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A Golfer's Mind Should Be At Peace During A Round

Updated on September 7, 2016

A true story

Have you ever played Intercontinental's Natandola Bay Golf Course in Fiji? My wife and I stayed there recently and while she settled in happy at the pool with a good book, I tried the immaculate Natandola golf course - a fantastic experience. I got a tee time to play alone but an older American gentlemen had later put his name down and I was glad to have the company. I introduced myself and learned his name was "Bud." After teeing off but before playing our second shot on the first hole, we heard another golf cart coming up on us and turned to see the assistant pro driving up and asked us if we wouldn't mind having a lady join us. We both turned and looked back at the first tee and saw a young woman standing there ready to hit.

"No problem," I quickly said. Then I realized I impolitely hadn't asked Bud if it was fine with him. I instantly looked over at him and he was frowning but reluctantly nodded his agreement..

"I'm very sorry, I didn't ask you first. I just thought...."

"I don't like playing with a lady golfer. Normally, they aren't very good and don't hit very far and will slow the game. But, it's fine...." As he said that we stepped back to the cart off the fairway and allowed her to hit and watched in silence as her drive flew over our drives and landed 20 yard ahead. We both stood there with our mouths open.

The attractive young lady drove up and we exchanged introductions. As we played on we learned she was from South Korea and had played golf for several years, had lessons and was touring Australia, New Zealand and Fiji with a friend of hers and had an 8 handicap. Yes, she was distracting especially when she made a long 25 foot putt on the thirteenth green and as she walked past Bud and picked her ball out of the cup, Bud wryly said, "Nice Butt!"

The young lady blushed a bit and didn't say anything. I luckily had the presence of mind not to say a word about it. Bud,realizing his attempt at levity lead ballooned with a total stranger, he sadly kept to himself and played badly the rest of the round.

Natadola Bay Golf Course, Fiji

The Clubhouse at the Intercontinental Golf Resort, Natadola Bay, Fiji
The Clubhouse at the Intercontinental Golf Resort, Natadola Bay, Fiji | Source

All of us have embarrassed ourselves one time or another

As I thought about it later, what do the pros do when they get distracted or hit a bad shot and embarrass themselves. Remember when Kevin Na made 16 on a par 4 at the Texas Open (which was the highest score ever recorded on the PGA Tour for a par 4)? Among the disastrous events taking place, he whiffed it trying to hit the ball, hit another ball off his thigh, dubbed two shots trying to hit it left handed,etc.etc. When the round finished he just smiled silently knowing there's not much else you can do but as we all know now from his great career, better days were ahead for him.

Here's some suggestions on what to do:

  • What's done is done. Stay in the present and focus on what you're doing now and what's ahead.
  • Think about embarrassing moments in the past and how you overcame them. You've made it through before and you'll get through this.
  • Laugh it off to yourself. Remember no one's perfect.
  • Talk to others about themselves. What have they ever done that embarrassed themselves and how did they get over it?

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    • peachpurple profile image


      3 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      yes, nobody is perfect but then, laughter sure makes the tense situation better


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