What Is Elegance to the Woman of Today
If we take a look at elegance in the olden days, we would not wish things could be more like they once were. Learning about ourselves these days by stretching in the direction of goodness, of bigness, of kindness, of patience, of forgiveness, of bravery, and of delicateness in our choices - already marks an essence of elegance.
What makes us uncertain is the influence on the sense of fashion and social pressure. If we take few simple cues from the old-fashioned ways and incorporate those details that fit one's interests, it can enrich one's everyday life.
Webster defines elegance as refined grace, dignified propriety, or a quality of neatness. The word "elegance" is French (élégance) which means correct, harmonious, and tasteful.
Somehow, we tend to label something other than fashion or people as elegant, rather than a virtue that focuses on what is good. When we pay attention to what is refined, it develops an honest-to-goodness self-knowledge and discipline. It is from this simple truth that elegance is close to each one of us.
Sophisticated Yet Enchantingly Simple
To dress elegant is to make a sense that makes an individual feel bursting with delight for oneself and others. It is certainly not a matter of showing off one's finery; many of us don't even have fine clothes. Dressing with elegance is a simple matter of showing respect through subtlety and simplicity.
A truly stylish woman may sift through the trends but she is certain that style is more important than fashion. Being elegant is not about brands but rather about items that flatter the figure. It is about imagination that represents understated glamour, of being selective, exquisite, and delicately tasteful.
Everybody can look elegant in inexpensive clothes... even the rich buy them too. As Coco Chanel once said, "Elegance does not consist in putting on a new dress."
Poised and Approachable
Poise is not something that one can demand of us, nor it is for the purpose of appearing elegant. It must be our choice. It is an attribute that comes from deep within and transcending into our actions -- unafraid to stand alone, or stand out in a crowd.
A touch of shyness carries elegance. Many shy women gracefully manage to carry themselves in many situations. The neatness, modest and pleasant disposition they execute combine ease and grace that they are able to look at any social scene calmly.
Poise and confidence arising from within exudes attitude that does not act in a way that is snobby, haughty or arrogant.
Trying to be the best we can be through good posture is not being rigid, or to get the finest "stiff neck" there is, rather it promotes refined form and execution. It's just that difficult to control the body when poise is not genuine. This is a strong asset of elegance that explains why poise should be natural. .
We like people who looked so poised yet easy to meet or converse with. They give an aura of confidence that is so contagious. There is nothing poised about being perceived as mean and unapproachable. When we begin to be comfortable with who we are, no matter our social background, education, finances, and looks, we get beyond the need to impress anyone.
I like this quote - "You could not be truer than what your thoughts reflect who you are as a person. A man or a woman is but the product of their thoughts. What they think, they become."
Politeness or being courteous is more influential than what we say. It projects refined manners that make people feel comfortable. This is inline with the old adage - " It is not what you say, it is how you say it."
The grace and charm of good manners are the mark of a true feminine woman. When she says Thank you and You're welcome, Excuse me, I Beg Your Pardon, Please, or I'm sorry (when she hurts someone or make a mistake) are words of a good heart that sure pleases.
Manners are not merely conventional rules, but are founded upon reason and good sense.
Dressing accordingly for events shows etiquette. Thanking the bank teller and the bagger at the grocery store demonstrates a pleasant behavior. Not talking when the mouth is full is good manners. Even talking on the phone with manners wins goodwill.
Good manners are so rare these days that people become very delighted when treated so well. When we have pleasing manners, we nurture those around us. For beauty is not confined to skin, hair, and eyes. It can be caught in a graceful movement and a soft voice.
There are many points of good-breeding which neither time nor place will ever change. Applying discipline to our thoughts teaches on refinement. It develops the art of patience.
One famous thoughts from Brian Adams - Impatience breeds anxiety, fear, discouragement and failure. Patience creates confidence, decisiveness, and a rational outlook, which eventually leads to success.
Elegance resides in the attitude.
It is one that is not fast to point out the mistakes or flaws of others, rather it deals with situations gracefully that there is no reason to outwardly show anger. A forgiving spirit is a prudent character.
While elegance can make a strong impression, it does not enter the race of glamour to impress people. It refuses the approach on image over essence.
True elegance speaks by displaying effortless beauty presenting that which is quiet, steady, and genuine. Therefore, despite the artificiality of the world today, elegance is still concerned with the quality of being honest, and not pretense.
A prudent woman is free to choose the finer things in life, but she is not the sort that spends money for high life, rather, on what is good for her and others. This is a kindly nature that indicates she is a happy person.
When was the last time you did an unexpected act of kindness?
Living a Refined Life
It is refreshing to know that many of us still value the beauty of living simply, but well.
Cherishing life's simple pleasures is spontaneity of a beautiful quality. We want only quality in everything we possess. Our being unafraid to soar styles and experiences and then setting out to make it, brings a sense of optimism that shows fine taste.
We are not interested in achieving the most expensive lifestyle, nor put other people at an envy. We are interested in the small things that bring goodness in life. We are interested in what can make us feel special.
It could sound glamorous, but there's only one thing to it -- thriving a lovely life in the manner we can afford proves elegance in each one of us.
Can We Achieve Elegance?
Elegance is not a matter of superior intelligence, nor an art of lavishness. It is grace in style that is not overpowering. That which is cultured, discerning, established, dignified, understated, and welcoming, means elegance. This explains why it is so rare, and yet so desirable.
Elegance comes naturally when your attitude is correct. Beautiful... quiet... spontaneous... and unforgettable... is what you become when you possess a touch of it.
I'm leaving you my own quote: Elegance is not the prerogative to impress others, but of being an inspiration of beauty to all.
Cheers to the many elegant women around the world! :=)