Violence, triggered by Religion? Part One
Using male privilege
The "duluth model" wheel, which is used in anger management intervention classes, states: "Treating her like a servant, making all the big decisions, acting like the 'master of the castle', being the one to define men's and women's roles".
Treating her like a servant
What is a servant?
A servant is also known as a domestic worker. Wikipedia states that a servant/domestic worker performs household duties such as cleaning, food shopping, cooking, caring for children and elderly, etc.
Religion and society have placed women in the role as the unpaid domestic worker.
Growing up Mormon this is what I was basically taught:
President Joseph F. Smith said, “We want the young women, ... for the building up of Zion and the instruction of women in their duties—domestic duties, public duties, and every duty that may devolve upon them.” (Conference Report, April 1907.)
David O. McKay said, “No success will compensate for failure in the home.” putting even more pressure on women.
Christianity teaches the role of women in Genesis 2:20-23. Adam had no help meet so God created woman to be his helper.
Other bible verses encourage or command women to keep house, love their husband and children, i.e. Titus 2:4-5, 1 Timothy 2:15, and 1 Timothy 5:14.
Making all the big decision
In the Epistle of Paul to Titus Chapter 2 vers 5 women are told to be obedient to the husband. In my research of this article I have not found one scripture that puts the woman in a deciding role or on equal role with her husband. No matter what christian denomination one looks into they all believe the Bible to be Jesus' words.
The fact that the woman is to obey her husband puts her right next to the role of children. *Obedience is required! Does that allow a woman room to make decisions, not even mentioning "big decisions"? Definitely "No"!
(*Some synonyms of obedient are: compliant, docile, tractable, yielding, deferential.)
Acting like the "Master of the Castle"
Not only Christians preach and encourage men to be "Masters of their Castles", many other religions and cultures do the same.
The dictionary defines Master as one having authority over another (having control, owner of a slave or animal, employer of a servant).
According to Paul the "husband is the head of the wife" (Ephesians 5:22-24).
A master expects submission and the bible puts women in the submissing role, some examples verses are Colossians 3:18, 1 Corinthians 11:3, and 1 Peter 3:1.
The word submit means to accept or yield to the will of another person, in this case the husband.
Acting like the "Master of the Castle" is just living according to God's will written in the above mentioned bible verses.
Being the one to define men's and women's roles
Once again 1 Corinthians 11:3 states that "...the man is the head of a woman".
In 1 Corinthians 14:33-35 it is made clear that the woman has to subject herself and if she wants to learn anything it has to come from her husband, she needs to ask of him.
Where does this put the woman and who is the one defining her role? These bible verses make it very clear that within Christianity the man defines a woman's role.