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Are You A Better Man For Wearing Women's Clothing?

Updated on January 24, 2010

Let's have a discussion! Discussion is good for the soul and the typing fingers. If you're a man who wears women's clothing, do you feel that you are better for it? Before we get started with the shouty comments downstairs, let's make it quite clear, I'm not asking if men who wear women's clothing are better than men who do not, nor am I attempting to imply such a thing. Last I checked, men who wear women's clothing have to put their pantyhose on one leg at a time, just like everybody else.

I do think though, that there is some scope for personal growth if you happen to be a man who wants to wear women's clothing. Many men who do wear lingerie and the like struggle with the concept for years, feeling guilty and confused about it before finally coming to accept it as simply being a quirky part of their nature and an avenue to greater enjoy life, rather than being something they need to worry about. Some men never reach that plane of acceptance, others find it almost immediately. The journey in reaching it however, whether it takes a week or a lifetime, has the capacity to teach a man a great deal about himself and about the world in general.

It's easy to get along in the world when your only real desire is to be 'normal' (though thanks to aspirational reality television shows, and Kim Kardashian's behind, normality is fast becoming a skewed concept attained only by spoiled 16 year olds who want rappers at their birthday parties, but I digress in a big way.) The point still stands, if you're a man who wants nothing more than to drive cars and has to be bribed to change his filthy cotton underpants, then you're much more easily accepted by all and sundry than if you're a man who wants to change his lingerie several times a day just so he can enjoy it all.

Being outside a norm often makes the norm more easy to see, and it makes the structure of society more easily observed. When you're in it, you're lost in a blur of acceptance. When you're outside it, it becomes patently clear how shallow and indeed, wrong, many of the motivations that drive the modern mob are. When you're outside, you see other people's prejudices clearly, and you have the chance to observe the same types of prejudices in yourself. (Or you have the opportunity to blindly set a new arbitrary standard and then rag on anyone who falls outside of your new, personally decided version of acceptable reality. It's a toss up.)

So men, what have you learned by being a man who likes to wear women's clothing?


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      8 years ago

      WOW great subject""

      I think I am a better person as a whole and do understand some of the problems of woman hood although not every thing.I don;t have periods.But I agree with what a the girls here have said.I do very much enjoy wearing women clothes and not at all inspired about mens clothes.I just love the look and feel of dresses and skirts.I all so love wearing bras and panties and lucky to have a little natural thing to put in my bra.I must say I like the feeling of a bra around my chest.I am the complete crossdresser so I love it all and like to go out.I can tell you I am much happier person dressed as a woman.I am very much more relaxed. combine that with my motorcycle and WOW.Well here to us girls who are willing to subject ourselves to a more complex life with the added burden of having to choose from all those lovely dresses and skirts and also preety undies.YOU ALL GO GIRLS.HAHAHAH.

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      8 years ago

      yes of course,i am much more open and tolerant of all the diveresty in world since i acepted myself for who i truly am:)

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      8 years ago

      Only in the sense that I am being true to myself. I also tend to feel as if I have conquered a fear or inhibition. I am a happier man, which in some ways makes me a better one.

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      8 years ago

      Whatever makes them happy I don't see the harm in it!

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      8 years ago

      I don't think I'm a "Better Man" for wearing women's clothing; rather, I believe I am a more "Complete" person. There is something liberating and exciting about slipping onto women's lingerie and getting dressed up in women's clothing. Personally, I have been wearing nothing but women's undergarments for 20+ years and have recently begun wearing uni-sex ladies outer clothing daily. Not only are there more options of dress, the choice of fabrics and fun styles / colors makes just getting dressed in the morning an adventure. People are too busy with their own lives to notice what I wear--nor would it make a difference to me if they did. So get out, dress and act like a lady and have fun|!

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      8 years ago from Texas

      I'm not sure about being a better man but I will say that I do finally feel I'm being the real me. After so many years of hiding who I really was, I feel completely free and happy now that I'm wearing women's clothing and choosing to be the real me. I get up in the morning and put on whatever I feel like wearing and I'm not afraid for the world to see it.

      Also, since wearing women's clothing I see how truly boring and mundane mens clothing is.

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      8 years ago

      I'm better for in that I'm expressing my desire and following my bliss - this I know.

      Am I better for it in that I'm a free spirit, not bound by collective societal restraints? Am I better for it because I'm expanding my horizons, walking in another woman's heels? Am I more interesting? Am I more adventurous? Am I more imaginative than your average man about town? Who knows, probably not.

      I'm certainly better for it by sharing my interest in lingerie with my wife - in part thanks to you. And I suppose you've made it better for me by moving the discussion - and indeed the words -- away from "cross dressing" and "fetish". When you write about men's attraction to lingerie it's about appreciation and joy. And when we can tap into these sentiments, surely we're better for it.

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      8 years ago

      I agree with Nanciboy and while I do so love wearing my sexy sheer panties, bra and other feminine attire, I think the thing I have learned most is the feminine perspective on all things from sharing secrets to fashion.

      My daughter and my wife's daughter have learned of and appreciate my feminine fashion sense so much that I am always called upon to help them select those special dresses, shoes and accessories for those special events. They have yet to ask about which style panties and bras should be worn under those clingy short ultra femme dresses, but when they do, I'll be more than happy to provide suggestions, but only suggestions, as I don't want to cross that perceived line of a lecherous old man.

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      8 years ago

      What have I learned by being a man who likes to wear women's clothing?. . . .

      Having worn a pair of tights today for the first time in several years, I know understand why it takes my sisters at work so long to go the the ladies room. :)

      Secondly, I now understand how one might start out the day in one outfit and as the weather warms up decide to change one piece. That then leads to changing other things to coordinate and then changing earrings and choosing a different purse.

      Being a woman is hard work. And trying to dress like one is not much less. ;)

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      8 years ago

      Hi Hope, I'm new to this site but have been a cross dresser since my very young days. What have I learned well.....luckily I have a reasonably accepting wife.....thank goodness!! although I would dearly love to dress every day I know that that would not be acceptable,however I can wear panties.So I suppose Compromise must be the main thing I've learnt. Also do not rush into buying fem.clothes choose your wardrobe carefully, you must not rush when buying pretty underwear etc. make sure it fits well then you will look good.


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