My boyfriend has a fear of death, a inate distrust of people, and, despite his good and caring heart, tends not to help or reach out to those who are in need of it. I am spiritual, I have grown up in a christian home and have by my own choice chosen to follow the religion. I have never feared death, I would be OK with dying knowing that the things I have wanted to accomplish, the differences I wanted to make, have been done. I love striking up conversations with strangers, it is my job at a restaurant I am a hostess, and also when shopping or in line or purchasing things, I enjoy communicating with those around me and learning about them, even making friends; I tend to trust people by reading them from first look. Tentative trust mind you, I'm no idiot. Also, I do not volunteer much I admit, and I do not like to boast as if to make myself look better but I try to help those around me who need it. A dirty man holding a cardboard sign on the side of the road, he wants money for food, he wants help. I don't give these people money, I go and buy food for them or offer to take them to a local restaurant usually in walking distance and buying them whatever they wish to eat. I have been refused, but I've also seen the greatest happiness and gratitude written in men's faces. I've seen excitement over some chicken and a water bottle.
The point is, spirituality matters. My best friend and my boyfriend are both atheist while I am a follower of Christ. We live our lives very differently. We fear different things. I don't think that I would sooner jump in front of a bullet for them than they would me, I know they love me, but I think I would sooner jump in front of a bullet, or a fist, or a word, for a stranger than they would. That doesn't make them bad people or less of good people. I honestly just try to live as Jesus did and when I'm in a rough spot or making a hard decision, when I left my friends and life for a new one, what helped me and got me through in the end was my religion and, once, even asking "what would Jesus do?" My answer to that question was "Love anyway, love is not a sin, and the son of God always chose love."
I hope I've helped you in some way, enjoy you're day. May your questions be answered.