I had a real problem with this when I first got married; my mother-in-law could be a real devil and hurt my feelings more times than I can remember but I think God helped me to see that something in her life made her the way she was. Thinking this way made me able to cool the hurt and ignore insults. I used this for others afterward too. How about you?
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Well it really has and she is no longer living to hold a grudge against. She had Alzheimer's before she died and the last time I saw her she told me she loved me...maybe that is what my forgiveness got me. It is really the way I remember her.
I believe that for truth!
My mother was an angel with Alzheimer's thankfully, and my mother-in-law who then loved me more than her son! Her last words to me were "I love you" and maybe the only time she ever said them, only time I heard them come from her mouth, ever.
It got better in the end but of course it was hard to live with for years and I mostly stayed away from her. Maybe that is what she wanted but then I was the only one in bad health willing to come in and do for her. We never know where life will go.
I always wondered if it means forgiving as many times as they ask or just forgiving without them asking? Which of course I do but just wondered.
I asked our pastor that once and he said Jesus forgave those who crucified them and they didn't ask to be forgiven, neither did they think they needed to be forgiven. So it's without asking also.
That is the way it should be. As a young girl in love with this woman's son though I was very sensitive and easily hurt but God did help me through it.
That is great...I couldn't say I am fast at it; maybe that comes with practice.
I think forgiveness is a personal choice; I have seen many who cannot all their lives and you can see the hole it has burned into their hearts...or maybe minds.