I've recently heard that schools have sports days in which prizes are awarded to all children, just for taking part. What is the point of that? Children need to learn that in life, there are winners and there are losers... in college, sport, life, business. Surely, it is better that kids are prepared for this reality, rather than brushing the harsh reality under the carpet?
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Dearest friend, were hubpages to take away your badges, would you stop writing? I dare say no. You would continue to write for the love of it. It would not take away your drive or desire, would it?
I don't give a damn about petty little electronic medals, I don't write for them, I write for money, when I get copy published, it means I have won that place in the mag, I don't write to lose. I play sports/games to win.
Whatever makes you feel good. That's what it's all about. Congratulations on your published work.
It seems there must be a way to make it less harsh for the losers. But that softness cannot overlook reality and shelter kids.
Real life lessons can be learned through sport, and sometimes, those lessons will hurt a bit.
What do you think of my comment to hucklebury below? Not repeating the whole comment so hub doesn't get funny with me...
The coach should select players based on their ability and how hard they try so the teams are fairly evenly matched. That could mean separating the good from the not so good or having mixed teams.
I agree, but have had painful experiences at losing sports. Those times taught me lessons, just as much as winning had other lessons.
You are right. With winning, I learned gratitude. With losing, I learned acceptance. Both huge ingredients to lead to a pretty good life.
I wonder to what degree the coaches of younger kids have grown more responsible, especially for the less successful, reluctant sportspeople are.
I imagine that some kids want to just enjoy, while others want to compete. Room for both types?
Possibly the less sports-inclined kids can enjoy the game, while the natural athletes can be tested against each other.
Should coaches play a role in this by selecting which kids follow which route?
Yes, aspects of learning are learning how to be competative and in so doing learning the laws of how things are done without cheating, competivness does not mean win at all costs.
Exactly my friend. And I'm sure the award given to the losers is to enforce feeling good about taking part. You might find the following interesting:
Giving awards for losing is in no way teaching about being competative, so play the game, if you lose hard luck, you get nowt, must try harder, is the lesson of the day.
Agreed about the lesson, however, we are not talking about adults but children who must learn to compete in a positive way and become graceful losers. We're not talking about adults like yourself.
I understand your point Garifalia.
My suggestion is that part of learning how real life treats us, is learning to win graciously and lose honourably. In life, you cannot always be the winner, but at what age can that lesson be learned...
I believe if what you mentioned above is done in primary school then that's just dandy. Then in middle school and high school it should be the regular way because by then children should know how to behave in a better way whether they lose or win.