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What does the Bible say about honoring abusive parents?

Updated on December 9, 2012
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Should "bad" parents receive honor?


What does it mean to honor your parents? To honor means to show respect. Verses such as Exodus 20:12; Deuteronomy 5:15; Matthew 19:19; and Luke 18:20 paint a picture of how important it is to honor ones parent. Does that apply to abusive parents as well? Unfortunately the bible doesn’t make any exceptions. However, parents are instructed not to provoke (push/entice) their children to anger. Instead they are to teach and guide their children (Ephesians 6:4). While many parents (Christian parents) are quick to tell their kids to honor them, they fail to do the latter. Just because children are commanded to honor their parents doesn’t give the parent the right to abuse their position. Countless children have been neglected, mistreated, abused (mentally, physically, sexually), and abandoned by their parents. As they reach adulthood they can’t fathom God instructing them to turn around and show respect to their abusers. Well God has and here’s why: His Son Jesus. Jesus walked this earth completely and totally sin free. He gave His life so that we could have everlasting life (I Thessalonians 5:10). While Jesus walked this earth He gave clear instruction for believers to love their enemies and pray for those who mistreat them (Luke 6:35; 6:28). After all, Jesus did exactly that on the cross (“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” NIV Luke 23:35). So yes, we are to honor our parents whether they deserve it or not. Does this mean that a person must stay in the abusive environment? No. God wants us to have life and live it abundantly/fully (John 10:10). A person can’t live a full life in bondage. To honor an abusive parent also doesn’t mean that you have to accept their abuse. If talking and reasoning won’t work with the abuser, then it’s wise to remove yourself from the situation altogether. God knows your heart and He knows how much you can bear. It’s best to pray for an abusive parent who refuses to change and love them from a distant than to continue to allow yourself to be abused. Above all, FORGIVE them. This is more beneficial to you than it is for them. When you continue to hold on to the past you are allowing your abuser to continue to affect your life. Don’t give him/her that type of satisfaction! Unforgiveness also hinders God’s forgiveness, and ultimately His blessings. Matthew 6: 14-15 says, “For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins (NIV)”. This means that the moment a person chooses not to forgive, every sin they commit from then on will not be forgiven. Your relationship with God will suffer without forgiveness and all in all, it’s not worth it. Unforgiveness plants a seed of bitterness in a person’s heart that robs a person of joy and peace. Don’t let the enemy steal this from you! The best solution is to forgive, love that person despite everything, and pray for them. I know this is a sensitive subject for some. There are people who allow themselves to be manipulated and mistreated simply because they feel God will punish them for standing up to their parents. What are your thoughts on this subject and what advice would you give an adult who has abusive parents? I love hearing testimonies and personal stories so please feel free to share! God Bless!

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      Alicia M Phillips 2 years ago from Houston, TX

      @Scarlett Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m so sorry for all your years of hurt and pain as well as your current pain. I know this may be hard to hear and accept but Scarlett you are not in the wrong…your dad is. Yes the Bible is clear about honoring our parents but that’s not a free pass for the parent to abuse their child. Ephesians 6:1-4 says, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother’ (this is the first commandment with a promise), ‘that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.’ Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord (English Standard Version)” Your dad was supposed to bring (raise) you up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. He was supposed to raise you and instruct you to be obedient to God, to love God and reverence Him. To live a life that’s pleasing to God. He was not supposed to (and should not now) use his position to abuse you mentally (because that’s what he’s been doing) or use guilt to get you to do what he wants. That’s not godly and it’s not right. God never treats us that way and as parents, we have to mimic how God parents His children (us). Whenever God disciplines us it’s out of love and it’s to gently turn us back to the right path. He doesn’t abuse us verbally/mentally just to get His way nor does He tear our spirit down. Your dad has been, and still is, abusing his position as a parent. You’re a grown woman now, and in all honesty, your dad’s job is now done. He raised you and now he has to let you go and make your own decisions. Now this doesn’t mean you have to stop honoring him Scarlett, but honoring doesn’t mean you have to do what he say or agree with everything he speaks. You can take his sound advice and discard everything else. And it DOES NOT mean you have to endure his verbal abuse. It sounds like he’s hurting and he’s using you to lash out. And if he is depressed and suicidal then you definitely can’t take what he says to heart because he’s not thinking/speaking clearly. He needs help desperately. Please know that God won’t punish you for disagreeing with your father, nor will God punish you if you keep your distance from his abuse. You’re not obligated to be abused by your father because God Himself does not abuse us.

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      Scarlett 2 years ago

      My dad raised my family in an apostolic church. He has read the bible and studied it all of my life and still does. However he will use the Bible for control. Its hard to explain what he does but he manipulates the Bible. All my life he taught me and my sisters to honor your mother and your father. But he thinks if you don't do what he says then you're not honoring him. The twisty part is that he was and is a druggie. Crack cocainen marijuana prescription pills. he was not a very good father when he was a hypocrite but he sure did teach us some good lessons. I have always looked up to him. Anyway my mom had finally had enough and divorced him. Now my problem is is that whenever I make contact with him wether it's a phone call or seeing him, if I don't do what he says then it is not honoring him. I am so so so very respective of almost any adult. (Truth is that I'm a people pleaser.)I make it my goal to do so because of the way I was raised. But when it comes to my dad it is the hardest to not do what he says because I want to still honor him.But he is wrong in so many ways for how he treats me and what he wants me to do. I just want to make him happy but now a days he is not happy with me because I won't always call him as often as he wants. And when he says he is going to move by me and my response is "are you sure that's a good idea dad?" "You don't have a job and you can't live alone because you have an injury." (He has a really bad neck and can't work anymore.) He gets mad because it sounds like I don't want to see him. Every time I see him he always makes me feel bad.he always brings up how wrong everyone is and how God is going to send them to hell because of this and that... And he talks about how you can only get a divorce if your spouse cheats on you. And mom is wrong and needs to come back to him to make it right. And another thing, I love the bible I love Jesus I have my life to him and I am going to church and I have and am still working on a strong relationship with God. But when I talk to my dad and he preaches the bible to me.everything he says is to prove him right and everyone else wrong. Or its about how I need to stay following him and start going to the apostolic church again ori might not get to be in heaven. He is suicidal and depressed on top of it.. I feel like he abuses my spirit and I am thinking that I need to stop contacting him...what do I do...

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      Alicia M Phillips 2 years ago from Houston, TX

      @Victoria, thank you for your feedback! You truly have a kind heart. The fact that you were able to overcome your childhood obstacles and still emerge with a heart for others reflect the beauty of your inner being. I pray God continues to bless you and make you even stronger!

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      Victoria Razbira 2 years ago from Sofia, Bulgaria

      Thank you! I really needed to hear these things, but there is no one in my world who could tell them. all my life I have been in the middle of a war between two people, who somehow have decided to have me and never really bothered again to have anything else together, but hate. this has been a terrible journey for me, but i somehow managed to survive and hope to survive even better, as my time as an adult goes on. i think we should really honor our parents, even in the interest of our inner world. after all, we are their "product". i generally honor many people in my life, despite the fact most of them are not really reaching out to me. everyone is human and people will never bee perfect, but this should not hold us back from the greatest joy in life, that is love. all the best to everyone

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      Alicia M Phillips 2 years ago from Houston, TX

      @buzz, I'm sorry it's taken me so long to get back with you. That must have been a terrifying and sad ordeal to go through growing up. Sometimes people never change and when that happens you gotta love them from a distance and move on. God doesn't expect you to stay around your dad and endure his abuse...that's not healthy. Learn from your father's mistakes and make sure you break that cycle (I'm not sure if you have kids yourself). I know you're a strong person because you went through all of that and despite your dad's attempts, he couldn't break you. God bless you!

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      Alicia M Phillips 2 years ago from Houston, TX

      @Ashayla, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this right now. No God does not operate like that at all. Yes your mom raised you and cared for you but that's what a parent is supposed to do. That's their job. You didn't asked to be born, none of us did, but for some reason some parents feel as if it entitles them to use their children when they grow up and sometimes they try to use a guilt trip to get their way. But this is not Christ like or biblical at all. We're supposed to be there for our parents when they need us, especially in their old age, but we shouldn't be "blackmailed" or used. The minister that your mom ran to could not have heard the whole story. Your mom must have told him her version and left out what she was doing to you. I know this sounds basic and elementary but truly pray and seek God. Get alone with God and have some quiet time with Him where you pour out your heart to Him. Yes He sees and knows your situation already but He still loves for us to talk and confide in Him. Let Him know everything you're going through and leave this whole situation in His hands. I promise you Ashayla, God will step in and intervene on you and your daughter's behalf. Everything is going to be OK, God has you in His hands. God Bless you!

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      Alicia M Phillips 2 years ago from Houston, TX

      @ Orkid, thank you very much. I'm happy this has been helpful to you. God Bless You!

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      Orkid 2 years ago

      This has been so helpful to me.

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      Ashayla Wilbon 2 years ago

      My mother has a car in my name and hasn't been making payments which is negatively affecting my credit. I asked for the car back and my mom flew off the handle she feels as though I owe her for my life and all that she has done for me since raising me but I didn't ask to be here. This was all ordained by God. My mom wants me and my daughter out of the house. She ran to this minister at the church which told me that God was going to get me and that I was wrong. God doesn't operate like that. Right? And all in all I'm really hurt and I feel used. What should I do?

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      buzz 3 years ago

      My dad and I'm ashamed to call him my dad, use to beat my mom for about 15 yrs, why she never left him still puzzles me but i can still hear here screaming even though this happened over 20 years ago and it still pisses me off, my dad is a complete asshole even today, the man is almost 70 yrs old and still thinks he is young and thinks he can kick my ass, i just tolerate his bullshit cause i don't wanna end up in jail for beating this sorry excuse for a man, he is mean and hateful and told me and my brother along time ago that if we ever tried kicking his ass when we got older, then he would shoot us. My dad almost had a stand off with the police with his hunting rifle after we called the cops on him after he was drunk and beating my mom when i was a kid. There is a lot of other things that i can tell you about this man but ill save that for another time

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      Alicia M Phillips 3 years ago from Houston, TX

      @Vic, wow I can't imagine going through what you had to endure. I don't even know how I would handle that. I commend your ability to love and forgive in the midst of everything. God bless you!

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      Vic 3 years ago

      My mother hired a hit man to kill me but it didn't work, I survived. I know this sounds extreme but it is what it is! I forgave her right after it happened and I still do. I love her but I give her plenty of room because I know I can't trust her. It may sound strange but I'd go to her defense in an instant if she needed me. I've finally come to terms with the way she is and I'm fine now and thank God I'm happy to be alive.

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      Alicia M Phillips 3 years ago from Houston, TX

      @Cynthia AMEN! Thank you so much for your feedback.

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      Cynthia 3 years ago

      God does not condone abuse, period. Forgive and remove yourself from the evil. You are in the way of God working on the parent if you enable the abuse by participating in the relationship. If you remove yourself from the evil and pray for them, you are in a powerful position for healing. Your first responsibility is to take care of you and honor God by allowing Him to do His work. C.A., BSN, RN

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      Alicia M Phillips 3 years ago from Houston, TX

      @LTC I'm sorry you had a rough childhood growing up. I can relate to what you've been through. I'm really happy to hear that your father changed but sadden to hear that your mom is verbally abusing her own grandchild. You were right to distance yourself (and your son) from your mother until you pray more about the situation. I can definitely tell you that you have to protect your son from your mom's verbal abuse. I'm not sure if you've talked to her about it or not (I'm sure you probably have already) but ask God to give you the right words to say to her. Speak to her with love and respect but be firm in what you say. Let her know that you're not going to accept her abusing your son like that and if she can't understand and respect your wishes then let her know that until she complies you're going to continue to keep your son at away from her. You're not wrong in doing this because you have to protect your son. You don't want her to grow up feeling the way that you felt. I'm going to be praying for you and your situation. God bless you!

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      LTC 3 years ago

      I have a mother who liked to pick on me as a child....she was verbally abusive at times, but not as much as my father was. My father was verbally and physically abusive....Now that im an adult, my father has totally changed, but my mom now calls my 3 year old names like(stupid,dumb and retarded) and always picks on him. My husband and I have been dealing with this off and on for about 2years now...I can't allow my child to be emotionally damaged by her like i was growing up...I don't know how to deal with this...as for now, ive decided that i need to distance myself from her for a little while until i pray about it more and can come to some kind of resolve...It is my responsibility to protect my children from harm, so i can't tolerate this behavior from my parents...

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      Alicia M Phillips 3 years ago from Houston, TX

      @Josh, thank you for sharing your feelings and input. Please know that you're not wrong at all for feeling the way you feel. You're human after all and those are normal feelings to have. Josh is your mom a part of your life? If so, how does she handle your dad when he treats you this way? I ask this because I was raised in an abusive home myself. I can relate to you and what you're saying because my dad was abusive to us (my siblings and I). My mom was afraid of him for years so we had to suffer his abuse. I grew up hating my father and it wasn't until I became a Christian that I was able to find love in my heart for him and to forgive him. However, you don't have to respect his abuse at all. Love him? Yes, love him as your father but that doesn't mean you have to accept his abuse just because he's your father. No one should be physically or mentally abused by their parents and for some reason there are parents who feel as if they have the right to do so. Is there anyone that you could possibly stay with? Another family member perhaps? You really don't need to be in that type of environment.

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      Josh 3 years ago

      I do think it is correct to respect your parents when they don't respect you. However it is very challenging at times, i am almost 16 now and my dad can be abusive at times. He hasn't physically abused me in a long time but he has shown a great desire to do so. He has threatened to "beat the crap out of me" . He has also told me how he wants to hit or smack me. I try to be respectful but sometimes i can't take it and talk back or tell him how i feel about the way he treats me but he does not listen and gets more mad. I want a way out i want to get away from him. I never want to see him again but i know its wrong to feel this way . How should i deal with him? Recently I've been keeping myself from being disrespectful or retaliating against him by thinking of how the better person would resist the urge to be violent or be rude. because it is easy to give in to the temptations but only the strong resist. He tells me to be the better person and respect him but i feel he should be doing that because he is supposed to set an example for me. And he tells me that i think i know everything but i don't . He takes his anger out on me and is very rude. He accuses me of the very things he does. For instance he and i will be talking and he looks at me with a dirty look and i feel as if he wants to hurt me. Then he'll say to stop giving him a dirty look. He says respect is a two way street that you have to give it to get it but he treats with disrespect and then is surprised if i say anything back. He also accuses me of abbusing my little brother who is now 6, he thinks i am jealous of the attention he gets. My dad spoils my little brother ridicoulsly. I do think it is wrong but i have never said anything about it to him. I also am not jealous of my little brothers attention because i try to avoid my dad as much as possible because i don't like how he treats me.

      I know this is a bit long but i just wanted to let some feelings out

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      hubpages1983 3 years ago from Europe

      Something in my heart didn't feel right. This evening came across the following:

      http://lavistachurchofchrist.org/LVanswers/2010/02...

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      Alicia M Phillips 3 years ago from Houston, TX

      Thank you hubpages1983 for sharing that link with us! I read the whole article and really enjoyed the entire post. I hope everyone who comes across my post click on your link as well. I gained more insight in reading it and was truly blessed. Thank you again and may God continue to bless you!

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      hubpages1983 3 years ago from Europe

      I believe in the bible and what the bible says. I had came across the following link:

      http://dealingwithtoxicpeople.blogspot.com/2010/02...

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      Alicia M Phillips 3 years ago from Houston, TX

      Thank you for your feedback hubpages1983! That's a really good point.

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      hubpages1983 3 years ago from Europe

      I don't think there are exceptions unless an individual is a non believer.

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      Alicia M Phillips 3 years ago from Houston, TX

      GinaMarie7 I think you're doing a wonderful job in trying to respect your mom and be obedient to Christ. It's so hard to do so, trust me I know. The fact that you gave your mother another chance and allowed your daughter to stay with her speaks volume of your forgiveness towards her. I think it's wise to keep your distance if the two of you can't get along or see eye to eye. Just continue to keep your mom in your prayers and ask God to heal the rift between the two of you. Thank you so much for your feedback! God Bless!

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      Alicia M Phillips 3 years ago from Houston, TX

      Hi Jennifer, I'm so so sorry you're going through all of this! Thank you for reading my posting and for leaving feedback. Let me first start off by saying that honoring your parents does not mean they get to walk all over you and abuse their position. You can love and honor them without being taken advantage of. You have to set boundaries with them and they have to respect you as an adult. I don't believe God expects you to accept their abuse just because they're your parents. God would never want you to suffer abuse like that! He wants you to live life and live it more abundantly (John 10:10). He doesn't want you to live a life of sadness, heartache, and pain. Jennifer you deserve to be happy and your parents should not make you feel guilty about caring for them. I'm not telling you to disown them because they were not there for you growing up, but I am telling you that you don't have to deal their abuse. As far as your mom practicing witchcraft against you, please pray against that and I will be praying for you as well. Do you have a church home or have a church that you can attend to seek help from? You really need others to rally around you to pray and strengthen you. Again I'm so sorry you're going through this, my heart really goes out to you.

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      Alicia M Phillips 3 years ago from Houston, TX

      Thank you Cindi for sharing your relationship with your mom. I commend you for being able to still love her and respect her even when she's not at her best. God bless you!

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      GinaMarie7 3 years ago

      I try to follow scripture the best I can. My mother verbally, mentally emotionally, and physically abused me throughout my childhood and is abusive still and I had no respect for her whatsoever. Then a need arised, and I needed her to take my daughter under her wing, and I knew she was better with her than she ever was with me. At that moment I decided to respect her, because who am I not to, she has my child... I made a vow at that point and time. I don't spend much time with her I'm just trying to be as obedient to Christ as possible

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      Jennifer 3 years ago

      I had a mother who never spend time with me growing up.I lived with my aunt.my mother only came around when she needed something.Even then she never took time out to ask me about life nothing.Growing up she lived with her boyfriend very comfortable.she never introduced me to him,never gave me a phone number I can reach her, or took me to her house.Never called me on birthdays.It never affected me.I never took it to heart because that was all I knew.But as I got older in my 20 that's when I saw how it affected me not getting affection from anyone.my aunt also use to tell me I'm good for nothing.my mother also use to tell me how pretty I was as a little child an when I grew up now I'm not.I never reacted to abusive comments but inside I held on to it.My father never saw him or spoke to home but a few times.Now both of these individuals expect so much from me.They expect me to pay their bills,buy them a house, put money in their hands.sad thing I had been sending money to my father an he does not appreciate it.He expects me to be doing way more for him.A man I have I have not seen since age 7 I am now 35.my mother practice witchcraft and because I am not t as king care of her she is practicing in me.Am I supposed to honor them?This is my question.Thanks.

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      cindi 3 years ago

      I believe that my mother is an alcoholic and drug addict. Though it hurts to see her do all those things despite what I tell her, I still and will always respect her. I love my mother. But she will always know that I don't approve of her doings. Thanks for sharing. You're opinions on what the bible says about obeying your parents.

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      Alicia M Phillips 3 years ago from Houston, TX

      Thank you Sally for your much needed feedback! I truly appreciate what you added to my post. I had completely forgotten about that aspect of honoring our parents. As hard as it may seem, we can find something positive about those who hurt us and choose to focus on their good instead. What better way to honor our abusive parent(s) then by focusing on the positive and incorporating that into our lives while meanwhile discarding the negativity. Thank you again Sally and God bless you!

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      Sally 3 years ago

      What is missing from this article is what is meant in the old testament by honoring. What it means is that the children were to obey and honor their parents by following their example...wait!! let me finish...I come from a family where my father sexually abused me for 12 years and my mother beat me and "sent" me to him to allow him to do whatever he wanted with me. But, I have been able to forgive both of them did honor them, even when I was not in contact with them. I honored them by following their example in the ways that they were honest and hard working. My mother was honest in some areas of her life, like when someone would give her more change than she should get, she would always return the extra money - she never cheated on her taxes, things like that. I am the same way in these areas and in that way I honor her. With my father, he was a very hard worker - I never heard him say he was going to stay home from work with a head ache - he went to work no matter what. I have always been a hard working employee and rarely ever called in sick, so in that way I honored my father. This is what is meant by honoring your parents in the Old Testament - it does not mean that one has to spend any time at all with abusive parents! I actually got to the point where I could thank God for the good they did teach me (they are both deceased) Remember, no one is totally evil, so if you are having problems with an abusive parent, take your time and find something good about them - God wants to help you to do this! Then thank them (if possible) and thank God for this goodness.

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      Alicia M Phillips 3 years ago from Houston, TX

      Grace, I understand your anger and bitterness completely. It took me many years before I was able to forgive my parents. My bitterness towards my parents drained me of peace and happiness. As a Christian I couldn't have unforgiveness in my heart and expect God to bless me. I don't know if you are a Christian or not, nor a m I here to judge you. All I can say is you won't feel complete peace and begin to heal until you forgive your father. You don't have to be around him to forgive him from your heart. You don't have to do it for him, do it for yourself because you deserve to live out the rest of your life in peace and happiness. God bless you Grace! I'm praying for you and your whole family.

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      Grace 3 years ago

      I HATE my father very much and would not forgive and honor him. I wish him to die a lonely and painful horrible death. He was a very bad tempered, over emotional and selfish man who stalked us and made us upset.

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      Alicia M Phillips 4 years ago from Houston, TX

      Thank you edgonzalez for your feedback! You are so right, forgiveness is vital in breaking the pattern of abuse.

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      edgonzalez - belief asia.net 4 years ago

      Parents must rear up their children well. Show them good values. It's not bad for telling them off. Never abuse them verbally or abuse them physically because there can be repercussions. This can be hard to deal with. Abusive parents are sinners and if they do not change, God will deal with them. It is right to forgive our parents because it sets updo this free. If we are reared this way, we may bring up our children this way too. Forgiveness breaks the pattern.

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      Alicia M Phillips 4 years ago from Houston, TX

      Thank you Carolyn. I'm really happy to hear about your salvation and you forgiving your mom! It's hard to be kind to those who inflict so much pain in our lives, especially if that someone happens to be a parent. I pray your relationship with your mom continues to improve! God Bless!

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      Carolyn 4 years ago

      I enjoyed your article. My mother was so verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive when we were growing up. As an adult I didn't speak to her for about 10 years, until I was saved, and gave my life to God...I was finally able to forgive her, and although she is still very difficult to deal with sometimes, I have been able to maintain a relationship with her. The Grace of God is a mighty force!

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      Alicia M Phillips 4 years ago from Houston, TX

      Thank you Reynold and PKfromMI for your positive feedback! I think a lot of people suffer in silence when it comes to forgiving their parents, especially Christians. The lucky ones can sit down with their parents and discuss their feelings, and then there are those like myself lol. I had to accept the fact that all I could do was forgive my parents, pray for them, and love them from a distance.

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      PKfromMI 4 years ago

      Thank you. I needed this. It's extremely hard to forgive parents. even if they aren't abusing or neglecting you physically. Thanks again for the reminder.

      -Preacher's Kid

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      Reynold Jay 4 years ago from Saginaw, Michigan

      I had to reread this. Well done and amazingly beautiful. I find it difficult to fanthom that others have not made comments here.

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      Alicia M Phillips 4 years ago from Houston, TX

      Ok Reynold, thanks so much! I will check it out.

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      Reynold Jay 4 years ago from Saginaw, Michigan

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      Alicia M Phillips 4 years ago from Houston, TX

      Thank you! I've researched this subject online and I've read a lot of mixed reviews. A lot of people don't know how to answer this question. I've been around parents who think that just because the bible says for their children to honor them they can treat their kids any type of way. I think it's really sad that so many adults accept abuse from their parents because they think it would be sinful to stand up to them.

      Are all your books available on Amazon for the Kindle?

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      Reynold Jay 4 years ago from Saginaw, Michigan

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