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Unreasonable reasons why Christians hate each other

Updated on January 10, 2017

1. Rivalry

Deception creeps in and you let it enter in. There’s a brother doing well in their ministry and your eyes turn to them. You look back at your work with a measuring stick on hand and by comparison you deem theirs better than yours. Soon enough other Christian’s work and progress transforms into a threat and you find yourself gearing up for a battle that will never be won because it doesn’t really exists. Rivalry. Rivalry has now taken a seat making your work worthless and vain. Alas, brothers turn into rivals and love becomes hate.

2. Insecurity

Deception creeps in and you let it enter in. There’s a brother whom you find very different from you. At first it merely catches your attention but a minor lapse ignites a rejection. You start to get discomfited by the difference. You begin to ponder upon possibilities of “what if’s” and “if only's.” You refuse to rage so you opt to wallow; wallowing in self-pity you curse in silence. Thanksgiving then cease to manifest, blessings buried under the blanket of resentment. Insecurity. Insecurity has now taken a seat scorning your own beauty and blessedness. Alas, brothers turn into sorrows and love becomes hate.

3. A detestable choice

Deception creeps in and you let it enter in. There’s a brother, just a brother. A sinner saved by grace and a working progress just like you. But the pulse of the flesh scowls at them, an odious urge to forsake and upend. The itch to prey runs wild and so you give it a chance. No reasons, no provocation, but simply a devil’s invitation. You just want to so you think. Besides, the feeling of devouring a lamb simply brings glee to a famished predator. Lies and more lies. A detestable choice. Your detestable choice of revulsion has now taken a seat marring your discretion and hospitality. Alas, brothers turn into preys and love becomes hate.

4. For pride's sake

Deception creeps in and you let it enter in. There’s a brother whom you have advantage over many things; such as time, age, and perhaps experience. You see them as juniors in ways fit but as they grow stronger you suddenly feel weak. “I should,” starts to begin your sentences, reasons for rejoicing turn to stresses. “Who do they think they are?!” a pompous spirit shouts. Instead of standing as honored pillars you sit angry murmuring in the rubble. You stopped walking just so you can plot a malevolent scheme to keep them from going far. Pride. Your pride has now taken a seat wreaking suspicion and thus suffocating the scent of humility and meekness. Alas, brothers turn into offenders and love becomes hate.

5. The Delusion of perfection

Deception creeps in and you let it enter in. There’s a brother still weak and perhaps even discouraged. Another is struggling, more is hurting; one is sliding away and two more are in silent ache. But you stare at them with disgust as if forgetting your own lusts. You huff and you puff, you blow them all down as you sink in denial of your own trials. Sanctification turns into a lost word in your mind; forbearance and compassion set far aside. You condemn and pretend; condemning the forgiven, pretending you’re not one of them. A severe man; unforgiving with others yet ever gracious to his own errs. “Holier! Holier! I’m holier than thee!” sings the one filled with self-righteous misery. Delusion of perfection. The delusion of perfection has now taken a seat disabling you to see your own desperate need. Alas, brothers turn into lepers and love becomes hate.

6. Foul bandwagon

Deception creeps in and you let it enter in. There’s the brethren; some are your friends, some are your best friends. Closed factions and exclusive partisans provide the most sinister opportunities. Vengeful sympathies and corrupt counsels’ hence vicious events are conceived. Therefore affable dwelling are shaken by debased behavior that mimics hoodlums in their street fights. “Mess with one of us, you face us all!” a threat that signals answered carnal calls. No more reasoning, you are condemned! Not even a single chance, forever in a stereotyped cell. Reconciliations are considered a useless thing. Foul bandwagon. Your involvement in a foul bandwagon has now taken a seat sabotaging the chords of melodious harmony, mocking the command to walk in unity. Alas, brothers turn into enemies and love becomes hate.

Reasonable reasons to love one another

  • 1 Corinthians 1:10;

I appeal to you, brothers,by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree, and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be united in the same mind and the same judgment.

  • Ephesians 4:11-13;

And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers,to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ,until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood,to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ,

Romans 12

A Living Sacrifice

12 I appeal to you therefore, brothers,[a] by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.[b]2 Do not be conformed to this world,[c] but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.[d]

Gifts of Grace

3 For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. 4 For as in one body we have many members,[e] and the members do not all have the same function, 5 so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. 6 Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; 7 if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; 8 the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads,[f] with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness.

Marks of the True Christian

9 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. 10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. 11 Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit,[g] serve the Lord. 12 Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. 13 Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.

14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly.[h] Never be wise in your own sight. 17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. 19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it[i] to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” 20 To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.


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    • sujinmikee profile imageAUTHOR

      Sujin Mikee 

      2 years ago from Philippines

      No problem sir! =0) I completely understand =0) Thank you for your comments! =0) Soli Deo Gloria

    • Michael-Milec profile image


      2 years ago

      Hello sujinmikee. Under assumption of "Christians hate each other'' my intention was to point out that such a christians practice is sinful and nonchristians. (For that part, please accept my apology.) As I was trying to adress problem by pointing toward the roots of godly-Christ-like living, following His order of preaching and doing the Gospel of the Kingdom, it appears I didn't formulate my thoughts clearly (English is not my first language.)

      In short, a church, any church if a member of The Body Of Christ - the spiritual " Church= ECCLESIA" to which the Head is Christ would be merely The Light of the World and the Salt of the earth ... nothing less ... applying manly to individuals not to all "memberhip". The Anointing makes the difference . Glory to God.

    • sujinmikee profile imageAUTHOR

      Sujin Mikee 

      2 years ago from Philippines

      Michael-Milec: Thank you sir for your comment! I agree with you with concentrating on Jesus and His words. But I just want to make it clear that I've written this article in view of my own corruption (most of the points given above coming from my own errs), out of personal experience (most of the points were also drawn from painful experiences with some brothers) and most importantly, with the goal to edify the church. I quoted Romans 12 and other verses to complete the whole article. Though I do understand that you've sensed some darkness in my writing, must be some leftover bitterness. But God is dealing wonderfully with His saints, ever correcting and comforting. Nonetheless, I've taken your advice to heart. Thank you! =0)

    • sujinmikee profile imageAUTHOR

      Sujin Mikee 

      2 years ago from Philippines

      MsDora, thank you for your comment! really appreciate it! =0)

    • Michael-Milec profile image


      2 years ago

      " By your love for one-another everyone will know that you are my disciples." (Jesus Christ saying)

      sujinmikee, you have a very sensitive heart seeing some christians weakneses. Please concentrate on Jesus and His words. Spending time with Him in His word separates us from human problems and " brothers' " weaknesses. None of christian is our personal problem. We are called and we are told ' You are the light of the world. There is darkness amomng you as reading in you article. The Spirit of the Lord will deal with them. As we follow Jesus, we Love Him, we love the Father, because " Whoever has my commands and obey them, he is the one who loves me. He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him" (J.14:21) . As He is revealed to us, He is in us, and " I no longer live, but Christ lives in me." HalleluYAH.

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      Dora Weithers 

      2 years ago from The Caribbean

      The verses you quoted give very practical reasons for us to love each other, and you point out the unfortunate reasons that we don't. (Just a Heads Up! "Brethren" is plural - referring to more than one brother; so it is correct to say the brethren, not a brethren. Just some sisterly help.) Helpful article.


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