Getting along with yourself
Importance of getting along with yourself
To get along with yourself is the most difficult. Separate your psychological perception from yourself and you will see how you are constantly fighting with yourself. You do not like anyone or anything if you do not like yourself. If one does not get along with himself, how could he be expected to get along with others?
Getting along with self is the most important point in getting along in this world. So first and foremost you must learn truly to appreciate and love yourself. Love yourself do not mean love for your egotism, selfishness, and self-interest. Love yourself because you are a child of God with divine potentials; it is your love and concern for this potential self that inspires and inspirits unfoldment of your true soul-nature.
You cannot get away from yourself, even if you fly away from civilization to the farthest corner of the earth. That is why God wants you to correct yourself where you are. Some people live in the worst circumstances and are wonderful in their ability to get along with themselves. Others have every opportunity in the world, but they cannot get along with themselves, they are constantly at war within.
You must not wait for your circumstances to change. If you wait for that, you will never make any progress. Say to yourself, "I am all right in spite of my environment. If I want to meditate, I will find a way to meditate in spite of my surroundings." There is no excuse that you cannot correct yourself despite any outer conditions.
You are the only one who knows whether you can get along with yourself, for you hide yourself very cleverly from others. That is why it is up to you to strive every day to find out whether you are at peace with yourself. Learn to behave. in that lies great inner peace and happiness. When you learn to get along with yourself, you will know how to get along with everybody.
Your conscience will help you to get along with yourself
There are several practices that are necessary in order to know how to get along with yourself. One: Anyone who is extremely emotional or is restless with bad habits can never get along with himself. If your conscience tells you all the time that you are doing wrong, how on earth can you expect to get along with yourself?
And when you meet others you will find that they will not extend their trust and their goodwill toward you, because a person who goes against his conscience mistrusts himself and that reflects in his character. Man's conscience speaks to him all the time and is constantly prodding him to change and to behave rightly. It is true, of course, that you can blunt your conscience. But it will not remain blunt forever.
So, always listen to your conscience, the voice of your inner self; it is there to help you get along with yourself.
Are you getting along with yourself?
Evenness of mind must be practiced. No matter what experiences you face in life, do so with an even mind. Evenness of mind, evenness of disposition, brings great happiness, not only to yourself but to others. That does not mean you should be spineless or without enthusiasm; it means you should practice calmness.
It is all right to enjoy the good things of this world, but do not become overexcited by them. And when sorrows come, accept them and find the solution of the problem instead of permitting yourself to become distressed and restless, losing your calmness within. Some people are always restless, only a few are most of the time calm and even-minded regardless of circumstances. But evenness must remain constant that it may serve as a foundation of your existence. Without that even-mindedness one can never find God.
Getting along with others begins at home
While learning to get along with yourself, you should also practice the art of getting along with others - a great but difficult art.
Begin in your own home with the persons with whom you live. If you learn to get along with those in your own home, you will be better equipped to get along with the rest of the world. You need to correct your own behavior and attitude. If you instead try to escape from those who rile you, your temper and passions will nevertheless cling to you, wherever you go, you will continue to have difficulties. Why not cure your difficulties here and now?
First of all, whenever you have problems with others, look to yourself, blame yourself if that is where the fault lies. Watch yourself and see if your behavior is right, see if you deserve the criticism of others. And remember, example speaks louder than words. If you want to change someone else, change yourself first. If you want to teach someone else to get along with others, set the example. Getting along with human beings means getting along with God. In everyone God is present. Only that the veil of ignorance has not yet been unveiled.