MIL wants to baptize our 4 year old with her other 2 grandchildren. Part of me feels like it is no big deal since to me it means nothing more than her getting her head wet. Part of me hates it because they refer to the children as born sinners needing cleaned. My first thought is if my daughter wants to do this when she is old enough that would be much different. Mom in law does not know mine or my husbands personal beliefs. Would you do it just for the sake of keeping your child from feeling left out at the baptism of the other 2 and for the sake of making an amazing MIL feel good?
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My 4 year old won't understand, and likely wont remember which was why I was sort of ok with it. I don't want her to understand someone saying she is born bad. Hopefully hubby makes right decision wither way.
I gave up in helping make this decision. Told my hubby it's his mom and he can figure out what he is willing to deal with. Too many variables for even me to decide! Thanks!
Thanks. I agree! At this point I am leaving it up to my husband. People are born innocent. There is no way of getting around that.
I love my MIL, and my daughter is young enough to maybe not remember it. Maybe getting it done now will avoid this coming up later. Very hard decision. I guess it doesn't hurt anyone, except my sanity. :) Thanks
Right! A family function complete with party couldn't possibly hurt anyone!! LOL
I'm curious about why you MIL doesn't know your personal beliefs.
It's not easy being a Jewish Atheist in the Bible belt. Actually if too many people know you aren't a Christian you likely will either be treated diff or looked at diff, especially if you only know extreme Christians.
If it gives your MIL peace of mind, I myself would do it, DID do it! (for my father-in-law. I think he died happier that way.) My mother sent me to Catholic schools. She wasn't Catholic. Guess who's ecclectic open-minded beliefs I'm closest to?
Thanks! Valid point. I don't think my MIL would do that but she would likely secretly be mad and then do her best to cram in as much religion as possible each visit for fear of my daughter being damned.
You are always welcome to answer any Q I post!! Thanks. I really don't like the born thing either. If she does have it we will for sure tell her this is for nana.
I believe if I allowed it, I would tell MIL she isn't to tell the children that they are sinners. Allowing the baptism is your compromise to her, and keeping her mouth closed is her compromise to you. But that's just my opinion.
This was my original thought. To imply something is wrong with my daughter bugs me. I decided not to have the conversation and instead let him have it. He can use me as a scapegoat though if it helps. We'll see! Thanks!