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Why Sex Before Marriage Misleads Many

Updated on July 27, 2017
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Philip Agutu, is a building engineer and a passionate writer who loves Christ Jesus. He grew up in the beautiful Taita hills in Wundanyi.

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Why sex before marriage misleads many

Sex is among the many God-given gifts to mankind. What I mean is, apart from the state of being either male or female in biological terms or gender, the physical act in which the sexual organs of two people touch and can result in a woman having a baby i.e. sexual intercourse. Apart from sex being an act of procreation it is a leisure activity when done within the religious and society constraints, since it eliminates and closes the doors for any negative feelings or a guilty conscious. Those who do it outside these limits usually perform the act with a hidden fear of punishment when caught and end up being remorse afterwards.

With the different opinions in the many religions and societies’ laws nowadays, the youths and the unmarried are in a dilemma not knowing whether it is a vice or only their opinion and personal conscience matters when it comes to whether to have sex first or wait until marriage. There are many high risks and consequences involved and to an extent, the teenagers and adults are not ready to handle them since they affect the emotional, physical and spiritual health of the victims.

Sex is an act of a friendship union or binding between only two lovers which God intended to be a lifetime fusion to the participants. In other words, sex is all about marriage and family, whereby the two become one flesh and accept the other irrespective of his or her sexual performance. They therefore accept wholeheartedly the fruits of their union which in some cases may be pregnancy or even infertility.

This isn’t so among the unmarried as there’s a tendency to fall in the trap of sexual obsession whereby love becomes veiled by lust that is insatiable. Doing the act over and over again with the same partner, with nothing as strong as love to bind the partners together, leaves an unsatisfied void which can only be filled inside marriage and in God’s will.

By definition; fornication is sex before marriage, and adultery is sex between a married person and somebody who’s not their wife. They both promote unfaithfulness, abortion, sexually transmitted diseases, emotional breakdown to the innocent partner, remorse to the unfaithful partner, physical abuse in marriage e.g. battering, school dropouts among the teenagers and spiritual bankruptcy as ones relationship with God is tainted with the guilt of sin. As it overwhelms the victims, it makes them quit their walk with God spiritually, and this becomes a platform for other vices as alcoholism. Therefore, fornication and adultery are both referred to as ‘sexual immorality’ as they are wrong and not an honest act as they mislead many to their downfall in their pursuits in life and promote promiscuous behaviors.

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    • Philip Agutu profile imageAUTHOR

      Philip Agutu 

      17 months ago from Voi

      In the Scriptures, 1 Corinthians 6:18, "Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body." It's better to flee like Joseph who fled from Potiphar's wife than to sin and hope to repent later...The consequences of sexual sin made king David's throne and his peace be shaken to the core. To the non Christians; don't be misled that sex before marriage or adultery is okay, and to the believers; one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit is Self control.

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      17 months ago

      Ecclesiastes 7:20

      "For there is not a just man upon earth, that doeth good, and sinneth not."

      I suppose each of us (chooses) our sins or "cherry picks" which scriptures we'll obey or ignore. No one is "sin free".

      We are all essentially a "work in progress".

      (Every "sinner" has a future and every "saint" has a past.)

      Matthew 6:14

      "For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you."

      Unlike mankind God can separate the sin from the sinner.


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