Duffsmom, my hat is off to you sister. Pastor's of most church's do not have time to work full time and be the kind of pastor that God calls them to be. Why should a pastor take a vow of poverty, or work 23 hours a day and end up being a lousy pastor, lousy husband, lousy father, and a physical and emotional wreck?
It is my personal opinion that Pastors have THE most difficult job in the world. Yes, there are Pastors out there who are not doing what God has called them to do. That is life. But you cannot lump every bad pastor in with all who are fulfilling their call with Character, moral fortitude, integrity, and by the Holy Spirit.
1Timothy 5 talks about paying the elders, and i believe you could include Pastors here: "Let the elders who rule well be counted worthy of double honor, especially those who labor in the word and doctrine. For the Scripture says, “You shall not muzzle an ox while it treads out the grain,” and, “The laborer is worthy of his wages.” The word "honor" in this verse can be translated "honorarium." . And do notice that it says those who "rule well" The full time pastor is a laborer. If he is a good pastor, and does his job well, he has a right to provide for the needs of his family. Not to mention to have health insurance in case he or his family get sick or have another child.
It is unfortunate, that there are some pastors out there who are paid extravagantly. But again, you cannot lump them altogether.
I for one feel very good about putting money in the plate to not only help the church with all its needs, but also to help provide my pastor with his pay. After all, without a pastor, you don't really have a church, at least not one that works well.
Just some thoughts to consider. I love an appreciate my pastor, and all pastors and their families who are doing what God called them to do and I believe God has no problem with them making a living. I so appreciate all the hats they wear and the dedication with which they serve God and the flock. I do not believe they should be paid because of living in a fishbowl and all, but because they work very very hard and long long hours. God bless you Duffsmom.