When Gemini and Cancer Fall in Love
Gemini + Cancer
Gemini and Cancer make for a blissful match. The two come from different worlds, and yet they would do anything for each other because they are direct neighbors in the zodiac. Couplings that are neighbors work well together. They have a good mix of shared qualities and also differences. What will be interesting about this pair is how constantly engaged the Gemini is with their mind -- to the point of anxiety -- alongside how emotionally engaged the Cancer will be -- to the point of depression. These two understand what it is like to be on the brink of discovery, madness, empathy, and a breakthrough.
Gemini is the end of spring and Cancer is the beginning of summer. Everything is beautiful around this time of the year. The flowers are in bloom, rain is plentiful, and it's getting hotter outside.
Gemini is the mutable air sign and Cancer is the cardinal water sign. Gemini is constantly thinking, but doesn't feel as planned or as demanding as the Aquarius and Libra. Gemini lets one thought flow into the next thought and shifts around into what seems to be a good perspective. Gemini makes for a great actor, mimic, and problem solver.
Cancer as the cardinal water sign is on the cusp of emotional territory. The sign is symbolized by a pregnant woman -- the signs after her represent the cycle of a pregnancy all adding up until she has the child in Aries. The first trimester contains the summer signs, the second semester contains the fall signs, and the third trimester contains the winter signs. Spring is the season of life born unto the world and a break from pregnancy. Cancer understands emotional turmoil, the changing of minute changes, nuances, and takes joy in each and every mood. Cancer constantly shifts and is uncertain of her perspective because of all these cycles. Gemini can relate to this because he is constantly shifting in his thoughts trying to land them in some kind of truth. Leo in a way is a counter to these two rather indecisive signs. Leo has a giant ego and thinks he knows what is best and how to place it precisely so.
Gemini and Cancer are not so certain. They are much more existential, and in some ways, much more interesting.
The Bizarre Case for the Gemini and Cancer Pairing
This is an unusual pairing that feeds off each other. Gemini can respect Cancer's boundaries better than Cancer can Gemini's The air sign understands how different Cancer is and can see clear and defined borders. This doesn't threaten Gemini but makes them curious. They want to know why Cancer ticks the way she does, but they can't entirely put a finger on the cause. Gemini respects that Cancer is different and wants to help setup a world where the water sign isn't frustrated.
Gemini will serve Cancer to the best of his abilities, though sometimes Gemini can't help but be lazy and instead spend the day sunbathing with a bottle of whiskey or other vice. Gemini can be messy in their outside world because they are so focused on their inner world. Gemini are known for messy rooms.
Cancer can be messy because they are so focused on how things feel. Cancer is very concerned with matters of the heart. She doesn't understand why Gemini isn't as concerned about the heart place, and this can cause her to nag somewhat. She might complain that he doesn't exude as much empathy or display as much empathy. This could actually be true, but it's not exactly the best accusation to make. Gemini is prithee to putting thoughts together and coming up with concrete or abstract solutions. Feeling something for the sake of feeling something without it going anywhere is kind of strange to Gemini. They can't let go of their thoughts that easily. They don't mind watching someone else give into their emotions so much -- they find it fascinating and curious. Of course, Gemini doesn't like negative emotions and will wish you could turn those off -- but sometimes Cancer goes through dark emotions because that is to be what is soaked up in the moment.
The good thing about this is Gemini will offer ways for the Cancer to find happiness -- perhaps Gemini does this from a selfish standpoint, but they honestly don't like to see people suffer. Gemini thinks unnecessary suffering is a fallacy and not worth any good.
Cancer meanwhile will be delighted to be with someone who is brilliant thinking and won't try to steal her thunder. The problem with two water elemental signs coming together is they both want to overpower each other with their emotions whether they are positive, loving, huge, amazing, or destructive, damaging, insane, etc. Cancer with a Gemini will instead have the emotional tone of the relationship and can work on it in her own unique way without the manipulations of another Cancer, or a Scorpio or a Pisces.
Gemini can be much sweeter to Cancer than other signs when Cancer has misgivings. Some will find Cancer annoying for all the brooding, change of scenery, and out of control heart. Gemini weirdly finds this stimulating -- and stabilizing.
Gemini in a way finds his real twin with a Cancer. Gemini is symbolized by twins therefore it is meant to have natural success with relationships. Gemini rather likes Cancer because it offers something so different from itself while also not having to abandon its core understandings of the universe.
Gemini naturally finds itself going toward relationships, not against them. This is interesting as an air sign. Libra often desire relationships and force them. The Libra kind rarely spend time alone and single because it goes against their internal nature to balance. A single scale can only tell the weight of something -- two scales help differentiate the weight of, well, a legal case. Libra is incomplete as a single scale.
Aquarius, on the other hand, is one of the more single signs. This isn't because Aquarius as an air sign is interested in a single asexual life. On the contrary, the sign is looking for a soulmate and will go about their life looking for such in whatever way seems the most tactical. What's the point of having to hold onto someone if they are not the soulmate or what's the point if there isn't a meant to be? Aquarius gets lost in the romanticism of relationships. Meanwhile, Gemini as the spring sign when everything is as it should be naturally attracts romance. Gemini gets why the flower dresses itself the way it does, Gemini understands why the Sun is just right, and why you need just the right amount of rain. Everything about that time of spring is alluring, and a Gemini should know how to make it work for himself.
Where Cancer is clingy, Gemini gives freedom. These are strange things for both, but also alluring. Cancer has never been told to be free. It always assumed it must merge with someone and never stand as one whole. Cancer may at first resist this kind of freedom, but it does eventually take well to freedom.
Freedom allows Cancer to better understand and maneuver in their emotions.
Gemini isn't used to someone clinging to them. It's nice to be wanted so much, albeit shocking. Usually people are too busy observing spring to actually embrace it fully. People don't open their arms to hug the rain, nor cuddle the flowers, nor hold hands with sunlight. So Gemini finds it a little odd that Cancer takes things that extra mile -- and even demands it so.
Tips to Make the Relationship Work
1. Gemini shouldn't try to explain Cancer's emotions in big and messy words. This will confuse Cancer. Try to keep it simple and bite size. Gemini automatically have a lot of words and this can be tangling for them. If you don't have enough time to edit your words and make sense to each other -- try counseling. A mediator might help in untangling Gemini's words to make sense to the Cancer, so she isn't lost and hurt for no reason at all.
2. Cancer has a tendency to get lost in interpretations and start making up crazy theories that don't actually work. Allow the Gemini to help clean this up and don't fear critique. Meditation again would be good for this pairing as in the middle of a fight or dispute, Gemini will try to use words and sentences where Cancer will try to feel things out whether with tears, hugs, or anger.
3. Gemini will start up projects randomly and not finish them. Cancer will take care of things that she sees left unfinished. The only problem? Gemini likes to start up projects for practicality, where Cancer is looking to nurture and nourish projects as if they are children. This can leave some blind spots in the relationship if something isn't really practical (a Gemini concern) nor a care-taking responsibility (Cancer).
4. Try different things together and see what makes you happy. Sometimes do things that make the other person happy, but that you might not understand.
5. Gemini can afford to be more vulnerable and try to give more of his heart.
6. Cancer can afford to put more of herself out there and have her confidence challenged. Do not only rely on Gemini's skills to pay for the bills.
7. Gemini, be sweet to the Cancer. Cancer, be gentle to the Gemini.
8. Give each other assurance when possible.