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How To Discretely Buy Lingerie
This question comes from a reader, who asks:
Hope, I am a 25 year old man who enjoys wearing lingerie and panties under my clothes. I can't order things online as I am currently living with two college buddies who are often going through my mail. I prefer the line of lingerie and panties at Victoria's secret but I also want to try the items on before I purchase them. Any advice or comments would be greatly appreciated.
This is a great question, and no doubt one that is relevant to many men who wear lingerie. First of all, let me say that depending on what kind of lingerie you are buying, trying the lingerie on shouldn't really be necessary. Panties, in particular, don't need to be tried on as long as you know what your size is.
Bras are a different kettle of fish, because not only do bras require a more precise fit than panties, bra manufacturers often make bras to wildly different standards, so much so that a 32 A in one brand may very well be a 30 B in another. Reading through my correspondence and many of the comments however, many men say that they have had no trouble trying on bras in department stores and even in Victoria's Secret. Though it might take some courage to ask a sales assistant, reports indicate that most of them are helpful. It's very difficult, if not impossible to be discrete if you want to try lingerie on before you buy however.
Possibly the biggest favor you can do yourself is knowing your measurements. Measure across your chest and under where the bra sits. Know what your dress size is. This can be quite easily worked out using sizing charts available widely online. If you know your measurements and your dress size, shopping for lingerie becomes a great deal easier on and offline.
Regarding not wanting to shop for lingerie online, I would advise that you tell your flatmates to GTFO of your mail, or alternatively, arrange for your lingerie to be sent somewhere else. Your place of work is not a bad place to receive lingerie, even if prying eyes do get wind of what is inside, you can always claim that it is for a girlfriend, in fact, most people will simply assume that without even asking you.
At the end of the day, it is possible to be discrete whilst purchasing lingerie, but it is also not a crime and not something you should feel too compelled to hide. Most people won't ask why you're buying lingerie, and of those that do, you can chose to tell them the truth (many of the men who read and comment here seem to take a particular glee in doing so,) or you can simply tell them it is for a partner.
Enjoy your lingerie and enjoy your life, don't worry too much about what other people think. Odds are that the salesgirl looking at you funny is more worried about how fat she looks in her sales pants or how messy her hair is than what you're buying and who you're buying it for.