mirrored back at me.
I have always believed that being kind, putting kindness out into the world, is a very good thing, even if I do not always feel kind, and any act of kindness can lead to feelings of kindness, even in myself. I think this is true; this is the power of kindness. But would not kindness be a more powerful force if it arose from kindlier feelings?
Drop the Attitude
I have found that by holding on to negative thoughts, they seem to attract more of the same. What was once a pebble in my hand has grown to become an armful of stones. What was once a bunch of thoughts, has become an attitude. This attitude, this armful of stones, is heavy and cumbersome. At some point, the time will come when I must let go and return them to that river of thoughts in such a way that they will flow away from me. They tend to linger, however. They linger but I do not fret because I know that the river also contains an abundance of good thoughts, kind thoughts, which possess much more power. Sometimes I need to remind myself of this. The time has come to drop the attitude and scoop up some of that good stuff.
So I let go. I let go and breathe. I let go and turn my attention to that ever flowing river of thoughts, and see it as a river of goodness, a river of blessings. I pick out a thought of kindness, and it too seems to attract more of the same; it too can become an attitude. But it does not get heavy, This is not because I drop it; this is because I give it away, allowing the power of kindness to do its work. This kindly attitude becomes a kindly action, a kindly word, and leads to more kind thoughts.
Thoughts Of Kindness
Kind thoughts lead to kind words and kind actions. They also lead to kind feelings, feelings of compassion and understanding. I find myself being more empathetic, feeling more for others, forgetting for the moment myself and for my need to be right, forgetting for the moment my flaws and my woes. I return to that river of thoughts and see it as an overflowing of the goodness that lies in my heart, the goodness that lies in the hearts of all of us
It is from the realm of love that kindness comes from. It is in the realm of love, where compassion and understanding dwell. It is the gift of love that allows us to live in compassionate ways. It is the gift of love that empowers us to be kind and understanding. When we are in this loving state, thoughts of kindness arise naturally, so there is no need to burden ourselves with unkind thoughts and negative attitudes. When we are in this loving state we see just how powerful any kind word or deed can be in making a difference in any ones life, making a difference in the world.
And so we take another step. We are loved. We are blessed. Being and living in a loving state allows us to move forward. We move forward on that ever elusive path towards a more peaceable world.
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