They alone know what they mean. God-men come into the world to point the way, but we have to do the work. We are all accountable and when the time comes, you will not be asked about your friends, parents or husband, but rather what you did for God.
God-men do have the capacity to transmit Grace and do so according to the Will of the Supreme, but the individual effort has to be made by the Soul. If I gave you a million dollars free every Friday, you may be happy for 5, 20, 40 years, but the day will come when your own Soul will be disgusted with you for not working like everyone else. No one escapes self-effort.
" O Bible, the Saviour has taken away my sins, will you not take away my little, little worries, at least?" _ Sri Chinmoy.