Soccer, Vuvuzelas and Men: Is Your Man Neglecting You For Football, And Should You Put Up With It?
Soccer, soccer, football football football, vuvuzelas... It seems like a perpetual drone going on in the background of any sensible non-football-obsessed person's life. Are you a football widow? Hey, did you know that there's a soccer World Cup going on? Heh heh!
I know there are a lot of ladies out there who actually love soccer, and are maybe even more obsessed with it than the men in their lives. However, I'm not one of them, and if you're reading this then I'm pretty sure that you're not either! (Or maybe you do like football: just not nearly as passionately as your man does.) I don't grudge a man a hobby or a sporting interest, mind you. We're all entitled to some enjoyment in our leisure time, even if that enjoyment involves eleven men in funny shorts running about after a ball. But is your man becoming a little neglectful of you as he becomes wrapped up in the unfolding of the World Cup – and what should you do about it if he is?
There's A Soccer World Cup Going On!
It's not that hard to understand a soccer fan getting so absorbed in a major event like the World Cup that it's hard for anything else to grab their attention. After all, it's something that doesn't come around just every day: it's something that football fans look forward to long term and has a big build-up to a fever-pitch of excitement.
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So, perhaps it's understandable if you're not getting quite as much attention from your man as you're used to at around this time. Maybe you're not getting the cosy cuddles on the couch anymore (or not unless you sit down and watch the match too!) Perhaps he doesn't want to go out to dinner, or for a long leisurely walk. That's one thing, and maybe it'll all go back to normal when World Cup fever is finally over. But is he being really naughty? Is he breaking promises? Maybe he agreed to pick up the kids or the shopping, but somehow the soccer – or even just discussing the soccer! - intervened, and somehow the jobs don't get done, or get done only if you give in yourself and do them?
What I think is that wrong behaviour is wrong behaviour, and it needs to be dealt with. But on the other hand natural enthusiasms are a beautiful thing: they're part of how we express our love for life, and sometimes they overflow in unpredictable and uncontrolled (and sometimes regrettable) ways. Look at it this way: most of us have some area where our enthusiasm and passion really catches fire, whether it's a hobby, a career, a sport, music or whatever else. Have you known what it's like to feel that passionate exhilaration for something - maybe your favourite band when you were a teenager? What if that band came to town and announced they were going to play every night for a fortnight, and your buddy could get tickets? Might some of your regular responsibilities go by the wayside? (Maybe even now!) We're all human: that's all I'm saying. What are the ways in which you neglect him?
Plus, his inattention and rabid fixation on the soccer might prove useful to you in various ways. What can you get away with while he's not paying attention? Maybe you were disagreeing on the new paint scheme for the bathroom... But if he's in 'yes, dear,' mode, then now's the time to get on with it!
For a real footy obsessive, balancing the demands and requirements of marriage and family with the delights of the beautiful game are a predictable, seasonal test of willpower. But if it's predictable for him, then you know it's predictable for you too. When any of us has our willpower tested, there are few people indeed who successfully resist temptation every single time! If it can be anticipated, then perhaps you can forgive in anticipation too.
If you are having to pick up the slack with household and regular responsibilities, due to your man's being too wrapped up in the vagaries and fortunes of his soccer team to be paying full attention, then bear in mind at least that it's a temporary state of affairs. And once the World Cup is over, then you can make him pay! In guilt, in childcare, in shopping... you never know, overall it might be worth it. How is he going to make his absence, tardiness, slackness and neglect up to you? It could be interesting finding out!
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