Total acceptance: whatsoever the situation is, don't fight with it. Accept it wholeheartedly, because it is through total acceptance that transcendence happens. If you fight with it you will be unnecessarily wasting your energy.
Accepting it, you preserve your energy. Accepting it, you become capable of understanding it, because only one who accepts can understand; one who rejects cannot understand.
Anything that you reject, anything that you become inimical to, you become incapable of understanding - because we avoid that which is rejected. We are really afraid of it so we keep it at the back and we escape from it; we find ways and means to escape from it.
And if you try to escape from something, how are you going to understand it? And without understanding there is no liberation, no transformation.
Buddha says "tathata" - accept it totally. Whatsoever is the case, accept without denying, without condemning, and in that acceptance many things happen, many doors open.
The first is: your energy is preserved, which is a great blessing. In fighting you dissipate energy, your energy leaks, you remain always energyless. And to go to the heights you will need great energy, you will need vitality. If you want to reach to the sun, the journey is long and arduous. You cannot go to the sun, you cannot fly that far away, without energy in you.
The man who is fighting his anger, greed, jealousy, possessiveness - and there are a thousand and one things to fight - remains entangled in his fight; he cannot go anywhere. He is constantly disturbed and distracted by these things.
He fights with one, represses one, something else raises its head - because he is one and the enemies are many. You fight anger, you will become greedy. The whole energy you repress from anger turns into greed. You repress one thing, and the same thing with a new face, with a new mask, arrives from the back door. You will go insane.
Accept the whole of life as it is. In your acceptance you will be preserving your energy, and you have inexhaustible sources of energy if you accept. Secondly: when you accept everything, your life becomes cheerful.
Nobody can make you miserable, nothing can make you miserable.
A story that will help you understand more.........
A man with three hairs on his otherwise bald head came into a hair saloon and asked to get his hair shampooed and braided. The hairdresser got on with his job but just as he was about to finish combing it, one of the hairs fell out.
The hairdresser was very embarrassed but the man only said, "Well, what to do? I guess I will have to part my hair in the middle!"
The hairdresser very carefully put one hair to the right side and was about to put the other to the left side when that one fell out too. The hairdresser could not apologize enough but the man took it really cool.
"Well," he said, "I guess now I will have to run around with my hair all ruffled up."
This is total acceptance! You cannot disturb such a man. He is always contented, he always finds a way to be contented. It is a great art. And a man who is always contented and always finds a way to remain contented has the capacity to see things transparently.
Discontent clouds your eyes and your vision; contentment makes your eyes unclouded and your vision clear. You can see through and through, you can understand things as they are. You see things as they are in their suchness; you don't impose any idea of your own on them.
And that is a miracle, a magic key. If you can see anger as it is, without any judgment, you will be surprised: seeing anger without judgment, without condemnation, without saying it is bad or good, should be or should not be, without bringing any "shoulds" in you, if you can see your anger as it is, with no prejudice for or against, a miracle happens: anger disappears and its energy becomes absorbed in you. Just by pure insight you transform anger, greed, jealousy. And all that goes on dragging you hither and thither, keeps you running, never allows you rest and relaxation, is absorbed; more energy becomes available to you.
And slowly slowly, when there is no anger - not that you have rejected it but you have absorbed it, digested it - no greed, no jealousy, no possessiveness in you, you have digested all these phenomena in you. You are becoming greater and greater and you have energies available to rise higher; you have fuel enough to keep your fire burning bright and without smoke.
It is a method of transforming your energies into your friends. Ordinarily you are taught such stupid ways that your own energies become your enemies and you are constantly fighting with yourself. Now there can be no greater stupidity than this; this is the most stupid act in the world that people go on doing - fighting with themselves. You cannot win, you cannot defeat.
You will remain quarreling with yourself, you will destroy yourself in quarreling your whole life. You will die, and you will never know what life was. You will never know the glories of life, the grandeur of life and the tremendous gift that life was, and could have been if you had lived with right mindfulness, with total acceptance.