If you had to make a choice between being right (having proven yourself to have the best arguments) or being happy, which would you choose? Why? Can you illustrate by example? Thanks
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Thank you for your example, midget38. Sometimes it makes one wonder when/how can it be possible for disagreeing parties to first understand (the other person) than seek to be understood. Stephen Covey mentioned about the value of this habit.
Yes, and to disagree agreeably! Think Win WIn, as Covey also says.
Or are we just being too optimistic in believing that it's possible to come up with a Win-Win situation each time? =)
Agreed, right/wrong may actually be relative to a number of things, e.g. the point of view. Which leads to the thought that a point of view can be influenced by the words used to represent it, which only approximates the actual fact.
I just came from commenting on newcalendar's answer, then what do I see? We're thinking the same thoughts. Awesome! As I mentioned in my welcome page, I am a sucker for synchronicity. Thanks, loveofnight.
We share the same experience. I can absolutely understand where you're coming from. I need to consciously refrain from speaking my mind, to keep the peace. Sometimes I get lucky and my friend by him/herself eventually discerns what is right.
I guess I don't mind if someone is right. What I mind is when they insist they are right, but don't know what they are talking about, yet are willing to draw lines in the sand and fight to the death.
I do mind too when someone who is wrong insists on being right; my usual mode might be to argue. But I try to consciously decide whether the person might still be open to explanations. If not, I pray for the person reach their own insight.
Thanks, CJ. Gives me food for thought. You are right about wisdom. Lonely sages have a rich inner life that require no external affirmation to provide for happiness.