Arrogance; Definition, Quotes and Tactics to Overcome
Arrogance is an obstruction in my heart; it does require surgical precision to control it. It does not feel good to feel arrogant, this is something which is not cultured intentionally but creeps on us e.g if you’ve done better than others or you are one of the few who could reach their ambitious goals, it will slowly surround you. What exactly is arrogance; in simple words arrogance is pride; unbridled, unreasonable pride which fixes us head and shoulders above others, it is a false feeling of superiority triggered by success or just by a person’s very nature. And it is this pride which always has a fall, the reason pride always has a fall is that it is inconsiderate of others.
A Peculiar Condition?
Many will perceive this condition to be peculiar; but if you analyze and observe your behavior many of us go through these phases; times when we feel at the top of the world for one reason or the other, and as a result perceive others as beneath us. Or maybe not in phases but in continuity, when we dwell only in our success or the blessings in our life; and bury our failures and embarrassments in the deepest darkest labyrinths of our mind where they lie forgotten.
According to George Stevens “I see myself capable of arrogance and brutality... That's a fierce thing, to discover within yourself that which you despise the most in others”
Our Failures Are Assets
Failures are meant to teach us among many things; the art of true humbleness, looking at others through the lens of failure makes you see many like you, looking through the eyes of success you see many beneath you. The memory of loss and failure should always be kept at hand; forgotten so that one is confident in his work and recalled so as to keep oneself humane. A man should always keep his roots close to his heart; and sympathize with those people who are equally talented but couldn’t find the mentor or the fortunate circumstances to progress.
Why eliminate Arrogant Tendencies;
To keep Depression At Bay
For the sake of self improvement; for a satisfied contented you, it is a necessity to be a source of positivism. This effort shall serve as a shield against a state of discontentment and depression. Selflessness is actually selfish; it works wonders for your heart and soul.
Human Beings Are the Same
We as human beings have equal rights. We are the same flesh and blood. Yet it is true that some are more gifted than others; then they have a responsibility towards the less fortunate.
Will Command Respect and Make Friends
No one likes the company of people who behave like they rule the world.
According to Samuel Butler “The truest characters of ignorance are vanity and pride and arrogance”
Some consideration and respect will make allies who will look out for you and help you in times of need. Arrogance will only spread dislike; as a result your competence and effectiveness will only go down the drain. If you are humble even when you know you are far better; your subordinate will want to work for you, your boss will think you considerate, a difficult colleague can revamp her behavior, your family if not suffering from a fit of terrible envy might admire you.
Will Allow You to Accept your Mistakes
Cruelty and injustice begin where arrogance starts; an arrogant mind even though capable of deriving the right conclusion, does not accept it. It is immensely difficult for the mind clouded with arrogance and pride to sacrifice its stand for the truth and the just.
According to Theodore Bikel “All too often arrogance accompanies strength, and we must never assume that justice is on the side of the strong. The use of power must always be accompanied by moral choice”
Tackling the problem of arrogance will allow you to accept your mistakes, have the courage to accept it, apologise for it and correct it. It will cultivate the sense to bow when you need to and where it is just, so that your life can be bigger and better.
How to tackle it
Ask of yourself that what exactly is causing this condition; is it your intelligence, beauty, popularity, qualifications, wealth etc. Then imagine how fickle is this life; nothing lasts and remind of many ways one can lose those. Beauty is skin deep and short lived. Years pass by in a blink of an eye and beauty withers in the same haste. Qualifications; many others could have done better had they the same resources and conditions which were at your disposal. The wealth belongs to the one who spends it; the rest belongs to progeny. Intelligence is of use if it helps others; being arrogant about it will serve others no purpose. People are unpredictable popularity can soon turn to defame; or some one else will be the successor of the same in times to come. In short nothing in this world is forever. What success should bring is a sense of achievement which allows us to respect ourselves.
Failures and embarrassments are valuable treasures for those in need to control their arrogance. One should recall the truthful words meant to insult in the past. This should jolt one to the harsh reality that no one is perfect. Recall that to reach the position of success how many times you fell and had to recuperate.
One should be honest about their mistakes.
According to Hugh Prather “Almost any difficulty will move in the face of honesty. When I am honest I never feel stupid. And when I am honest I am automatically humble”.
Confidence too has the tendency to instill arrogance as there is a thin line of distinction. Confidence is mandatory so as men can perform their duties to the best of their abilities, however a person who has unwavering confidence in his abilities and completely overlooks his shortcomings can develop arrogance. One should keep in mind his imperfections to keep from this state.
Arrogance; when acceptable?
Are there circumstances when such a behaviour is actually appropriate. The answer is yes; arrogance wakes in the person the ability to crush, so it is most appropriate in conditions when a man is in a state of battle. Arrogance is shown to enemies so as to intimidate them and discourage their motives.