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Working on Your Kindness Skills

Updated on March 22, 2014

Live in Peace

We can find peace each day in every confrontation we have if we make a conscious effort. It's easy to get caught up in the fast pace around us, and not even acknowledge the humans around us. Let's start simple.

Do you pass people during your day keeping your head down, not even seeing those around you? These are your fellow brothers and sisters. Smiling and saying hello can uplift a person's mood. Maybe one of them is sad, feeling lonely, or having a bad day. You can help or change that simply by the small act of a smile. I have seen it in action or have felt it myself from another kind person.

I used to always put my head down, barely making any eye contact with those around me. Then, a woman at my workplace continually made an effort to say hello to me. I soon found myself looking up for her, and doing the same for others as she had done for me. It was contagious. I soon found pleasure in greeting others because it made them feel good as well as me.

This can be extended to every aspect of your life, in any situation, to any person. The following is a verse I have taken from the Bible to encourage this new line of thinking.

Peace with the Disgruntled

So, it's easy enough to smile at others, and maybe get a smile back. What about a person who seems unhappy at all times? I have seen them, and so will you. Sometimes I pass and smile at the same people in the hall at work, and no smile ever comes to their lips. Every day I smile, and I get nothing in return.

What do we do? Giving up on smiling at them is what comes to mind first. No stop, wait just a minute. How about making it a goal? Make it your personal mission to obtain a smile from that person. Maybe they are shy. Give everyone time to respond to your kindness, even if it takes months, no years! I have been working on the same girl in our Rehab department for years. I don't always see her, but when I do she always looks at the floor. I am more determined than ever to get her to smile!

Posed smile to real smile with giggles!

Peace with the Fruit of Kindness

Okay, the picture above shows you evidence of what a smile can do for another person. My family and I were having our pictures taken, and the photographer took one of my husband and I by ourselves. My husband decided to play and give me a big 'ole grin around the tree. Look what his smile did for me in a casual environment. Imagine what a smile can do in a more serious environment when not much fun is going around.

As a volunteer in a children's kindergarten class at church, I learned a song that we taught the children every week. The song is based on a Bible verse that included kindness, a fruit in our lives. Fruit is good and good for you!

"The Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control." Galatians 5: 22-23

The kids in our class loved singing this song, and we always giggled while we sang it. We smiled at one another, and practiced being kind in the classroom later during toy time.

Smile, smile, and smile some more!

Peaceful Beauty

Did you know that a smile can make you beautiful? I don't just mean physically on the outside. I mean beautiful in the soul. Smiling and showing happiness makes others want to be around you.

I had a photo I was using for my profile picture on one of the social media sites. I changed it to this picture with my huge smile, and got so many comments and much positive feedback. It made me smile to hear it not because they complimented me, but because it caused a conversation between me and others.

Peace Out

Smiles can lift one's spirits, bring laughter, and give one peace. Who doesn't want peace in their life? I want plenty of it, and I hope you will smile and give some too.

Take time to write your comments below, and give me some advice on how to spread peace through kindness.

Smile on and peace out!

Do you have tips on how to work on kindness?

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      Kristy 3 years ago from Indiana

      Indeed! The comfort zone is always my problem. I pull strength from the Spirit to do so. Thank you, Inspired Heart!

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      Yvette Stupart 3 years ago from Jamaica

      Kindness really makes a difference, but we have to practice it. This means moving from our comfort zone and reaching out to others.

      Thanks for sharing Krmission.


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      Kristy 3 years ago from Indiana

      Thanks for all the comments! Very helpful!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Lovely hub. I truly believe a smile is contagious and a kind word to another person may just be what makes that person's day. No matter how small of a gesture, showing kindness to others makes an impact on the life of others.

      Up and more, pinning and tweeting

      God bless. In His Love,

      Faith Reaper

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      Larry Osborne 3 years ago

      As your father, I am proud of you for your attitude toward everyday

      living-that starts with a smile of course. I agree that a smile can be the

      start of many things. For those who won't return a smile or even look

      your way, maybe a spoken word is in order.

      Yours in Christ-Dad

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      Nana 3 years ago

      Nothing lost by smiling, it takes fewer muscles in your face, than frowning. The person in rehab that looks down ?? Can you speak to her by name.? I had a similar experience. I would smile at a person that I saw only once or twice a year. Sometimes she would turn away. I would internalize her behavior as "shunning" me. I found out she was legally blind and couldn't see me unless I was very near her and spoke her name.

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      Heather 3 years ago

      Thanks....I needed this reminder. Smiling really is a simple way to start and hopefully produces a chain reaction : )

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      Tyler White 3 years ago

      Very inspiring and should be used by all as an everyday guideline.

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      Beckie 3 years ago

      I smiled at this:) so proud if you! I'm a smiler. At least if I'm not feeling cruddy. I love to see the reactions I get. Especially w older folks! Love you! Keep up the good work!!!

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      William 3 years ago

      Awesome job on your first blog! I look forward to reading more. I can't wait for your new book to be published !