ahhhaa! Good Morning from UAE gimclendon . how are ya.. ? Oh yeah .. i see a bully really hiding in me.. tries to keep me silent witnessing Jesus .. but i know God has given me The Great Sword - His Word in 2Timothy 1:7 " God has not given me a Spirit of fear but of LOVE, of POWER and of a SOUND MIND. Amen!
We must puff at him and there he goes .. right under the feet of our Lord God and Savior Jesus Christ .. Hallelujah!
Rina gave a good answer, but I think you were talking about the school yard bully or the office bully. If do not think they are hiding fear. They are hiding insecurity--some may call it the same. They know they are lacking in some ways, not the best student, bad home life, etc, so they take their frustration out by belittling and physically abusing others. Also, today, I think the internal filter that we use to have to tell us right from wrong is disappearing. This is because cyber bullying is so easy to accomplish and can have such a quick impact, the perpetrators do not stop to think what is right and what is wrong.
Yes bullies are people who indulge in bullying just to prevent being confronted. They use the tactic 'Offence is the best defence'.
Yes they are! Or theirown insecurity. It's easier to attack and make someone else "small" instead of showing own woulnerable face.
Bullies are noting else but emotionally immature and insecure children (no matter the age). A mature, spiritually and emotionally, person with confidence and selfrespect would never do anything like that to another.
I'm not sure most bullies are - although I think many are cowards at heart. But you get some bullies either in school/college/work/neighbourhood who are basically just nasty people, who enjoy seeing people frightened, hurt and distressed. They're not hiding fear, just publicly displaying their darkness so that they can enjoy the reaction.
You make a good point. So the question is: Is the bullying behavior a way to cope with the reasons they are so nasty or mean, be it social or mental problems, or is bullying an emotional illness unto itself.
When somebody is trying to bully me and I'm in a mean mood, I verbally eat the flesh off their face. - My story @ http://hubpages.com/forum/topic/98537
I think you've also made a good point. I think some 'nastiness' will come from anger and perhaps even self loathing, that is then projected out onto those they bully. Others I think have deep rooted cruelty - mental illness or just born cruel?
Seeker7 your points are excellent. The only think I would add, which your points reminded me of, is the lessons or examples set at home. If Dad is a bully. The son will probably follow.
Hi Larry, Yes! I've seen that with one family. Interestingly one of the sons did grow up just like his bully Dad. But the other, older son and the two daughters were very placid, almost reserved/timid.
can't said they hiding they fear for it take a lot to pick on someone. its more on who they think they can beat, a win before a battle until they are proven wrong.
Sometimes I think bullies are people who just don't care what people think of them. I think the concern about how our actions affect others is what keeps most of us from being mean to others.
Maybe they experience some fear but I get the sense sometimes that bullies don't really question whether they are right or not. They are one-sided and believe that they are justified in enforcing their views on others. The singular characteristic that sticks out to me in the bullies that I have encountered is that they never really go outside of their own little worlds in order to experience what it is like to be the "underdog" or "the new person". They have never had to face their insecurities or other perspectives or being wrong and so they believe that a person who questions themselves, or is able to see two sides of an argument is really just a weak person. To me it is kind of a childish mentality.
In other words, I don't think that bullies are more fearful or insecure than other people but they have never been in a position in which they have had to face their fears. They have always been the big fish in a small pond but never the small fish in a big pond. Because of this, they look down on people who aren't as "sure of themselves", meaning one-sided or rigid in their thinking. The way to deal with these people is to be blunt, one-sided and not to expect a rational exchange of ideas. They will only respect you if you present yourself in a completely one-dimensional manner.
Bully is timid but with a group of people standing behind him makes it looks fearless. This sort of situation had been seen by me when I was a young boy in school. I have known these bullies that only appeared to be strong and fearless among their groups.
But when he is alone, the bully will not show his power of strength. Being a bully means he requires attention that he may not be getting. With the support of his group makes him thinking that being fearless will gather attention.
I am in 98 percent agreement with you. There is a small minority of bullies who are just mean and they do not need, though they usually have, any kind of support group. His supporters are usually afraid of him and try to stay on his good side.
Seen too many of such cases in schools. Encountered it with my son's school and I approached the bully. Showed him that I could break a pencil with just one finger. From that day onwards, he dare not bully my son.
Absolutely. Bullies tend to point out the weaknesses or flaws of others to make theirs look much smaller or not be noticed. There are many types of bullies, but the worse one of all is the one that has psychological damage from abuse. These types of bullies tend to also abuse physically. It's sad but the chain reaction of the bully of this type should never be passed on to another victim, but it happens.
A bully is probably more in fear than the victim he is bullying. He hids behind his muscles or heighth, thinking his other weaknesses will never be noticed...if he can point out someone elses! Very sad.
Bullies don't know how to get others to like them so they use intimidation and fear, rather than love and kindness.
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