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How To Have Fun With A Man Wearing Lingerie

Updated on November 13, 2010

This one is for the ladies, especially those ones who have found themselves with a man who wears lingerie, but who didn't really plan things going that way. As I have said in other articles, the first time I found out about a man I was with wearing lingerie I hadn't even thought about it before, it was well and truly completely off my radar.

Over time I came to quite enjoy it though, and I think that if a woman is prepared to accept the man she's with for who he is, and not try to make him into her fantasy male stereotype, then there is a good chance that she can actually enjoy her boyfriend or husband wearing lingerie too.

Certainly wearing lingerie didn't change anything with the first man in lingerie I was with, he didn't start wearing dresses, or start chasing men at work. He was one of the most heterosexual men I have known, but he deeply enjoyed wearing women's lingerie, and out of a desire not to try to stifle the living heck out of the guy, I was more than happy for him to wear lingerie as much and as often as he wanted.

You may not feel the same way of course, and its fine if you don't. But if you do want to give the guy and his panties a chance, why not check out these ways that you can have fun with him wearing lingerie as well.

Public Lingerie Fun

Men who wear lingerie, especially the ones who do so because of the taboo, the thrill seeking men in lingerie, love wearing lingerie in public. For many of them it is a huge thrill to go out in a bra, knowing that there is a possibility that at some point the shirt might pull tight over their back and somebody might realize that they are wearing a bra.

Others like to get a little more risky with it, perhaps wearing a camisole under a shirt with the top button or two undone, not enough to give the world a show, but enough to peek out from under the corners of the shirt and make a few people do a double take.

This is something you can enjoy with your guy too, especially if you're comfortable with it. It's a huge amount of fun to see other people's facial expressions when they notice or suspect that something is awry.

Slip n Slide

If he's not wearing camisoles yet, get him some. Seriously. A camisole is a great gift for you both because it turns his torso into a smooth slippery surface that is sensual and fun as well. You might be surprised at how good it feels under your fingertips, and you might even learn a little something about why some men like women in silky lingerie.

Play Dress Ups

Just because you're a grown up, it doesn't mean that you can't play dress ups. Women love to dress their men, just look at any men's clothing store on any weekend and you'll see that half or more of the customers in there are actually women, sometimes trailing a guy, sometimes not. There's no reason why you should limit your desire to dress to his outer wear, have fun setting out lingerie combinations for him to wear. He's likely to really enjoy you taking an active interest.

A Final Word...

Finally, just a note for women who are with men who like to wear lingerie. These ideas might seem silly, or even superfluous. What difference does it make whether you acknowledge his lingerie or not? To you perhaps not a lot, but to him, it may mean the world. Many men who like to wear lingerie struggle with it for years, sometimes feeling ashamed and embarrassed, and quite often feeling scared that they won't be accepted or loved by a woman because of it. Showing him that you accept that part of him can be a huge weight off his shoulders, and you may find that other areas of your relationship improve because of it. Nobody likes keeping secrets from their partner, or hiding parts of themselves. Even if him wearing lingerie might seem strange or weird to start off with, at the end of the day, they're just little scraps of material. That's it. They don't change who he is as a person, or as a man.

Feel free to comment, just for the love of all that is good, please keep it clean and G rated, otherwise I have to delete your comments, and I hate doing that.


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      Dawn 7 years ago

      I recently caught my husband wearing bras and panties. Which was a huge relief to me because I thought he was cheating after i found a set in his car. He was thrilled that I accepted it, Really, I couldn't care less, all I ask of him is to be honest with me and not hide anything in our lives from each other. Since his "confession" he's even bought a set of those fake boobs for chicks and he wears them once in a while too. I support and love him no matter what, I was just glad to finally know the truth. Glad to see I'm not alone in the world of husband's wearing cuter bras and panties than

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      Cory Smith 8 years ago

      Another thing that is fun for men who enjoy wearing lingerie with their mate is sharing lingerie. One of the most exciting things about having your girlfriend open to you wearing lingerie is grabbing your under things from the same drawer.

      It is extremely thrilling knowing I am wearing to bed what she did only a few days before.

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      Patrick 8 years ago

      Hi Thanks for writing this. I have been wearing panties on and off for 50 years and used to hide it, I would suppress the desire and feel guilty about that part of me. when I was 50 I decided that I must deal with all my fears and explained to my wife that I did not want to suppress that part of me any more. She was fine with it and I now wear panties 24 / 7. My wife buys panties for me but I also buy my own and have no problem with it. I am much happier than before. I don't know or care why I love wearing panties but I do. My wife would be concerned if other people got to know that I wear panties, but I really am not that bothered if others were to find out. I accept me and that means all of me. I am a loving and caring heterosexual man with no gay desires. My loving wife and soul mate accepts me as I am and I am so grateful to her. Why did it take me so long accept myself when she did it in a few minutes! I feel that a sizable percentage of males wear panties regularly or at least have worn them at some time. If it feels good and does not hurt anyone why not do it and enjoy it. Lets bring it more out in the open, but hopefully in a way that does not make other people uncomfortable. If a man in panties gives people a smile or a giggle that is fine by me. Patrick

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      threesweds 9 years ago

      I love to wear lingerie and let it show just a little, be it bra straps or lace from the panties. I really enjoy the remarks and giggles from women. Sometimes I'll wear print panties under thin white womens slacks, just to get reactions.

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      charlie 9 years ago

      I love to wear girgles of all kinds .my wife dosnt like it but i do. she dosnt say much until i leave them laying around for her to see.she knows i have them.

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      lingerielover 9 years ago

      I can understand what likewhatiam wrote. I wear lingerie as well as shapewear every day under my mens clothes. And I love the thrill wearing a bra. Covered with a dark or coloured shirt it is fun to show some projection. At first I was afraid very much. Now I enjoy the irritated stare you sometimes get from a woman.

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      likewhatiam 9 years ago

      I love my panties and wear them everyday, I don't posess any mens underwear even wear them to the doctor.I dress fully female under my mens clothes and people don't notice because they are not expecting a man to be wearing lingerie.Just love it and don't think I can ever go back to wearing mens boring tighty whities.keep up the great hub.

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      nylon panties 9 years ago

      I wear panties 24/7. I ride a motorcycle and quite often while waiting for the light to change, gals will pull up and start to tell me how much they like the bike. While sitting there talking with them, I some times think, " I am probably wearing panties sexier than they are wearing themselve's. I wonder what they would think of me if they knew that?"Fortunately, I seldom ever give it any thought because I have been wearing them for so many years.

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      Nanciboy 9 years ago

      Oh my, I so like to wear a nice cami with lace at the neckline under a shirt with a button or two undone. Of course, mine are women's shirts with the buttons on the 'wrong' side. :)

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      EDWARD SCHAP 9 years ago


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      gary 9 years ago

      Fortunately I have a lady that helps me out with the femine things to do and wear...We have loads of fun with the idea...and she becomes very dominant when I do wear panties and such...not in a mean way but in a very direct way...and when she dresses me up she also dresses up and that's a big wow for all makes me smile anyway ...have fun and relax might get the caressing you like...

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      mtaathw 9 years ago

      spot on ! My wife left me not that long ago because of my love for waring bras and pantys. If I had this a few years ago it might not have happened

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      Gregorythompson 9 years ago from Illinois

      Interesting :) I still like my girlfriend wearing all the lingerie though.

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      Dave 9 years ago

      You are truly the best! Thank you for writing this. I'm going to keep this article for future use with any woman I may become intimately involved with. You hit the nail on the head. If a woman would accept me for me and have some fun with it, there wouldn't be anything I wouldn't do for her!