Attachment is the great barrier to show our love to others.
When we love somebody, we are attached to him and the problem that arises with attachment is that jealousy, hatred, anger, and many other emotions arise from that attachment.
Attachment in other way is the opposite of freedom. Who will not wish to have freedom? But, yes, freedom is connected with sincerity, honesty and unconditional love. Be compassionate and you will find yourself the happiest person.
When you see a friend and suddenly you feel a joy rising in your heart, concentrate on this joy. Feel it and become it, and meet the friend while being aware and filled with your joy. Let the friend be just on the periphery, and remain centered in your feeling of happiness.
This can be done in many other situations. The sun is rising, and suddenly you feel something rising within you. Then forget the sun; let it remain on the periphery. Be centered in your own feeling of rising energy. The moment you look at it, it will spread. It will become your whole body, your whole being. And don't just be an observer of it; merge into it. There are a few moments when you feel joy, happiness, bliss, but you go on missing them because you become object-centered.
Whenever there is joy, you feel that it is coming from without. You have met a friend - of course, it appears that the joy is coming from your friend, from seeing him. That is not the actual case. The joy is always within you. The friend has just become a situation. The friend has helped it to come out, has helped you to see that it is there. And this is not only with joy, but with everything; with anger, with sadness, with misery, with happiness, with everything, it is so.
Others are only situations in which things that are hidden in you are expressed. They are not causes, they are not causing something in you. Whatsoever is happening, it is happening to you. It has always been there; it is only that meeting with this friend has become a situation in which whatsoever was hidden has come out in the open - has come out from the hidden sources - it has become apparent, manifest. Whenever this happens, remain centered in the inner feeling, and then you will have a different attitude about everything in life.
Negative and Positive Emotions
Even with negative emotions, do this. When you are angry, do not be centered on the person who has aroused it. Let him be on the periphery. Just become anger. Feel anger in its totality; allow it to happen within. Don't rationalize; don't say that this man has created it. Do not condemn the man. He has just become the situation. And feel grateful toward him that he has helped something which was hidden to come into the open. He has hit you somewhere, and a would was hidden there. Now you know it, so become the wound.
With negative or positive, with any emotion, use this, and there will be a great change in you. If the emotion is negative, you will be freed of it by being aware that it is within you. If the emotion is positive, you will become the emotion itself. If it is joy, you will become joy. If it is anger, the anger will dissolve.
And this is the difference between negative and positive emotions: if you become aware of a certain emotion, and by your becoming aware the emotion dissolves, it is negative. If by your becoming aware of a certain emotion you then become the emotion, if the emotion then spreads and becomes your being, it is positive. Awareness works differently in both cases.
If it is poisonous emotion, you are relieved of it through awareness. It is good, blissful, ecstatic, you become one with it. Awareness deepens it. Be more aware every moment. To be aware every moment is difficult in the beginning but with practice, it will be easy. With practice you will become Awareness itself. Practice makes perfect as the proverb goes, so why not use it as a guideline? Go for it.