I cannot speak for Deergha, but perhaps you have no options, or seen another way, look at what came before the options.
From my standpoint, Love is the greatest law. We are called upon to glorify or manifest this love, and this plan is designed in such an intricate and beautiful way, that it will necessitate experiences along the journey. Choices are a part of it but are not separate, rather a branch or branches of the Life-Tree, if you like.
Separation creates narrowness and pain, leads us to look at choices in an egoistic way, and we forget that we are not our own but came from Him.
Have faith, everything eventually blossoms.