Violence, triggered by Religion? Part Two
Using Economic Abuse
Preventing her from getting or keeping a job
Titus 2:3-5 would justify a man to tell his wife to stay at home, Paul said for women to be "workers at home".
Gordon B HInckley (LDS President) said this to women: "Weigh carefully that which you do. You do not need some of the extravagances that working outside the home might bring. Weigh carefully the importance of your being in the home when your children come from school."
He also said in an address called Women of the Church: "Some years ago President Benson delivered a message to the women of the Church. He encouraged them to leave their employment and give their individual time to their children. I sustain the position which he took."
While researching this I came across an interesting website that quotes LDS Leadership on this subject, check it out here.
Using Emotional Abuse
Making her feel bad about herself and making her feel guilty
Recently the LDS feminist movement got threats because of their "women wear pants to church day" event. This makes it very obvious that Mormon women are intimidated on how they look, dress, and act. They definitely get a piece of the "feel bad about yourself cake" when they speak their mind. The Mormon feminist housewives movement is under constant criticism and some LDS feminist activists were excommunicated because of their outspokenness.
LDS women are expected to always help others, smile and look a certain way, and those women that are temple endowed have to wear temple garments (underwear) day and night, which limits their wardrobe choices.
All these things give the Mormon man and other church members a certain leverage over women. Just think of the consequences/guilt-trip a woman will face if she takes of her garments and wears clothing exposing the areas of her body that would otherwise be covered.
Guilt can be used here aplenty!
Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes & Limiting her outside involvement
Mormons are encourage to read their scriptures on a daily basis in addition to the Sunday School, Relief Society, and Priesthood assignments. If the woman is also involved in a church organized book club her reading is sole controlled by assignments, and there would not be much time for other literature. Besides LDS leadership expects members to subscribe to Mormon magazines such as the Ensign, New Era, and Friend and to read those every month.
Doctrine and Covenants 88:118 makes clear that only the "best books" should be read.
Many cults and religious groups create many church organized activities for their members so their is limited time for involvement outside of that.
Mormons structure their members week something like that: Sunday=church and family, Monday=Family Home Evening, Tuesday-Thursday=Youth activities, Saturday=Ward Temple Days, Church cleaning, other volunteer projects.
Other church encouraged activities for lds women are, play group, book club, Primary and Relief Society events and socials, visiting teaching, preparation for classes on Sunday, the list goes on and on.
If the husband pushes/encourages this kind of schedule he limits the wife's outside involvement, there would not be any time to pursue anything else thus isolating her from the rest of the world.
Power and Control
Researching this dulluth model wheel made it very clear to me that cults and other religious groups use their doctrines and commandments to gain power and control over their members. Unfortunately women often feel more of this control and power over them simply because they are female and most cults/religions put women underneath men.
I hope looking at religions/cults from this angle will help humanity to take a step back and reevaluate their true beliefs.