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How to Be Confident and Show Confidence with and by Displaying Body Language!

Updated on October 28, 2015
Use your body language to show your confidence.
Use your body language to show your confidence.

What is Confidence?

Confidence is a strong, positive character strait that you possess inside, within yourself, that communicates from within to the outside world that you got it going on! In other words, you are sure of yourself, your talent and your abilities.

Confidence has different meanings for different people. For example, one may equate confidence to someone's personality, or the knowledgeable manner in which one speaks, or simply how one walks -- tall with his or her head held high.

As you can see, the specific definition of confidence varies; however, I think you can agree with me that having confidence is a trait we all want to have and display. Confidence is included at the top of the list of the most desirable, positive character traits, such as honesty, integrity, trustworthy, genuine, caring, and so many others.

Show Your Confidence Through Body Language

Confidence can be shown from a body language perspective. I will talk to you about how you can exhibit confidence, even among strangers, without saying nary a word.

Let's start by taking a look at the picture above of Larry King's dinner guests on a show that aired a while back.

You may think upon looking at the picture that, well, they are only eating dinner. But I beg to differ. This is not just a dinner! All of the people shown are at this dinner to boost their public relations in their chosen fields -- mostly the entertainment industry.

If I were a talent scout and was looking for someone to host a television show, unfortunately, based on this picture, I would not pick any of the women. And believe it or not, some careers are started with just a simple picture, introduction, or even a television appearance. It's all about getting your face (confidently) out there!

Who looks the Most Confident?

From looking at the picture above, which guests would you say are the most confident, or look to be the most confident? Odds are that you will choose the three gentlemen who have their arms, even their elbows on the table. None of the women would be selected, mainly because they have their hands probably placed demurely in their laps!

Try to picture Tyra Banks with her hands on the table in front of her. Just that simple gesture, and letting her hand, or hands stay on the table for awhile, would put her in the category of being perceived as the most confident guest at the table. And remember -- perception is reality!

I know it's proper etiquette to not place your elbows on the table, but it's ok to place your hands on the table in front of you, as a show of confidence -- if nothing more.

Let's take another look at the picture of the group standing up. Interesting enough, there is no change. The women are pushed to the background, and the men are all standing straight, tall, full in front of the camera. I see that Tyra Banks is edging her way in, but she has merely a side view. I do applaud her for not being in the back like the other female, even though she is probably taller than most of the men there -- except for Conan O'Brien and Shaquille O'Neal.

Regardless of your personality, whether your are coy, shy, or prefer to be in the background -- Remember you are not showing confidence by letting yourself be portrayed in this manner.

Here are some pointers that will help boost your confidence:

1. "Fake it until you make it" -- Eventually you will find out you were not faking anything at all!

2. Own your space at the table -- Put your hands on the table, lean forward. Enjoy the space that is yours with your complete body! Ladies -- No hands placed demurely in your laps!

3. Stand tall -- Front and Center! Do not relegate yourself to be on the outside looking in. You are just as important as the others -- and deserve a full frontal picture of yourself.

4. Keep your held held high! -- Avoid walking with your head down! What on earth are you looking for on the ground? Did you lose something? Well in a way you did. You lost your look of confidence when you walk as if you are defeated and is carrying the whole world on your shoulders! This mannerism is the complete opposite of confidence!

Are you really feeling unsure of yourself, and is not in the best of moods? Then read number 1 from the list above!

Got it?

Now smile for the camera! I can see your confidence shining through already!

Confident Body Language Tutorial


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      ladyhowto4u 5 years ago


      Thanks for your comment and for voting up!


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      Mary 5 years ago from From the land of Chocolate Chips,and all other things sweet.

      Great hub voted up.

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      gchicnotes 5 years ago

      You are very welcome. :)

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      ladyhowto4u 5 years ago


      Thanks for your comments!


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      Paul Cronin 5 years ago from Winnipeg

      Haha, the one guy looks like he's praying - "Pick Me, pick me". kidding aside I can see your point, anyone I have ever known that has risen to the top fast is someone who has confidence and show it

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      ladyhowto4u 5 years ago


      Thanks for your comments, and for voting up and useful!


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      gchicnotes 5 years ago

      Wonderful article. Confidence gets you far in life and I love your tips and how you related them back to the picture for visual learners. Keep up the great work. Voted up and useful!