Being a Woman with a Shaved Head
I shaved my head and learned so much....
I turned 33 years old and I wanted to do something different. I wanted to feel free, I wanted to do something for myself, something that took courage and I would never forget. I shaved my head. All of it, all the way to the skin. Yes, I did it, all by myself, while my kids took a nap, and my husband worked. As I stared in the mirror, I was surprised to not feel sadness, or fear, I actually felt a warm sense of peace and I felt beautiful and liberated.
My daughter who is 4 years old, woke up first and shrieked with excitement, "Mommy, I love it!" she said, "Can I touch it?" She became my biggest fan. My son is 2 so he looked at me at smiled, and my husband,with a very big smile told me he loved it. So everything, that first day was great.
Everything was great until I left the house, and went out to "the real world". Wow, I never really knew how people can really be. Many people stared at me, like I was freak. I understand that a woman with a shaved head will turn some heads, but these looks weren't head turning, they were and felt more hateful. As if I had committed a terrible crime. As if I didn't belong there, or anywhere for that matter. It blew my mind, as how fast people would judge me, or write me off because I chose to shave my head. But I didn't let it get to me, after all, I did it for me, and to see what it was like.
It became clear to me, that if a man shaves his head, its no big deal, but when a woman shaves her head, it is considered taboo, and just frowned upon. We live in a society where we are judged for our actions, our looks, what we drive, what we wear, and our hair styles, among other things. Instead of getting to know people for who they are, as a society we tend to write people off quickly by simply judging the outside, and not getting to know the inside. We have always heard, Don't judge a book by its cover, or just because the wrapper is not shiny, doesn't mean the candy inside isn't delicious (ok, I made that one up, but you get my point)
It was a very interesting thing to do for me. It taught me a lot. I think as women, we should all at least shave our heads once in our lives, pushing our limits, to view the world differently, to learn, to feel our beauty and liberate ourselves from all the wasted time we spent battling with our hair. Remember, You are not your hair.