Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.Ephesians 6:4
Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged. Colossians 3:21
Since your talking about pastors, my pastor will report anyone to children services if he suspects abuse & he has said so in front of the whole church.
There is a big difference in between correct discipline and abuse.Abuse causes anger,bitterness and really messes a person up.
When we even become angry we are not to sin- nothing we do with our children should be out of anger.