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Unrealised Potential

Updated on December 4, 2011

Some time back I was at a gathering with my very large family. I had several opportunities where I was able to sit back and observe the uniqueness of several different family members.

I noticed the subtle contrasted blends of masked personalities and character that made each member of my family unique. These different blends seemed to be shaping who they are and who they were coming in to being.

It was quite delightful watching, how the moods and influence of the parents affected their children. The effect of this influence seemed to be delicately moulding the way their children would view the world around them and everything in it. Somehow you knew that many of them would use this influence to shape their own lives.

What intrigued me the most however is that beneath the surface, each child I observed had a uniqueness of their own. It was an, unrealized potential peeking its tiny wee head out looking for freedom of expression. This unrealized potential did not appear to come about from any influence of Parents, Family or Friends.

Perhaps this unrealized potential is that uniqueness that springs out of the connection we all have to our source. The source of pure potentiality that one can never predict yet is always there for anyone, young and old to tap in to or unfold in to.

The potential that, if nurtured well, could be realized by not only each child I observed but each and every one of us if we so choose..


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    • pennyofheaven profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from New Zealand

      Thank you. Short and simple is my preferred style. Thanks for stopping by! Oh and thanks for becoming a fan.

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      8 years ago

      Yet again b'ful hub by you. What makes this hub interesting is it's simple and short form. I m joining your fan club this very second.

    • pennyofheaven profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from New Zealand

      Hi Jami, Sorry for the delayed reply. I have not had time to write or visit hub pages.

      Yes indeed I have noticed that. Choices determine many things I do agree!

      Thank you for stopping by.

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      jami l. pereira 

      8 years ago

      Voted up and awesome , have you ever noticed that people now blame society for wrong doings , they had the potential to be anything they wanted or do anything they wanted but depending on the "choices" they made reflected the hand they were dealt ... have a lovely evening :)

    • pennyofheaven profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from New Zealand

      Amy: I do agree, the influence parents have on their children is a powerful one and like you say, not many realize this.

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      Amanda Severn 

      8 years ago from UK

      Like you, I'm one of a very large family, and I have a great many nephews and nieces, cousins, plus second cousins etc. It's fascinating to see how each one develops from childhood to adulthood, and what they each learn from their parents and their environment. Parents have such an important role in their children's lives, although not all of them appreciate how important their example and influence can be.

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      Sima Ballinger 

      8 years ago from Michigan

      Children do have great potential. Some are easier to develop than others. For the children that are a little challenging, we adults can use some training to help develop them.

      Nice hub. Thanks for thinking about the children.

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      Erin LeFey 

      8 years ago from Maryland

      Penny, another beautiful hub! Sounds like an amazing environment for children! Namaste'

    • pennyofheaven profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from New Zealand

      Hi Rich; Glad you had breakfast. I do agree with your sentiments. Thanks and God bless.

    • pennyofheaven profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from New Zealand

      It is a favorite pastime we both share! Thank you!

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      Martie Coetser 

      8 years ago from South Africa

      This is one of my favorite things to do – watching and analyzing the development of my grandchildren’s personalities. I agree with all your statements. Voted UP!

    • pennyofheaven profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from New Zealand

      Hi Amy; It is a shame when parents do not realize the impact and influence they have on their childrens lives. Especially since they are so innocent and trusting of those who take care of them. There is always hope that this child of Johns is fortunate enough to meet a beautiful soul who is able to reveal to her all the wonderful things that money cannot buy. Perhaps even her greatest potential can be developed. Sometimes it can be a number of people that can reveal different things that we are able to gain more awareness of who we are and what we are coming to be. I sincerely hope that this child is fortunate enough to meet people like this...Thank you amy you are a loving lady!

      Hi Dave, I do agree. It is not an easy journey for some to find their inner potential. Often times more than not it is conditioning that makes the journey a hard road to hoe. For the most part we look outside ourselves because that is the only example we might have had. It isn't until we are shown that we were looking in all the wrong places that the more rewarding journey to self discovery begins. Thank you Dave your'e a gem

      Hi Qwark: I agree it should be a crime! Our precious children do need to be flooded (I like that) with the utmost love and care through word and touch. Parents are responsible for the direction they steer their children and the examples they set. Our children may not always go in the direction we steer them but if we nurture them well they will have the tools to walk any path with strength, courage and the knowledge that they will always be loved no matter what path they choose. Thanks you are sweet!

      Hi Antoine: I do agree about this generations children. They seem to possess this inner ability of knowledge way beyond their years. Their depth is something I marvel over each time I see it. My Grandchild is not yet a year and what wisdom to behold in her eyes! Of course I am biased haha! Always a pleasure when you stop by! Thanks!

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      Antoine Van Hove 

      8 years ago

      All children which are born now are even more unique than previous generations. You'll see!

      Wonderfull observation by using the eyes, as a tool through which the heart is enabled to see!

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      8 years ago

      Hi Penny:

      Unique? ABSOLUTELY!

      Every childs abilities are laying "fallow."

      I look into their inquisitive eyes and feel the potential each has!

      To allow that potential to be wasted, should be a crime!

      Parents have an obligation to their children. They must expose thier children to life and guide them to become the most dynamic human beings they can be!

      They MUST flood that childs mind with love and care through words and touch.

      If man wishes to succeed, he must provide children with experiences that will guarantee their ability to survive and become productive facets of humanity.

      Very nice "hub." Thank you!


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      Dave Mathews 

      8 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      Dispite the science of DNA Each and every person born has a uniqueness about them. Even identical twins or triplets each child has a uniqueness dwelling within waiting to be discovered and developed, defining who they are.

      Sometimes I laugh when I hear teens today and even adults say they are trying to find themselves, but I guess it is not easy for everyone to know who and what they are, or what they are meant to become.

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      Amy Becherer 

      8 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      I had a conversation yesterday with my best friend where we respectfully disagreed. In discussing the recent death of Elizabeth Edwards and the many trials she endured, came talk of her former spouse, John Edwards. Naturally, the conversation gravitated toward his mistress and lovechild. My friend worries about the child. My feeling is that she will be fine, depending on the definition of "fine". Your piece celebrates the potential of each child. In that vein, my end of the conversation sited the example of a mother without a conscience, but a well developed sense of entitlement. Her little girl will grow up seeing, and the strong possibility of believing, that you take what you want, no matter the hurt, oblivious to the wake she leaves behind. She will be privy to all that money can buy. My friend believes she will have difficulties when she is old enough to understand her beginnings. Predictions are just never knows, but either way, her life will probably be tumultuous. Your last line speaks to "that potential, if nurtured well" does not bode well for that innocent little girl. Thank you for this awesome, provocative piece of writing.

    • pennyofheaven profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago from New Zealand

      Absolutely! Thank you for stopping by again my friend!

      God Bless!

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      8 years ago

      Yes I agree - I think that parents, close family and friends give children an environment to grow. Right conditions, care and love and attention then a child will blossom and the beautiful potential within him/her is realised.

      Thanks for the food for thought - Breakfast for my mind!

      God bless!


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