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What is There to Apologize For

Updated on August 27, 2019
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Dr. David Thiessen is an educator, writer, pastor, and speaker. He has authored several books on a variety of topics including Archaeology

The news of the week

In a recent Christian Post article, the author of the book “I kissed Dating Goodbye” made several announcements, none of which were encouraging, positive or for God. You can read the article at this link and make up your own mind.

These types of announcements are not really shocking news as they have taken place for hundreds of years if not thousands. Some times, it would be nice if these people would provide their reasons why they made their decisions.

If they claim that their reasons are private, then they should not make public announcements, no matter who they are. Understanding their thinking may help believers prevent other weaker believers from making the same ill fated decisions.

God hates divorce

Malachi 2:16 states God’s view of divorce very clearly. In no uncertain terms, God said “I hate divorce” and no interpretation is necessary to understand God’s position on the issue. Jesus said later in the Sermon on the Mount, that divorce was only allowed in cases of adultery (Matthew 5:31-33).

Yet despite these strong words, Christians, like Joshua Harris is supposed to be, still pursue divorce for a variety of reasons other than adultery. Yet these i snot what needs or doe snot need apologizing for. Divorce is too common place for any one to apologize except to God and their former partner.

He did not finished the race

Paul spoke about finishing the race and the reward that was waiting for him when he passed into the presence of God. 2 Tim. 4:7 records his words and again, no interpretation is needed as finishing the race is part of the Christian life.

It is not an easy race to run as there are temptations, pressures, and more trying to undermine the believer and get them to leave what they believe. Again, many Christians like Joshua Harris, fail to complete their lives as believers.

The internet is full of websites populated by ex-believers, ex- preachers, ex-missionaries, all of whom have decided to stop following Jesus for one reason or another. Mr. Harris doe snot give his, yet having talked with many of these people and read their stories, their deconversion could have been averted.

There is nothing to apologize for in this decision unless Mr. Harris wants to apologize to Jesus for is failure to run the race.

Why apologize

I am going to quote his words from the article above as his words need to be read in full:

Harris also apologized to the “LGBTQ+ community” for not supporting same-sex marriage and affirming their place in the church.

Why apologize to unrepentant sinners for is actions when he had nothing to apologize for. I could see him apologizing them if he had beaten them physically, evicted them wrongfully from their homes deprived them of employment or did some sinful act against them.

But he did none of those things. His apology comes about because he did not support them in their sins, sinful acts and for not letting them take a place in the church. Standing by God and his word is not something that needs an apology.

Same sex marriage is not sanctioned by God. In God’s eyes it is a sin and an abomination, not something that can be supported or called good. Then there is no rightful place in the church for unrepentant and sin practicing people, no matter where they fall in the LGBTQ+ community or if they are heterosexuals.

The verses in the Bible talking about how God is love, that we love one another and as Jesus loved us do not over-rule God’s standards of right and wrong, morality and immorality, good and evil; nor do they over-rule God’s command to be Holy as he is holy or other verses which talk about leaving sin behind when they repent and come to Jesus .

Until every member of the LGBTQ+ community honestly and truthfully repent of all their sins, including those involved in LGBTQ+ preferences, there is no rightful place in the Church or God’s heaven for them.

No apologies are warranted

No apologies are needed, even if members of the LGBTQ+ community demand one. The members of the Christian community cannot violate God’s rules nor can they apology for following God’s rules.

It is the members of the LGBTQ+ community that needs to apologize to the church for trying to force their sin and corruption on the church. The church serves God and is his messenger. It is a messenger that has no authority to change what God has declared in the Bible.

The members of the LGBTQ+ community must humble themselves and repent of all their sins, if they want to live forever with Jesus in heaven. That is the rule, it is not wrong and there is no need to apologize for it.

LGBTQ+ community members are not special, they get no free passes from God’s rules and Christians cannot grant them free passes. The LGBTQ+ community member must obey all the rules just like sinful, unrepentant heterosexuals must do if they want to see heaven.

God’s rules do not change

Examine the Bible and you will see that everyone from Adam’s time to the present were placed under the same rules. God does not change nor do his rules. People in all walks of life from farmers to kings were punished for disobedience.

The LGBTQ+ community members cannot hope or think that they will be treated differently for their disobedience. That is nothing to apologize for either.

© 2019 David Thiessen


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      David Thiessen 

      20 months ago from Philippines

      I haven't been able to get a copy of his book but from what I have read it sounds a little like Bill Gothard's seminar.

      You probably hit the best reason why I wrote the article on here Follow Me as too many people follow humans over Jesus. Harris seems to be one of those people.

      I would agree that he needs to apologize to Christians for his sinful ways while under the disguise of Christianity

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      John Cowgill 

      20 months ago

      I have heard many 'fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ' tell me that the things Joshua Harris said in his book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" were words that we are 'fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ' (I have to say this because the word 'Christian' is considered by many 'fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ' as an evil word) that were given to him by the Holy Spirit, and they state that his teaching full of truth. When I read Joshua Harris' writings and then read this horrible book called the 'Bible' (the 'fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ' call it horrible), I see complete contradiction. If I have seen anything his book could be responsible for, it would be for the disunity and lack of fellowship among people in the church. Many 'fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ' get mad at me for showing what the Bible says, yet they saw his teaching more credible in spite of the outcomes. Every time I see people obey this evil book called the 'Bible', great outcomes result. Maybe Joshua Harris needs to apologize for not preaching God's Word.


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