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   japtakerposted 13 years ago

   What are the most important things you want people to remember about you after you are gone?
   
   If you could attend your own funeral, what would you want to hear people saying about you? If people only remembered one thing about you one hundred years from now, what would you want that to be? If someone were to write a posthumous biography about you, what titles might be appropriate?

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   cameciobposted 13 years ago

   I'm not sure but i'd like them to remember somthing about me that makes them happy, or makes them proud, or makes them smile.

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   MeonlyoneIcanBeposted 13 years ago

   I'd want them to remember how much love was in my heart
   My efforts to improve the world around me
   
   Posthumous biography title:
   -We Miss You: A biography about a single mother and her hope to change the world

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   Beege215eposted 13 years ago

   For however long I live, or when I die, I would hope that  someone to say "she has been a kind person".  Kindness emcompasses many attributes; it means that you caused no harm by intention, it means that you tried to think well of others and not spread rumors or lies.  It means that you treated your world with respect and care. 
   I would rather be thought kind than rich or powerful or even brilliant.  And it matters not how much time passes or how many books are written about me, I would want most remembered some act of kindness that I have done. 
   I am not a do-gooder by nature, but I do have my moments.and a persons good moments should not go unnoticed.

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   Slarty O'Brianposted 13 years ago

   My vanity is telling me that I hope they say I wasn't a complete moron. But really, once I am dead who cares? I will have created and contributed to chains of cause and effect for better or worse that will go on for ever,  Future generations that have my genes, and even those that do not, will have to deal with that. I hope I did more good than harm. But frankly, I don't care what people say or think about me, dead or alive. As long as I can live comfortably with myself, in my own skin, I'm fine. That's proved to be hard work, but it's gratifying work as well.   
   
   I suppose my mission in life is to aid in the development of the rational human mind. Whether I succeed or not is another matter. But at least I tried. That's all I can ask of myself or anyone.

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   Daniel J. Neumannposted 13 years ago

   Jap Taker,
   
   What a great question! It gives me a chance to stroke my ego, which, like it or not, is a motivator for many people (I try to balance my motivations). Ego is the self-identity, and for you libertarians out there (and you know who you are), that's the definition of an individual human being. But ego can lead to hubris and pride, which ought to be purged of by the other side of the ego: self-criticism, sentience, the ability to fix your mistakes.
   
   I'd like to be remembered as a writer. I never had any political aspirations. I just wanted to help people. I messed up a lot, and I'd like those things to be at my funeral too, to show my favorite trait about me: I change constantly, like water. My ego, if laid out on a board representing a timeline, would be ambiguous, paradoxical, and highly fractured.
   
   I hope I can write more books when I graduate. I've self-published two for now (OMA: One Man Army & OMA: Part 2), so, if I died tomorrow, that would definitely be mentioned.
   
   My pick for a biography title would be "Skinning teeth," because that's sounds so avant-garde.
   
   Thanks,
   
   Dan

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   skgraoposted 13 years ago

   If only I could hear them say he is alive.

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   heavenbound5511posted 13 years ago

   That the most important thing in my life was Jesus. That Jesus changed my life and the difference was seen. That I loved in a way that made them want what God offers in Jesus Christ death and resurrection.
   That Jesus light shined through me and my once I was broken in sin and Jesus picked me up, that it was by His love, grace and mercy that I ever had a chance to know Him and live for Him. That without Jesus I would of remained in sin and my life would of remained empty without Jesus.

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   The Demon Writerposted 13 years ago

   I want to be remembered as somebody who stood out from the crowd. Other than that, I don't mind how people remember me.

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    6hotfingers3posted 13 years ago

    I want people to think of me as a smile. All they have to do is write the word Smile on my tombstone. Whenever they think of me I want them to smile and think of a good thing about me.

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    lindajotposted 13 years ago

    That I was kind, and that I loved to laugh . . . the things I like in others

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    Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

    Nothing.  I don't care what they remember.

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    pennyofheavenposted 13 years ago

    There is only one thing I would like to be remembered for. And that is that whomever remains when I leave that they remember they were loved by me wholly and completely.

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    LeslieAdrienneposted 13 years ago

    I want them to remember that I was here.....

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    dragonlady1967posted 13 years ago

    I think I would want them to remember how much I loved them.  Then I would want them to have a celebration to remember all the goofy and fun things I did or tried to do.  Since I claim to be a clutz...they will have many fun, happy stories to share.

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    Dave Mathewsposted 13 years ago

    After I'm gone, who cares what they think? I never entered into life to win a popularity contest so it doesn't matter to me.

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    japtakerposted 13 years ago

    Thanks to everyone that I've gotten answers from so far. Personally, I'd want to be remembered as someone who loved others with every fiber of his being. I am, unfortunately, far from being such a person yet... but I'm hopeful :-)

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    Neil Sperlingposted 13 years ago

    Great question - I would like people to say there goes a chap that marched to his own out of the box drum beat with a smile on his face. Bull headed, tough minded yet soft hearted. He suffered often from his own mistaken choices but he suffered with class. Never bitter and smiled every moment of his life, tough times or good times, he lived it! He shared the wisdom he gained through experience with others so they would not have quite as tough a journey.
    
    Lived his own statement "Full Speed Ahead, One Inch At A Time" ..... it must be 4:20

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    C.V.Rajanposted 13 years ago

    Whether I want to here or not, I am quite sure what people would say"Thank God. What a relief!"

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    Rastamermaidposted 13 years ago

    Remember that I lived,nothing more nothing less.
    If I brought a smile to your face cool,if I brought a tear to your eye cool,I lived.
    
    I lived my life my way,loving God and my family.
    
    Nothing else matters.

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    artladerposted 13 years ago

    That I truly loved my family and I genuinely cared about my students.

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    RevLadyposted 13 years ago

    Sweet memories of a woman who touched their lives for Christ when she passed their way.

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    makusrposted 12 years ago

    My child, my writings and someone who strived to change people's lives.

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    iviskeiposted 12 years ago

    At my funeral - "We gather here today to remember the life of iviskei. He was one crazy betch, and annoying, but we loved him anyway. We told him not to jump out of the plane! Oh well. RIP you psycho."
    
    100 years from now - "This was one of the best novelists of our time."
    
    In a biography - "The life and death of insanity."
    
    Lol! I would want my death to be a point of humor. Funerals are so depressing.

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    Debby Bruckposted 12 years ago

    I would like people to say how much they loved me and that they know I loved them, too.

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    Darrell Robertsposted 12 years ago

    I would want people to remember my love and my kindness.  That is what I remember about the people whom I have loved the most.  I try to as many good deeds because that is what they taught me, and I would like to join them in the spiritual world once I depart this world.
    
    Best wishes

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    LongTimeMotherposted 11 years ago

    I like to think that some of the people I've helped along the way remember my contribution to their lives and will continue to give me the occasional thought after I'm dead, but I wouldn't want them to attend my funeral.
    
    The only people I'd want at my funeral are my husband and children. Their partners and children can come if they want to, but I don't need them to be there.
    
    Heck, I don't even need my kids to attend my funeral. I know they love me, and that won't change. If they were overseas I'd want them to just give me a thought, but I doubt they'd miss it.
    
    My husband, on the other hand, would need a very good excuse to miss it. He knows I don't like making any long trips without him either with me or there to kiss me goodbye.
    
    What would I want them to say? "She did her best, and I'm glad to have known her."

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    LoisRyan13903posted 10 years ago

    That I was a good person and a hard worker.  Hopefully if I impacted somebody's life they will mention that

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