Sorry for the late response! Just figured out I had a question to answer.
I am in my mid forty's, and after having gone through all of the angst and upheavals of life so far from childhood in a pretty common family, the missteps of puberty and adolescence, young adulthood, to where I'm at today, the father of three teenagers. The most important things I have learned is simply that "it's all right".
We don't have to judge nor worry about being judged.
We don't need to "get even" or do things that show that we are the "boss" and in control.
We don't need to make demands of others or even of ourselves.
We don't need to fight, and hate is a waste of time.
We just need to be a breathe of fresh air, relax, and realize that "it's all right" and life is truly wonderful if we only open our eyes and our hearts and let it be.
God, Family and true friends always have your back, and are a must have for a successful life!!