Real Talk - Why saying no is difficult at times
Saying no sometimes is easy, but not all the time
The yes response is hard but saying no is tougher
Saying no is definitely tougher for me, because I have always had the desire to help others, and when a person comes to me with something that they need, and I have ample enough to supply, well its very tough to say no then.
However, if I don't have any of what they are in seek of whether it be knowledge on a certain subject, a physical object they are in need of, or actual money. I simply let them know the truth rather then saying no, and tell them I have none of what they seek. Saying no for some folks is selfish at times, when they know very well that they're in the prime good position to help, and would rather not by just keeping it all to themselves.
Some people need a moving crew, and I'll say no sometimes
Yes and No to doing favors
The other thing is, if someone asks me for a favor, like to help assist them physically with my bodily efforts as in doing or performing any task of a physical nature. I first decide to assess the situation, what it is they need to get done directly, and then apply situational awareness as to what exactly it is that they need me to do in fine details, and definitely before saying that I cannot perform such a task, or simply saying no to them.
This helps for me to adjust accordingly if need be, and by using my own knowledge on many life situations to configure an effective plan of action to take per say if I indeed agree to help them by saying yes. (Being armed with prior knowledge of anything related to the performance of such a task, helps me in advance to assist them much better, and I generally will say yes in such cases.)
In the case of not smoking its tough, but for me its easy
Crystal clear judgement
The following text below is my second part answer to her question.
Good judgement comes in handy in these sorts of instances of choosing what ways to effectively respond to a person, but to truly mean well works wonders when a person has no idea what to decide at all.
"Hi ReneeDC1979, in reference to your later Q&A follow up statement in terms of dealing with a religious belief system, well yes I indeed have an issue with allowing god to have way with things for me. I think its due to the obvious factor as you've stated here that sin steps in the way, and as soon as a person attempts to over step their boundaries, as to controlling certain situations in life that are completely and utterly in the control of God's hands. This is where the difficulty exist for me, and I'm sure for most other folks as well."
Being told no by your peers is tough, but some of us deal with it
A perfect example of having such difficulty of letting things take its course naturally and by God's commands, is when I was young I wanted to change my families current condition at that time years back when we were extremely poor and out of luck.
However, no matter what I wanted that situation was in the hands of the lord, and mainly because during such a time, the economic and financial status of my family was based on the determining factors of my parents career choices. Plus the other predominant fact of job opportunities in New York City at that particular time period was pretty rough overall.
So I decided to try my hardest to make up the difference by finding a job at the young age of 8 years old myself, and I'm sure many other kids have tried to do the same over the years, but this was something that had driven me towards a entirely different direction in life. Young folks aren't suppose to try to get a job, and so I believe I lost part of my childhood in the process, which is how God may have punished me.
Saying no to racism an social inequality is tough for many
Temptations in life examples
Having to fall victim to certain temptations in life is truly tough for most people, in the case where they definitely should have said no, and instead they've submitted to it, and decided to be weak by saying yes.
Saying yes doesn't always mean to vocally express such a thing, it can also mean to simply participate in something you know inwardly it is wrong to do, but neglect to listen to your inhibitions, or sound advice from parents or high authorities and go ahead and break a law or two anyhow.
In this case making the right decision when such an occasion presents itself, for instance when it seems tempting to steal something, because no one appears to be watching, or even worse things in life.
Cheating on your relations between others such as your spouse, or breaking a good business partnership, or team relationship are great examples. If you worked for a government agency, or a huge corporation and decided to sell much of their top secrets away to enemies or to anyone for that matter is also a very good example of things you should definitely say no to, but the temptation is always there to give in, especially when the pressure is on.
Saying no to racism is very tough for those people who are stuck on the indifference's between themselves and others, feelings of supremacy, harboring bigotry, being trained to hate others from birth, and loads more reasons.
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