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In Defense of Men's Panties

Updated on June 15, 2010
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Men's panties are a little like unicorns, except for the fact that they do actually exist. However, like the splendid unicorn, men's panties have a mystique about them that is both envied and feared. For the men who seek the panties, they are viewed as the pinnacle of clothing, the most desirable form of attire.

Unsurprisingly, (mostly because there always seems to be a backlash against people liking things in one form or another, regardless of what the thing is that they like) some do not support the idea of men's panties. Some believe that feminine clothing strips a man of his masculinity. On a mildly unrelated note, others believe that cameras steal a portion of the subject's soul. Beliefs, though numerous and widespread, very rarely reflect anything remotely resembling reality. We must be careful never to take them too seriously, lest we end up visiting the woes of a fantasy world upon the real one.

A man should have his panties if he wishes them. If they create feelings of femininity and softness, so much the better. There is nothing more damaging than the belief that men must be two dimensional testosterone driven creatures constantly striving for greater manliness. It is damaging because it strips away the native humanity of a man and turns him into a parody of himself. We are all, male and female, mixes of masculine and feminine qualities.

Since the feminist movement took hold, we've come to accept women demonstrating traditionally masculine qualities like aggression, both mental aggression in the corporate arena and physical aggression on the battlefield. Yet the male expression of feminine traits is still taboo. So taboo that the merest hint of a man embracing a feminine side is often derided by men and even by some women who would be outraged if it were suggested that they were less than feminine for doing 'masculine' things like working outside the home or wearing pants.

Whether a man wears panties because he likes the look or the texture or because he wishes to feel feminine, his wearing panties should be no more controversial than a woman wearing traditional men's clothing like denim jeans. We cannot claim to be a society of equality if we mock and deride men who seek balance in their wardrobes and in their personalities. For in reality, there is no such thing as a masculine trait or a feminine trait, there are only human traits.

Let us value all people as people first rather than deride them as being lesser men or women based on the clothing they like to wear.

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      codyjo 7 years ago from New Mexico.

      such a striking declaration. this is really inspiring & encouraging, hope. your points are so eloquently made. you have the power to liberate people from ignorant perspectives & instill solidarity in the sane. always good to read your stuff, hon.

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      Gr8legs 8 years ago

      Hi Hope, apologies for the previous and inadvertent slip-up - more care in future.

      In the last couple of Hub articles you've published, Hope, I've noticed a common thread regarding the sociological aspects of men wearing lingerie.

      There's an old joke that marriage means different things to men and women - when she marries, a woman instantly doubles her wardrobe, whereas a man loses half of his!

      In terms of the sociological aspects, when a man dons attire traditionally ascribed as being "women's" clothing, he is seen to be demeaning himself, whereas when a woman "cross-dresses", she is seen to be aspiring to a higher ideal. Thus women wearing male clothing is more socially acceptable. Women will never be truly equal to men as long as this attitude persists.

      The reason I chose Gr8legs as my monicker for the Hub came about as a result of the number of comments I have received by women when I have been out in public wearing hosiery. When I have been to the Rocky Horror Show, for example, I have had women comment that I look better in stockings and suspenders (garters) than they do. I recently attended a "retro" themed party and dressed as David Bowie during his Ziggy Stardust era. Along with the red spiked hair and thunderflash make-up, I wore a kimono top with (very short) satin shorts, black gloss semi-opaque tights and boots. During the course of the evening, I must have had at least twenty women comment on my legs, remarking on how great they looked in the tights as well as the Ziggy make-up; a couple of them even (half-jokingly) suggested that I shpild wear them more often - if only they knew! None mentioned the kimono top, shorts or platform boots.

      I do not normally openly wear lingerie in public, but when I have i.e. fancy dress parties etc, the response has been overwhelmingly positive. I have no doubt, however, that peoples reactions would be much different if I were to do so in circumstances other than those I have described above. Could this be that the society's norms and expectations are not only waived regarding what you are allowed to wear, but also what you are allowed to express?

      We have, as a part of our make up and our psyche, a degree of both genders. In oriental philosophies it is the Yin and Yan, whereas Carl Jung described it as Amina & Animus and stated that the anima and animus act as guides to the unconscious, unified Self, and that forming an awareness and a connection with the anima or animus is vital in acieving psychological growth. Yet males - especially so in western societies - are discouraged from expressing their softer, feminine side (anima), even - or perhaps especially so - by women. Jung also claimed that, if a person does not proceed toward self-knowledge, then neurotic symptoms may arise.

      So, in summary, if a man has a desire to wear feminine attire and he denies himself - or he allows himself to be dictated to by his significant other to deny him - this expression of his anima, then he is potentially heading down a slippery slope towards compulsion (forbidden fruits always taste sweeter), or else may possibly develop psychoses (how many serial killers do you hear of wearing silky lingerie?). Remember "Silence of the lambs"? The killer at the beginning of the movie (before we get to meet Hannibal Lecter) has a feminine-obsession psychosis and is making a suit for himself out of the skins of the women he kills - probably because his mum wouldn't let him wear panties! (LOL).

      Keep up the good work, Hope, you are a campaigner for change for the good of both men AND women.

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      chevy34_00 8 years ago

      Hope, You're straight to the point about why It's okay for men to wear panties. Thank you.

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