If you could change one thing in your past, what would it be"

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   Michele Travisposted 10 years ago

   If you could change one thing in your past, what would it be"
   
   I would never drink a drop of alcohol.  I am an alcoholic  , and this has ruined so  much of my life. Am on bankruptcy .  I would go back in time, and never drink.  What would you do, to make your life better?

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   MarleneBposted 10 years ago

   I would have waited until I was older to get married. I married my first husband at the age of 20. That marriage ended in a heated divorce 13 years later. Mostly because we were not mature enough to understand the general principles of life. Now, even though my ex and I are remarried, we are good friends who wish we had not rushed into marriage at such a young age.

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      Michele Travisposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your answer.  I am glad you remarried:)

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   sheilamyersposted 10 years ago

   There are so many things I'd like to change, but then I wonder if I'd really want to. Everything I've done - good and bad - has made me into who I am today. I think I'm a better person even with all of the mistakes I've made.

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      Michele Travisposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks sheila sometimes mistakes do make us better.  We learn a lot when we make mistakes, you did and it made you a better person!

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   jjackson786posted 10 years ago

   I agree with Sheila- there are so many things. I think I would have liked to seek therapy during my teenage years for my father's alcoholism and drug use; that would have prevented a lot of my feelings from manifesting into negative behaviors. Within the past few years, though, I would like to go back and break up with my ex-boyfriend sooner. I stayed with him through drug use, multiple bouts of infidelity, and I kind of just want to go back in time and kick my younger self in the face for tolerating him

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      Michele Travisposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I understand, those are things I wish I could have also done.

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   peeplesposted 10 years ago

   I would have testified against my father when I was placed in foster care. Instead I let the solicitor take care of it which resulted in a plea deal. Now we have a very bad man on the streets. It is the only thing in my entire life I wished I could change, and only because I worry he may have hurt others since his release. All the rest I would leave the same because no matter how bad it was the result was it made me awesome!

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      Michele Travisposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your comment.  You are awesome.

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   suzettenaplesposted 10 years ago

   I don't think I would change anything.  I have made the best decisions I could given the information I had at the time.  We all make mistakes and hopefully learn from them.  I wouldn't want to change a thing because the good times were wonderful and might not be the same if I change anything in the past.

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      Michele Travisposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Wow, you have a fantastic life!

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   ahorsebackposted 10 years ago

   Michele , many of us are "alcoholics"...I am a believer that anyone who drinks is ! And I too wrestle  with the addiction !   I know you have had your problems ,yet all anyone can do is go on from here , stop looking back , its a big big letdown !  Lets go forth - only . No regrets !........your personal buddy ...Ed

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      Michele Travisposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Sometimes I tell people, my scars teach me the mistakes I have made help me from making the same mistakes in the future.

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   Lisa HWposted 10 years ago

   There's nothing I'd change before I had all three of my kids.  I think of that song (I don't know if anyone is familiar with it because it's hardly "radio material" these days), "On My Way To You", Maureen McGovern.
   
   Oddly, perhaps, there are things that I would have done differently in the last twenty years; and they involve being such a stickler for "trying to always do the right thing".  It turned out they created a lot more problems in my life than if I'd been more willing to take my chances and break a few laws, rather than do without improving some things for myself by temporarily relaxing a little on my "always aiming to do things the right way" thinking.
   
   Well, one example is that if I'd been willing to dare to drive an uninsured car about four miles to the job I managed to get; and drive it without a license; if I had taken that chance for about three weeks in 1998 my life would be a whole lot different than it is now.  Live and learn.
   
   We have it so ingrained in us that if we do the right thing we won't run into a lot of problems we might if we did the wrong thing.  We're raised to believe that doing the wrong thing is what gets people into serious problems.  Sometimes that's the case.  What I've learned, however, is that I could write a whole book of a lifetime of trying to do the right thing (and most times doing it), and finding myself essentially being penalized for it.

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   Toytastingposted 10 years ago

   There is nothing I would change in my past. All the events happening in the past, make you a much more stronger person today. Today,when we realize that we shouldn't have done something in our past, this realization only occurs because we did that thing. When you say that you would go back in time and never drink, this thought comes because you have known the consequences of being an alcoholic. So, you value being a teetotaler more.
   Hope this answers your question

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      Michele Travisposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      It really does!  The only things I drink now are cola, water and coffee.  I love coffee!

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    old albionposted 10 years ago

    Many years ago I left an employer. We kept in touch now and then and I built a new career in the Insurance business. I became a local manager and I know I was set for greater things.
    After four years my old employer offered me an excellent position in his company. We talked for many hours several times, eventually I agreed to re-join him. The move was a success and we flourished in our business.
    However, I have always regretted making the move. I know that I was on the road to great success, I threw away the opportunity I had worked very hard for.
    There you are though, that's life.
    Graham.

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       Michele Travisposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       That is true, that is life.
       But you are still wonderful

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    NiaLeeposted 10 years ago

    I would have organized myself better to be able to see my father again and share with and give him everything I wanted to.

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       Michele Travisposted 10 years agoin reply to this

       I understand this also, thank you very much for your answer

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