“Gender equality!” Some of us fight for this. A lot of us find this true. I don’t see anything wrong with it. But, I have reservations in saying “yes” to this, only in the aspect of relationships.
If we talk about God’s love for us, we definitely are equal. However, our roles are different and that makes us “unequal”. The world we live in translates it somehow differently. Some women say that they can do whatever men can do, which is a very strong statement coming from a strong woman. But, no. Women are not created by God to be equal to men. I’m not being a gender racist here. I’m just saying that, generally, men and women do not have the same strength, body, mind-set, emotional intelligence, etc. In some ways, in terms of relationships, men are superior and women are expected to be submissive. And this is where the rally begins. Some women fight for this because some men abuse their “superiority role”. Some men fight for it because some women abuse their “inferiority role”. But these things should not really be fought about. There should be a point in our lifetime where men and women should accept the responsibilities God has put in our shoulders. The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." (Genesis 2:18).
In the Bible, God made Eve to be a helper, a "helpmate", and to help meet Adam's purposes. This is their first responsibility. Men have something in their shoulders that needs to be fulfilled. So, we are supposed to make the journey beautiful and light as we help them accomplish it. As it is also written in Colossians chapter 3 verse 18: Wives, submit to your husbands, as it is fitting to the Lord. The world also says that, “Every man’s success is a woman behind it.” Believe it or not, it is true in a lot of ways. Clichés are clichés because become the general truth.
Therefore, women, if you are single do not make an effort to look for the man of your dreams. Although, we are asked to submit to our future husband’s purpose, we are supposed to find what purpose we are suitable for. There are a lot of men out there, and we should not just eenie-meenie-miney-mo those who walk in to court us. As you go through the stage of exploring yourself, what you want to do with your life, how you make sure your plans for your future will work, you will be able to identify your purpose. And, that purpose is not something you would just throw when you meet the man of your dreams. The things you were able to come up with are the things the man – you will submit to – has in his shoulders. God designed only one person to match our unique purposes. Then, you become one in God and you become a team for God.
Now, your season in being single is not for you to isolate yourself in your loneliness. This is a precious season for you to embrace your purpose and what the world you are put in is for. Go ahead. Walk out of your door, stand up from your seat, and receive God’s love for you. Use his creations for your journey. Don’t look for “him”. Don’t throw away anything. Make use of your experiences as your lesson. Do not condemn yourself. It may be the consequence of your sin, but remind yourself that you are forgiven. Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires. (Songs of Solomon 8:4). You are worth God’s only son, Jesus. You are His princess. Enjoy God’s pursuance of your heart. The man you are waiting for should pursue you the same way. He will come to find you. Just be still. “You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.” – Songs of Solomon 4:7