Before You Throw All Your Lingerie Away...
So you're thinking about throwing all your lingerie out. You don't need it and you shouldn't be wearing it. At least, that's what you think. This may be the first time you have bought lingerie and thrown it out, this may be the 50th time you've been through the cycle of lingerie binge and purge. Before you quite literally toss your hard earned money out the door, read this and see if you can't save yourself a little money and sanity.
Purging and Buying Is Cyclical Behavior
If you do it once, you will probably do it again. There are plenty of men who routinely waste large amounts of money at first resisting, then giving into buying lingerie only to get rid of it again. If you're thinking about throwing away your lingerie, you're really thinking about trying to get rid of a part of yourself that you've temporarily convinced yourself that you can somehow suppress. You can't suppress it simply by denying yourself lingerie. That's not how it works. The problem isn't with the lingerie, it is with your inability to accept yourself and what you want in your life. I do believe that it is possible to stop wearing lingerie if you really want to, but you won't be able to do it just by tossing the lingerie away. As you already know, there is always new lingerie to buy tomorrow.
It's About You, Not Your Lingerie
It is okay to like lingerie and to enjoy wearing it. It is. It is more common than you think for men to enjoy wearing high quality lingerie. Aside from any feminine aspects, it simply looks and feels a great deal better than the so called lingerie made for men which usually is simply code for some silk boxers that will ride up uncomfortably under your pants.
If you have trouble with accepting yourself wearing lingerie, its more than likely that you're really having some trouble accepting a softer, more feminine part of yourself. Male or female, we are all creatures of duality. As I have quoted before, Susan Sontag once said, 'What is the most beautiful in virile men is something feminine; what is most beautiful in feminine women is something masculine.' She was right.
Scientists discovered in 1998 that women actually prefer men who have slightly feminine features. Think Leonardo DiCaprio, for instance. I will no doubt write on this more at a later date, but in the mean time, I leave you with the New York Times article on the subject.
''Our team has been working on this study for four years,'' said Ian Penton-Voak of the University of St. Andrews in Fife, Scotland. ''When it was found early on that there was a preference for feminized male faces, nobody believed it, so we did it again, and again. The preference for a feminized face keeps coming up.''
Keep your lingerie in the drawer. Embracing the feminine may be the most masculine thing you ever do.