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How does an Atheist talk to someone who believes in God without causing offence?


It seems that no matter how politely one tries to avoid the topic of ‘God’ these days, there are those who will insist on bringing it up. Many atheists, myself included, find religious an extremely offensive and contentious topic and don’t want to speak about it. How does one get a ‘believer’ to drop the topic and never talk about it again – without causing offence?

 

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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 20 months ago

    That's exactly what has happened. Yesterday was the end of yet another friendship. And I refuse point black to ever go near my brother-in-law again. Even my sister saw over a period of two months that it was him, not me.


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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 19 months ago

    Christ commanded Christians to go out and witness (convert) others to Christianity. So atheists do NOT want to talk about religion, and Christians insist. It's not about whether one can talk nicely; it's that most atheists don't want to discuss it.


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    Lela (Austinstar) 20 months ago

    It's possible to unfollow a fb friend without unfriending them. Check the little drop down box and you should see it. They can still see you, and can send you dm. But you don't have to see their every post.


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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 19 months ago

    Why on earth would I do that? The subject bores me to tears. I have no interest in discussing it. We've got global warming, massive inequality, terrorism, and more. Those are real things. Why on earth would I speak of imaginary gods?


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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 19 months ago

    You're absolutely correct - for the most part. I disagree only on the fact that if someone mentions god, that they are out to deliver scalps. There are exceptions. However it does mean they believe in mystical pie in the sky. Not my kind of person.

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    Angele Parris 19 months ago

    Christian fanatics being just as dangerous in their way as Muslim ones. - Anyway

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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 20 months ago

    And that is what I was taught - that religion is a private affair and it is never brought up in public. The purpose of manners is to avoid insulting or hurting someone else. Trying to convert other people is bad manners and leads to fights.


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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 20 months ago

    Funny you should say that. That was what I thought they were supposed to do. Drop the subject. They don't. They seem to think it's an invitation to debate it. Thank you for confirming that.

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    Link10103 19 months ago

    4 of 93 hubs about atheism/agnosticism/religion over the course of a year and 3 related questions within the past 3 months = obsessed.

    She totally tops your harassing of pastors roob...


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    Lela (Austinstar) 20 months ago

    Wow, first Christian I ever saw that recommended NOT reading the bible! LOL. Well, that's because reading the bible will turn you off of Christianity faster than anything else! It's NOT that we don't want to accept your god, it's that we CAN'T!


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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 19 months ago

    I must be doing something wrong. That said, sometimes even a blatant "I don't want to talk about that' seems to cause a pause for a moment, and then another door is found to speak about the same topic.

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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 20 months ago

    Indeed. It does bother me that much. I seem to spend my life having people want to discuss religious with me and the topic bores me to tears.


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    Lela (Austinstar) 20 months ago

    I would just stop talking to her period. Is she needs to say something to you, she should relay through her son. Leave the house when she comes over, basically just ignore her completely. Maybe she'll figure it out some day, but I doubt it.


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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 19 months ago

    I like that. And it's not offensive at all. If I keep repeating it, it may sink in. :)

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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 19 months ago

    I wish all religious people thought that way. Then I have no issue. I have issues when, out of the blue, make statements or ask questions in order to stop 'sharing their faith.' I find it deeply offensive, and I do not want those people in my life.

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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 20 months ago

    If only they would be content with that...


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    Vladimir Karas (ValKaras) 19 months ago

    John - People are so incredibly different that we can't generalize what is a "good" topic for a conversation. Some enjoy arguing over sports and politics, some see a good pastime in questioning others' belief or a lack of it. Just humans I guess.

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    Lela (Austinstar) 19 months ago

    She is not talking about theism. She is talking how to get other people to stop talking about theism.


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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 19 months ago

    That's a really good response. I was on the bus earlier and the lady next to me started talking to me - first about how boss made R50 million, then what a strong believer she is and she doesn't believe that God gave her mother dementia....

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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 20 months ago

    "If the person does not take the hint, why worry about any offence.' I've lost six close friends during the last six months because none of them would drop the subject. It's as if my very existence is offensive.


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    Tessa Schlesinger (TessSchlesinger) 19 months ago

    I spent 5 years at a religious boarding school, plus ten years as a fundamentalist Christian attending many churches and meeting many Christians. What on earth could you tell me that I don't know and that I don't know from experience?


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    Lela (Austinstar) 19 months ago

    Atheists do not talk or pray to nonexistent gods. So, telling an atheist to pray to god for help is about as helpful as windshield wipers on a submarine.


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