Men, It's Not A Big Deal If You Wear A Dress

So we're back here again, in a situation where I've written something which tells men who wear women's clothing to stop hiding mutely in dark corners and a few men reply to me telling me I don't understand how horrible it is to be a man who wears women's clothing and how their family's lives would be ruined by the public revelation.

To be blunt, get over yourselves. Men who wear women's clothes in public comment here all the time. If you go through the related articles, especially the ones about men wearing skirts, you'll see that there are numerous men who wear skirts as part of their daily attire. Overwhelmingly, most of them report that the people around them are supportive and friendly about it.

I understand fear of exposure, especially if you're really still somewhat ashamed and judging yourself for wearing women's clothing, but don't lead yourself to believe that your fears are based on reality, because in all likelihood, nobody cares that you want to wear women's clothing. A few idiots may laugh about it for a little bit, but these are the same idiots who would laugh at you no matter what you do.

The community of men who wear women's clothing is among the best I have seen at making excuses for itself. Seriously. Many men who wear dresses and skirts in private honestly think that their businesses, livelihoods and families will be destroyed if they wear women's clothing out in public. The notion that there might be a halfway point, a way that they can begin to incorporate women's attire into their normal male dress is beyond them. They wear heels and dresses at home and they skulk about in society, resenting the fact that they're not 'allowed' to wear women's clothing when the only people stopping them are themselves.

People are beginning to accept that men like to wear feminine things too. There are numerous articles popping up in the mainstream news about hose for men and skirts for men are all over the catwalks. It's now easier to wear women's clothing than ever before. If you don't want to go out in 'full dress' you can always wear a few choice items. Or you can resign yourself to being a closeted freak, hiding out in your house and dying slowly of the self imposed shame that you seem to relish.

If you live in some redneck backwater where you know for certain people would not accept you wearing a dress or any form of women's clothing, how about making plans to move? How about not supporting a status quo that represses you as a person and actually helping it to stay in place by meekly bowing down to it every day of your life until you eventually expire of misery and boredom?

It's a big world out there, and most people are far too busy worrying about their own affairs to worry about what you're doing. But, as Richard Bach once wrote, “Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they're yours.”