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When I Can't, God CAN

Updated on January 30, 2020
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I am a mother of three wonderful adult children, and I'm also a born-again Christian. I love to share my personal experiences.


Don't Ever Give Up

You can do wonderful things when you keep your focus on the Lord. Allow God to work through you by giving the Lord complete control of your life. Our weaknesses tend to reveal God's strength. Are you aware of this?

I am here to tell you that when we can't, God can! Have you ever felt like just giving up? I am sure we all have, several times during our lifetime.

As a young teenager I myself can recall listening to two nurses sharing about how much longer my brother had to live, they didn't even pay any attention to me standing there while I was watching and listening. And I could clearly hear them say, "Oh poor boy, he doesn't have very long to go".

But you know even seeing my brother while he was in a coma, I still didn't believe it. I just didn't want to accept it so I choose not to believe in this heartbreaking truth. After all, this was my closest companion in life, my brother, and best friend. I thought to myself he will not die, God won't let him die!

The day he did finally die crushed my soul completely. It was though my entire world had come to an end, and this world would never be the same.

I wanted to give up and I did in a lot of ways, at least I thought I did because my actions changed, and my whole outlook of life changed as well. First my beloved brother and my closest companion, who next God? Me? Don't ever give up! Not too long afterwards I tried to take my own life. I ended up in the hospital but God wouldn't let me die, even though I tried to give up and really wanted to at that point. He had a plan!

Jeremiah 29:1

I know the plans that I have for you, declares the Lord. They are plans for peace and not disaster, plans to give you a future filled with hope.

God Has A Plan - So Don't Give Up


When we can't, God can. Don't give up do you hear me? "DON'T EVER GIVE UP ON GOD"! Don't say I can't, when God can.

All the time God had a plan for me, as He does for you. I just had to find this out the hard way before I could understand that the Lord was going to use my broken heart, and use me as a vessel to reach out to others.

He was also going to use my failures as a way of being there for others. But little did I know (at that time) that there was going to be again another tragedy with my own children, with their lives at risk. This is when He would choose to use me.

1 Corinthians 1:25-29

Because the foolishness of God is wiser than men, and the weakness of God is stronger than men. For you see your calling, brethren, that not many wise according to the flesh, not many noble are called. But God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things that which are mighty; and the base of things of the world and the things which are despised God has chosen, and the things which are not, to bring to nothing the things that are. That no flesh should glory in His presence.

Good News - There Is Always Good News Too


Contrary to popular belief of what most would see as good news is, it isn't at all about our goodness, strength, or wisdom. In fact, the opposite is true. God chooses those who are inadequate inside and uses them as messengers, but the ultimate glory goes to Him. You see, when we serve out of our weakness and into God's strength, it is then obvious to everyone that the power of the Holy Spirit and not the strength or wisdom of man has accomplished great things.

The Lord

Sent Me

Once again I was in a new nightmare of what felt like a never ending journey of being in the hospital night and day. This time with my own children, both at different times in their lives, but back to back. There was one bad report on their health after the other, this was so painful to be a bystander while watching their suffering, as well as being uncertain of the final outcome.

Being a stronger person in the Lord, I was able to look beyond my own children's suffering and see the suffering of others around me. They were with their own loved ones, during their stay and my being in the same building too, day and night.

It was then that I took the time to reach out to these various mothers, who were also there with their children. I was there to pray for them and to just really be there, while listening to their concerns.

My firstborn son (while personally suffering) was also in the habit of praying with me, and they finally moved him out of intensive care. And even then in his own ongoing suffering he would pray with me for those around us.


A Man

In Distress

But what really hit home to me is the day that I decided to go to the hospital chapel during one of my neverending visits, and I saw a man in his distress, as he sat there silently in tears. I thought this poor man must be sad for his child, it was a Children's Hospital in Denver, CO.

I decided to reach out to him and asked him if he would let me pray for him. And much to my surprise he wanted me to pray. So I prayed as he raised his arms up, and I laid my hands upon him while assuring him about how much God loves him. In the end I hugged him, then carried on to my own child (though he was 19, he was still my firstborn boy in my eyes) to care for him.

I never saw that man again but what I did see that really stunned me was a message on the same day that I prayed for this man. It was a cry for help (he was about to take his own life), and he was making it known in that prayer at the chapel.

OH MY GOD! This man this stranger was about to take his own life, and God lead me to him not even knowing the reason for him being there in the first place. This man was ready to give up, Do you hear me he was ready to give up? But God wouldn't let him, so He sent me instead! I truly believe this in my heart.

When I Can't, God Can! - I can't Stress this enough


Revelations 21:4

He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There won't be anymore death. There won't be any grief, crying, or pain, because the first have disappeared.


After several weeks in the hospital my son and I were finally able to go home, only to be back a few days later because there were several new conditions arising. The nurses (that were also my son's caregivers) wanted to visit our home, while we were temporarily there. They wanted me to fill out his will. I would not do it, I flat out refused! I felt like if I did; it was basically saying he was going to die so again, I refused. I admit I was afraid, he was terminally ill after all. I cried solo like a baby when I was driving home from the hospital one night from another one of his visits. I had to go get some things at home, I really don't know how I made it back because my tears just flooded my face. The sobbing was so intense that I could no longer see out my car window, while I drove home this night. I so much just wanted to give up right then and there!


God Answers Prayers

His Timing Is Always Perfect

When I Can't, God Can!

So I decided to put a brave face on and I repeated Psalm 91.- Though A thousand may fall at your side, ten thousand at your right hand, but it will not come near you.

I quoted this each time I wanted to give up.

Today, 25 years (a quarter of a century) later my son yet lives in his 40's! Also, at the age of 26 my daughter lives as well. She is now special needs (a result of E coli in several American children of the 90's) but she is the most special person a mother could hope for! And she's extremely intelligent with various subjects. I am extremely grateful, love all of my children, and they are all special and worth fighting for. You see when I couldn't do it then God came in and He gave me the strength to believe, even when all looked hopeless. He gave me the strength and the compassion to reach out to others, and in that reaching out He took care of my children and He taught me a valuable lesson!

When I Can't, God Can!

DON'T EVER GIVE UP ON GOD! I can't stress that enough!

Let God Work Through You - Let God and let God


Give God The Glory

Each day as you go about your business, acknowledge that you can't do it, but God can. Put your dependence completely on God for his strength, wisdom, and goodness - not your own. Throw yourself into the arms of Jesus and ask him to carry you as you do the work that he has called you to do. And as you begin to see success, don't forget that it is God who strengthens you, provides the ability for you to do the work, gives you favor, and opens those doors. It isn't about you, but about the God who deserves all the honor and glory. He is the One who should be acknowledged in the midst of "your" success. So Give God the Glory.


The Bible says, "Without faith, it is impossible to please God, for he who comes to God must believe that He is and that He is a rewarder of those who seek Him (Hebrews 11:6).



Dear heavenly Father I pray in your Son Jesus name that you will help us to never say we can't; because you CAN. When we depend on you each day even when all looks hopeless, you CAN. Help us to trust in your plan and never to give up. Thank you Lord for teaching us that you are our only provider. Amen!

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