Do Dreams Really Come True?
The following text was thought of an answer to jirel’s question above. But I think it might appeal to many others as well.
Once, I saw me myself in a temple.The next day I made a call to my mum, who is in another country.She told me that she went to a temple that day and prayed for my safety.Few days ago, I saw bomb blast in my dream.The next day, a blast took place in Nepal where I used to live before.Sometimes I dream of someone, and wake up immediately to see that the person is at the door.I saw my teeth falling out, after one month my cousin passed away.I am really confused.Should I try to enhance it, if yes how should I?Whats the reason for things coming true that I see in my dream?And what should I do?
About Dreams from a Rational Point of View
I admit to have only a very slight idea of dream interpretation but also a quite good common sense if it comes to numbers and probabilities. Not that I wouldn't err there either, everybody does, and there is no exception. Probabilities overcharge our minds and that's where some good math skills come in handy. But by knowing that I err might result in having a less manipulable mind than if I were ignorant about it. Please note that neither am I a professional psychologist nor a gifted mathematician. I just happen to be interested in getting to know my self better, so I have come across multiple approaches on how we perceive the world out- and inside.
Let's Take a Look
Most probably you are aware of the fact that your mother is in a country where there are temples instead of churches for example. Then you also know that she is the praying kind and that for her sending out a prayer is something rather usual. How often might she do that? Let's say once a day. It might be less. So whenever you have the dream about a temple, which wouldn’t be so usual for me but might be for a Phillipine -I have no clue whatsoever about the religious habits of your country- the probability that something related to that theme would happen in one form or the other would be a hundred percent. As you haven’t exactly dreamt that your mother would go to a temple in the country where she is in right then and pray for your safety, I would say there is absolutely no fate or pre-cognitive skills involved.
Predicting Bombs Would Save Plenty of Lives
About the bomb-blast in your dream. Nepal isn’t high on the bomb-blast-probability, ok. But first of all we tend to remember things happening in the places we have been to or are in any other way related to over everydays events anywhere else on this planet. So the likeliness of a bomb blast however is unfortunately not that improbable as we would wish for. Hence dreaming about it while a bomb anywhere on this planet goes off in the period of a few days should be in sound vicinity to normal probability. If you had dreamt of a bomb going up in Nepal in the next few days from that particular dream, that would have been much less likely, but yet I fear still not more surprising than dreaming of a Nepalese winning the lottery’s jackpot the coming month. Score so far: math vs. faith 2:1.
I am Thinking of a Friend Right Now
You wrote you are sometimes dreaming of a person coming to your door who then happens to actually stands there. Now, the question is, how often is sometimes? Once a week, a month, a year? Probably not more than once a month, but even if more often, how likely would you think it is that we think of the people during the day that might actually come to our door? I can safely assume that these persons [friends, relatives, mailmen etc.] also tend to appear more often in our dreams than others. Now, you would have to calculate the probability of them actually coming to your flat. I think that the likeliness of that happening wouldn’t surprise anyone. Coming along with that is the fact that whenever we dream of these people and it doesn’t happen that they knock on our door we will mostly forget about these dreams. This applies of course for the bomb-dream as well.
So when the ratio “dreaming of these people [doing anything!]” to “likeliness they actually knock on your door” for one month is in fact a 5:1 you would only remember the one time it happens hence thinking that the ratio is 1:1. That is a big difference and can lead to false conclusions. As we wouldn’t know how often you actually dream of beloved or acquainted people the real ratio could as likely be a hundred to one or if these dreams occured less than once a month even more unbalanced. And yet you would think you anticipated their arrival at that particular moment.
Never Light a Cigarette from a Candle
Now to the last bit, the “tooth means death” part. I’ve heard that, too, and think Freud has got something to do with it becoming popular. Of course it is an old myth, that he collected and might have found useful for his dream interpretations. I spare you the math part this time as it should have become clear that we usually dream of things in a much more general way than they usually happen and that if there is no exact time given in our dreams the probability of these things happening at some point in time is quite high.
All I want to say about an interpretation like this is that dreams are rarely understood that easily as they are presenting highly compressed information and are trying to veil the sometimes quite embarassing information our brain seems to deal with while we are asleep. So even if it seems that often the tooth-falling-out-dream means the death of a beloved or acquainted person there is no statistic on this planet that could prove this claim. Then dreams usually deal with things that already have happened or are troubling us know, our anticipations and fears. I guess the fear of our teeth falling out is quite big although we rarely think about this happening and could also stand for big feary events as well, like the death of someone dying. But you haven’t dreamt of your cousin dying, just your own teeth falling out. Let’s interpret this off the record as you being afraid of losing someone [or something, but for the sake of your question we stay with someone]. Isn’t that something that you think of every once in a while? And then I would refer to the “knock at my door”-probability-falsification.
So it is way more likely that this dream deals with your acute fears and worries than that I could anticipate the future as mankind hasn’t figured out to determine future events in a reliable way. Of course one might always turn to believing in miracles, higher beings or fate related methods of anticipation. But then we couldn’t argue anymore as this would be absolutely unprovable.
What You Should Do
To finish and answer your last question about what you should do let me tell you about myself. I believed in a lot of things over the years and was quite happy about that as well. As I grew older -I am almost 40 now- I’ve met very different people and have read many wise books. With new information came a new sight of things happening around me. I always only wanted to become happier than I was -and I wouldn’t have said that I was one of the troubled kind. So I’ve learned to observe and to ask different questions. And stopped just blindly believing what I thought was the truth but tested it. Whenever there was an easier comprehensible explanation for something, the more the complicated thesis must be proven. This concept is more or less referring to Ockham’s Razor. And one last truth I’ve learned is that what is not, can not be proven. So one could never prove that there is no god whereas it’s existence could, if god or his followers allowed so.
Understanding instead of believing things gives you more control over yourself and make your decisions less depending on your spontaneous emotions. Of course this still let’s you the freedom to integrate any kind of believe you like. But with every believe you weaken your control, hence making you an easy subject of the manipulation by others. If you believe something, make sure you surround yourself with as trustworthy and lovable people as possible, to not get hurt badly.
I wish you a joyful life and do not worry too much about the things to come. Keep an eye on possibilities but do not think they are inevitable. Most are not.