forgiveness is a part of love. Jesus said "love your neighbor as yourself" and on the Cross "Father forgive them for they know not what they do" and "love one another as i have loved you" put those together and you begin to get a picture of what Gods love looks like, and so what ours should look like. Both towards others and towards ourselves. and though it was a gift that originated with Him, by doing it, it's a gift we give ourselves. it heals. it lifts up. it restores. we confuse ourselves by looking for easy answers and want to go to "a verse" to find something, rather than listening to the message that is being conveyed through the big picture.