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Are You Too Stupid To Understand Why Men Wear Lingerie?

Updated on November 10, 2009

In spite of the fact that I've been writing these articles for a couple of years now, and in spite of the fact that if you, you know, actually read any of them, you'll get a good sense of what they are about, some people still come up with the most dense questions possible and still ask, after having read an article which explains why men wear lingerie, 'Why do men wear lingerie?' I imagine they do this with a cow like bewilderment, no doubt chewing their cud thoughtfully with the effort of trying to understand someone other than themselves.

I know who you people are. You are the people who would always put up their hands in class with stupid questions (and yes, there is such a thing as a stupid question, especially if you are substituting asking questions for actually figuring anything out for yourself,) that did nothing but take up the teacher's time. You were the ones for whom free thinking was too terrifying so you just learned everything by rote and then regurgitated it back. You are the ones so puzzled by and scared of the world that instead of celebrating the wonderful diversity in it, you have to divide everything neatly up into little boxes and you get mad at anyone or anything that defies your boxes.

So, one more time now.

Why do men wear lingerie?

They do it because they like it. Because it feels good. Because it is fun and enjoyable. They do it for the same reason that some men race cars and other men carve little wooden boats and other men read FHM, and for the same reason that some women read romance novels. They do it for the fun of escapism, to try to capture a reality that always seems just out of reach.

They do it because it brings them peace, brings them joy, and makes them happy. And there is nothing wrong with them doing it either.

If you feel like judging something, judge people who think that being paid to kill for a living is an honorable profession. Judge those who take bribes and live off the fat of the land whilst others starve. Judge people who neglect their children. Judge those who commit crimes of hatred. Don't waste your time and your energy judging men who are brave and bold enough to pursue harmless happiness. There are plenty of real things to get incensed and enraged about.

If, on the other hand, you just like to be stumped for no reason, don't be stumped on a simple question like 'Why do men wear bras?' Be stumped on a question worth answering. Why are we here? What provided the spark of life in the universe? What happens after we die? What is love? Is there a God? Can we travel through time? How do we end human suffering?

Engage your brain and open your heart and you'll find that many questions, including the question of why some men like to wear lingerie, answer themselves.


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      8 years ago

      Let us remember that in nature, it is the male who usually sports the flashy plumage or more interesting coat, stripes, coloration etc.. Why are human men any different? We can't fight the forces of nature! I truly beleive that ALL men want to wear silky, comfy things, some just aren't brave enough to do it and the men that are brave enough are the REAL men. Being yourself and doing what you feel is right takes courage, and those two things might slip by most men as they live their lives. I say wear your lingerie, paint your toe nails and be yourself!!

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      Sherman 8 years ago

      Excellent hub, Hope! I've enjoyed it several times and must tell you. Thanks for keeping the conversation alive.

      It's amazing how we let ourselves get sidetracked on basically trivial things. Why is it we would never ask a woman to defend why she chooses one brand of bra over another--as if she could or should give a technical or deeply philosophical reason. She would probably just say "Because it feels good." Is that not also good enough for a male who chooses a Vanity Fair hi-cut brief or Jockey no line bikini or Olga Secret Hug Fashion Scoop or Bali Lacy Skamp Brief or ...?

      I appreciate you encouraging this topic and look forward to responses from more Hub perusers.


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      Into Contrast 8 years ago

      This is a great article. You're awesome

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      Hope Alexander 8 years ago

      Hkimbrell , this isn't about being intolerant of people's opinions, it is about being intolerant of people's refusal to open their minds. I am staunchly intolerant of ignorance and hate, and that's never going to change. Thanks for your comment though :)

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      hkimbrell 8 years ago

      Hi! I'm new to hubpages and I stumbled upon your article because it appeared on my home page under fashion, I think. First I wanted to say kudos to you for standing up for what you believe in! To each his own, so to speak and what the hell should other people care about what kind of underwear somebody likes to wear? Nobody makes a big deal about it when a girl wears boxers...

      But I also wanted to add that in order to truly be an individualist and be open minded, you have to accept other people's opinions. By no reason do you have to agree with them but if you're going to take the time to call them judgmental just to turn around and make a judgment about them...well isn't that a bit hypocritical?

      I'm not trying to stir the pot or be a jerk. I'm just really into fairness and equality. I’m a lover not a fighter. :) But as I said earlier, to each his own. Very well done piece; you have an excellent way with words. I find your openness intriguing. Please don't undermind your good message of tolerance with intolerance. Hate only breeds more hate.

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      love pink panties 8 years ago

      Hi Hope: I'm new here but have been reading you're articles for the last few day's especially the one's about men wearing panties and the reasons why! i myself am one of those men that wears them then felt guilty and freakish and then threw them out! and as you said when the feeling or desire returned it was stronger them ever! so out I went to buy more! i do'nt even want to think about how much money was wasted! since reading these story's and articles I no longer feel bad toward's myself about this! since doing all this reading and understanding more about me I have decide to embrace this and am now wearing panties 27/7 and i feel alot better and even love the freedom I feel not worring about being ashamed! hope you are the best! I really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me!

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      Niqqi 8 years ago

      If someone would simply go to bed a few nights in a row wearing panties and a nightgown or slip like I do, they either wouldn't ask why anymore or they are just plain dumb. It seems like an either/or type of thing to me.

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      Hope Alexander 8 years ago

      I was not upset, and believe me, you are not the first, nor will you be the last to post an apparently obvious question. I did misunderstand the intent of your original question however, so for that I apologize.

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      David H 8 years ago from England

      I assume you wrote this post after my comment in a previous one.

      Apologies if I upset you, but I just wanted a sensible discussion.

      I have an open mind myself and do not judge others. It does annoy me when people get angry over someone's appearance (or choice of clothing).

      As to why men wear bras? Well for most men that start to wear panties, then go on to think well why not wear a matching bra to go with them.

      You will find this question on crossdressing forums.

      Sometimes emotions favour logic.

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      mike 8 years ago

      I agree totally with this and for some reason believe that if we stop worrying about which side of the store men shop from(and other issues that really aren't issues at all on an importance scale) and start trying to rid the world of stupidity, we might make some progress in life.

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      Hope Alexander 8 years ago

      No, the choir are responding with comments whilst the congregation lurk in silence, at least, I like to think so :)

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      oralbobert 8 years ago

      Great article,Hope, but I'm afraid you are preaching to the choir here.

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      Hope Alexander 8 years ago

      Thanks for commenting everyone :) I'm glad to see my rant went down well!

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      Gunnau 8 years ago from Central Coast NSW Australia

      This is like an old copy of MAD Magazine with Al Jaffee's Snappy Answers to Stupid Questions.

      I've been hooked for a lot of years on lingerie. Given the range of mens undies on the market ( not withstanding the Galaxy Report for Bonds into the wearing habits of men where undies are concerned)i feel more comfortable in lingerie and as ectomorphguy said, It makes us happy and we are not hurting anyone. If these dummies that ask these questions want an answer, i'll happily purchse some mens undies for the women and panties for the men to taste test and see if it changes they're attitude.

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      kelly 8 years ago

      Hope, you are one helluva good writer!

      I don't wear women's underware to look like a woman...I could never do that.

      I do it because there is a part of me that is soft and sensitive and feminine and when I wear those things, I free that part of my personality. I feel more gentle and loving...more complete as a human being

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      Deke 8 years ago

      Great good going HOPE, very nicely put.

      Thank you Hope

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      Komara 8 years ago

      Also because sometimes the local lingerie outlet has a 50% of sale. ;)

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      rd 8 years ago

      Hope, I Love You.

      (Not in a stalker sort of way, let's clear that up.)

      Although this hub really does not focus on men in lingerie, I think it is one of your best. It sounds like you just needed to get that off your chest. I agree that there ARE stupid questions. I have always been one that felt there is a major difference between ignorance and stupidity. I try to help the ignorant because ignorance is simply a lack of knowledge and can be corrected with teaching. Stupidity, on the other hand, is simply an unwillingness or inability to learn and is something for which I have very little patience. And now that you have relieved your stress and put the repeatedly asked question behind you, let's all go enjoy our panties...just for the fun of it! :)

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      ectomorphguy 8 years ago

      Exactly right...I (we) wear lingerie because we absolutely like it. Love it, in fact. It feels great, it looks great (on me it does...I can't speak for the rest of the world's crosdressers)and it makes me happy. And I'm not hurting anyone. So there.