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Ten Sharp Tips to Ponder When People Say You Can't
On the Road to Sucess
How to make a miracle of yourself...
It always comes to a standstill or a halt when one is in the middle of making a decision as to go through with it or not that people: friends and family alike open their mouth and say that you cannot do it or that it would not fly. As a teacher, I am expected to teach and counsel, to instruct and counsel, to plan lessons and counsel, and to go my own extra way to help those who seek my opinion, advice, ideas and thoughts on the issues at hand. But it is rather difficult for me to say discouraging words affront like it is not possible that it could happen or that it would happen.
I have always come to understand of being uneasy in saying “no” but it would always be comforting to suggest ways in the approach of how to reject, avoid, cut, stop, and control steps and intentions that are plain and obviously impossible to succeed or to push through.
“The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.” (Walter Bagehot) This saying alone will dare you and make a rather spontaneous headstart out of you.
Meanwhile, though we, you, and I and the rest of the world know that we have made mistakes in the past whether it is through our own doing or not-- those blunders may be grouped into good or bad. We know and you realize that they were committed because of quite a handful of factors like: lack of experience, peer pressure, time element, situational trap, or last resort. Mistakes make us grow. It may lead us to painful revival or reconstruction or so to speak, re-invention of how we live and how we think and how we are supposed to harrow in or navigate in and out of how we choose to run our lives. But as always, “Experience is our best teacher...”Of course unpleasant experiences that you’ve always wanted to erase or delete or spam in your past would always come back to you and haunt you yet, these chapters in your life are the ones that really and truthfully made you stronger. And meanwhile that you are healed from the trauma or hurt that were inflicted in to you- your persistence in life keeps you back on your feet and you keep getting up, straight and forward with your chin up and your face aglow...
In general, when people say no, you can’t, then all the more we are plunged into the “on the spot” and “in the limelight” game of “Yes, I can or I know I can”....It is this big C, that is a challenge for us to go ahead and prove to the world or to yourself, whichever comes first to start the fire burning, and keep it flickering, preventing it from dying.
You ponder and contemplate in what matters. How you are going to take the challenge because you are aware that you will succeed through the hurdles and stipulations along the way, there will be tough moments that you will stride and slide, and maybe freeze. Yet the more reason for you to keep on going and reaching out all the way up to the finish line.
Wouldn’t it be a very wonderful feeling if you have attained what most of your circle of friends thought you couldn’t do. It would be quite an achievement -- to be able to overcome and win. With this challenge that you have faced and have struggled but gained, you are ready to combat any or further aspects of what your purpose is in your life.
To sum up the above after-thoughts of the quotations, here are some short but sharp advices to remember:
1. Listen. Listen more. Apply or practice the advice that you think works for you and how and where you are.
2. Be selective in whom you seek counsel. Age and profession, most of the time, matter.
3. Learn or practice when to say “no” at the right time and place. Always pass rejection with grace.
4. Use tact as always. To be nice is not only to agree with the other person. When you disagree, watch out what words you will say.
5. Make use of your past to enrich your present. Your past is done. Some, you may continue where you left off. The rest, close it. It's over!
6. Your future is unknown, yet you can make your future happen. It may not be a hundred per cent sweep but if your goal is set and you make an effort to reach it, you will.
7. You can make things happen, when you will it, then you can.
8. Don’t let others run your life. Unless you are a minor, do not depend too much on someone else’s. Each individul has his or her own life to hurdle.
9. Do not give advice when no one is asking. When asked: then give, share. It is true friendship when someone heeds your advice. He comes out in the open and reveals that he is in dire need.
10. Do not be a passive friend. Give what you have if you can. If you do not know or you are unsure, just say so. You may offer some names for referral.
Above are ten take-it-or-leave-it choices or advices for you to consider. You are welcome to add, mix, or delete. Each one comes to mind as you consider situations that always keep you on your toes.
Albert Einstein once wrote : "There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle." If we give some thought to this, then it brings to mind famous lines as “Don’t sweat the small stuff” (R& K Carlson) , and “Do not take things for granted.” (Anonymous).
It is a miracle when you wake up in the morning when before you hit the sack, you are not sure whether you will still awaken or your eyes will open the next morning. It is a not a miracle when you are sure you will wake up the next morning and get up, and go through with the day’s routine. It is a miracle when you feel Mr. Sun’s rays on your bedroom window pane calling and brightening you up for a new day. It isn’t a miracle when your smart by-the-dot alarm clock goes berserk over now, it’s time until you kept on snoozing that it won’t leave you alone.
It is a miracle when your coffee maker’s aroma fills your morning with delight yet it is no miracle when you didn’t have time to grab even a sip of coffee because you took too much time getting ready to get to work or go to school.
Such miracles of life indeed happen. They don’t only conceptualize at the onset of sunrise because from dawn until sunrise to sunset into the midnight moon moment and the dawn’s early dusk, sparks of miracles happen. From the drop of a dew to a flower’s petal to the wings flapping from a new-born bird, to the sunlight rays weaving into the twigs of light and lighter hues of foliage, what a miracle. Each little touch from an infant’s grasp, to a fleeting melody, to the wispy sound of the wind blowing from east to west and back- wouldn’t you take things for granted?
Nothing or everything? A miracle, yes or no. When people put you down and think of you as like you are good-for-nothing, then make a miracle of yourself. It is no miracle when you do not lift a finger or two to make things work. Be alert and be tough. For it is only in your perseverance and open mind that you would prosper.