How does it feel to lose a parent, child, spouse, sibling, and friend to death?

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   snapcracklepopposted 7 years ago

   How does it feel to lose a parent, child, spouse, sibling, and friend to death?
   
   Many are still grieving the loss of a loved one to death. Are you someone who is still grieving over your precious loss? The length of one's grieving process depends on the individual. There is no time limit in which a person should stop grieving. Sometimes grieving the loss of a loved one may never end. People learn to cope and deal with their loss of loved one to death through many ways. What do you do to cope and endure the loss of your loved one(s)? Can you share your advice and insights on how you get through those rough days like holidays, and fond memories?

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   Cissy1946posted 7 years ago

   That's a very big question you're asking and there is no one answer, big or otherwise. I've lost my parents, my sister, my husband, my high school best friend, my college best friend, various other friends and relations, and an assortment of pets over the years and the one thing I can say for sure is that they are all still missed. However, they are also all remembered and it's the memories, mainly of the times that bordered on the ridiculous that keep me laughing and the times of tenderness and comfort that keep me smiling.
   Grief is strange and has more to do with who you are rather than who you lost. For all my losses, I never cried at one of the funerals. There just weren't tears. After everyone had gone home and the business of "death" had been taken care of I had my private moments of intense misery and tears. But that eventually ends and what you do next also has more to do with who you are rather than who or what you have lost. Unless you're a person who enjoys personal misery and inflicting that misery on those around you, you will eventually realize that the sun still comes up in the morning, the birds still sing, the squirrels still chatter and chase each other, and your life goes on. You have to make adjustments and sometimes drastic changes, but that's what living is all about--constant change.
   Whenever something happens today, or I see a new movie, or hear a new song, I think about the different people I've known who would have enjoyed the event, movie, or song and it makes me remember them with a warm heart. As long as you have the memory of the person, they're never really gone.

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      snapcracklepopposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Your experience touched my heart. Please accept my belated sympathies and condolences Cecelia. Certain situations and even quiet times can magnify the pain of our precious loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and Grace on this thread.

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   gmwilliamsposted 7 years ago

   
   
   Very horrendous.  I recently lost my beloved mother who was my best friend in July 3, 2016.  An era is gone.   I am now a 60 year old orphan.  My father who was also beloved died on October 30, 1990- I was in shock, I couldn't believe that he was gone.   It is beyond horrendous to lose parents because now you are really an adult- no one as a true historical reference, no one who will ever care as much, & no one who is a truer, dearer friend.   With the lost of my mother, it is very surreal.  Yes, I have cousins who love & cherish me but no one is ever like a parent.  Those who have loving parents, CHERISH them & the moment they are alive......The death of parents is a chasm which can't ever be closed........A part will always be missing..........

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      snapcracklepopposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Awwww I'm so sorry for your loss Grace. Please accept my belated sympathies and condolences....Death is truly as the Bible calls it: An "enemy" I lost my dad to death a couple months ago. Its a pain in the heart that seems like it will never leave

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