I can only tell you the basic tenets of the spiritual life. Sometimes, there are, or can be other forces involved: School, peers, governments, parents, environments and a big one called Karma. This may influence and do influence or lives.
Other than this, I will return to the beginning:
1, An intense faith in Something Higher is essential.
2. Selfless Service with a deep spirit of gratitude to the divinity in God ...in humanity. This accompanied with purity, will expand the Heart and make us receptive to the Divine Grace; the Higher Light.
3. Spiritual practices: Scripture, devotional songs, prayer, meditation....
4. LOVE. This will be almost impossible in the beginning, but slowly and steadily, things will improve.
5. It is impossible to become rich without ambition; desire, and in the same way, it is impossible to find God without longing, knocking, seeking....without a life of aspiration or an inner intensity for happiness or Peace.
Show this or practice this Okeye, but do not expect it in others. They are God's children, not ours. Again, use your judgement, sometimes we need to walk away as if the mist is too dense, it will not see the Light. Prayer, in time, teaches us those things. Never try to change anyone, but love. Nothing belongs to us but God. Much Love, Okeye